The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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yay! i dub myself cake-baby.

I AM CAKE BABY!! !

Oh Gads!! Not today too. *sigh* SwampBlossom might not be able to join for a few weeks, her fingers will need time to heal.

Justifiable grievous bodily harm? You might have a chance to persuade a judge, but you would have to explain the provocation. Are you sure you want to do that?

Welcome, new person... I think you'll like it here!!

LOL... I haven't seen Postie this in a long time. He's such a cutie when he blushes. I just thought I would let you all get to know me a little better. No, I'm not an Aspie. While I have several other ailments, mosty related to autoimmune diseases, Aspie isn't one of them. However, that being said I am supportive of the Aspie community, and one in particular, and want to learn as much as I can about it so I have a better understanding of my other half.
So, a little about me. I am twice married, four children, fourteen grandchildren, one great grandson. Family is very important to me. Went to college late in life, got my degree in Anthropology and began a career as a contract Archaeologist where I met Postie. An injury put an end to that career so I am now a housefrau once again and having a good time catching up on my reading and all the crafts I love. That includes mosty needle work like knitting, crocheting and counted cross stitch. I love learning new things and am currently teaching myself to quilt and use a Knitting Jenny. Oh, and I'm a political junkie. I'm very passionate about many political issues, and yes, I'm one of those Bleeding Heart Liberals that seens to be a really, really bad thing these days I have been studying Buddhism for several years and I guess if you would have to put a religious label on me that would be it.
Well, enough about me. I am looking forward to getting to know you. Sometimes I feel that I already know you because Postie speaks so fondly of many of you.

Just so postpaleo doesn't feel picked on...

1) In and around Dursley (near Bristol), I am known as "Lolla". Christened thus by by the children of my friend of 47 years. Nothing too surprising there.

2) In and around Sevenoaks (S.E. of London), I am known as "Beany". Christened thus by the child of the neighbour of other friends. We never found out why. She was going through a phase of giving everyone nicknames. All the rest had clear reasons behind them. I can't imagine what earned me my soubriquet.

I have other names.

Hello SwampBlossom. It is so nice to meet you! It lifts my heart to know of relationships that really work... especially when AS is part of the picture. I find the "SwampBlossom and Postie Story" utterly charming.

Naw I don't.
I have had many as well, some not so pleasant.
In school I was dubbed, Kittie by a young lady, because of my fondness for cat's.
That got switched around by some not so pleasant people to Pussie. They got my undivided attention later in life. I ain't out for sainthood.
Ally, I never exactly knew what it signified, it more then likely was just a play off my first name, Alan. It was an endearment and not malicious. But I did haunt the back allys of the city, I have never liked main roads. That was my hippy days handle.
In the Army my nickname was Pack Rat. They marveled that one could have so many shineys in the confined space of a spartan military life.
I've had others as well, but those were mostly spur of the moment terms that would be incomprehensable by the word censor here. I answer to most anything.


SwampBlossom is being overly modest about herself. We have already had to come to an agreement of sorts. Her purpose on WP is her's, that's a given. That I can be overprotective is also a given, but will do my best to not go into that mode. I don't worry here in the Cafe, but I do in other parts of WP. I will try my darnedest not to remove brains play with then and put them back in, backwards. And then grin when they start pulling their fingers off one at a time and not understand why. Pray for others health if someone blasts her and I slide in all pleasant like into the conversation. They won't see it coming and I do not take prisoners. Yeah that's a threat, but as she reminds me, she's a big girl and can take care of herself. She has questions that I can't answer well about myself. That living with me isn't easy and wonders how others have dealt with it. To perhaps get an insight to what goes on inside, from another point of view. There is no one place for those not on the spectrum to gather, nor should there be for several reasons, as I see it. There is a spot for some in the parents section, but a kid I'm not, in the real sense of the word. (maybe in the real sense of the word too)

Some day, much to her chagrin, I'll do a little 50 things you didn't know about her. Hey!! She did say she was a big girl and could take care of herself AND I can attack her, it may not be in the WP rules but it's in the marriage contract. Love, honor, thou shalt have a sense of humor when chided by thou spouse, make his coffee for him, don't get bent out of shape when it takes him 4 days to burn the paper trash, pretend to listen when he is boring you to tears and OBEY!! (The dork really said it, I almost dropped my gum and I thought the best lady was going to strangle him on the spot. We did have to fan my Mother back to life and I do think I heard a giggle out of my Father. My best man kind of smirked but I suspect he didn't really hear it at all, drugs will do that to people.)

SwampBlossom (Andria)
Dropped out of high school and got married at 16. Raised a family.
Went back and got her GED (high school diploma) at age 42.
She has a degree with honors in Anthropology.
She is one 300 level course short of having a degree in History with honors.
There is a lot more, but like I said, maybe someday.

I have a couple of similar issues that I have been working on for... well, most of my life. I don't mean to be discouraging, but I've found it nigh on impossible to make any significant changes in the circuitry. At worst, I suppose, you'll overload yourself and have to go take a nap or run around in the woods...

On the positive side, there are plenty of workarounds if you get creative about it. In my opinion, medication can be an excellent workaround. As noted in this thread, part of the problem with meds is wresting control of the prescription pad from the medical establishment. Of course, knowledge is power, and with your background in pharmaceuticals I would bet that you can walk away from this particular shrink and find one who WILL listen.

oooh, i'm shakin in my sandals over that, postie.

something else to consider. if one is hypothetically really cut off from one's feelings, having stashed them away behind thick walls for safe keeping for years and years, and one begins to start to get in touch with them a little... one can have a look on one's face or a tone in one's voice that one doesn't even notice, the look and the tone actually being reflective of the appropriate feeling in a situation, though one is so used to ignoring them that they aren't aware of their presence. when others are.

still sounds like a new doctor is called for. if not pharms, tackling smaller parts of the whole might keep one from slamming into the wall too hard.

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I'd say my most memorable nick names have been 'fortune cookie' and 'underfoot'.

nicknames? hmm. as a kid: "hey kid" "stringbean" "brainiac" "stretch" "einstein" "twerp"

when i taught school the kids called me "miz d" as they could never pronounce my name. i guess that would count, sorta.

WOOHOOO!! I got it working!! And if I'd been using my brain I would have asked Postie and Lau for help! And be warned that in the future, I may have to. Mah computer learnin' ain't so good!!

Nicknames? I was Muffin up until about a 6 months ago, won't write what it switched to. Have also been known as "Motor Mouth", "Chippy Cheeks", "Sweet Cheeks" and my favorite "Sister Mary Sunshine" ! And numerous others, I'm sure!

Hartz, It's great to have someone to go through the transition with!! My friend that lent me the laptop is also undergoing a major mid-life transformation involving a divorce but her answer has been to go "hunting" at the bar every weekend. I personally can't see wanting to deal with anymore men at the moment. I'd much rather do what we're doing! Way to go, my friend!!

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How fast do I have to be able to run if I call you "miz D"?? Sounds like a great Wangster name!! !

I'm also in there w/ you both Hartz and Blessedmom. He still wants us to be together (so he can use me finiancally) but it'll NEVER happen. I'm SO much happier now. Have finally got it thru my thick head, that I do better alone, w/ just my kids.
My mom used to call me (don't laugh) "Winky". she said when I was little I would wink at everyone. I miss hearing it now that shes dead. Makes me tear up a little just typing it and hearing her say it in my mind.