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hi everybody....been checking out WP for a while now and decided its time i introduced myself...
I'm a stay at home mum (yes-FULL TIME WORKER) of a 7 1/2 girl aspy and 3 year old non verball (at this stage) aspy boy. More than likely both me and my hubby r too!! !! Ironic!! KIDS diagnosed... US just presummed!! My hubby works away during the week so make that a part time wife too... My main concerns in our family is my daughter...she gets "pushed to the side" and labelled shy...BUT she isn't... Any ideas to bost her confidence would be MOST appreciated... She is just starting (in grade 2) to realize she is different to the other kids and it hurts me as o mothr soooo much (especially when i went through the same)..
ANY HELP, SUGGESTIONS, ANYTHING WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED...
Thanks for listening to my SPAT...
Better go b4 i really get going!! !! !!

Welcome to WP!

Something that you might want to do to get her to be a little more outgoing is get her into an acting class for kids. We started this with our 11 year old, and it has really helped a lot.

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

Kris

what worked for me at the age of 7 was i started to go horse riding. obviously this is dependant on having money available for such an activity, but it really does boost confidence by learning a new skill. also i found i could interact with the ponies much better than i could with people & so i had new "friends". also i met human friends through horse riding who had the same interest as me & so would listen to me talking about my new obsession for hours on end, & one of the first people i met who is NT is still my closest friend now 13 years later.
word of warning though, horse riding did become a rapid obsession with me & fortunatly my parents where able to afford the costs it brought & i was even able to have my own pony from age 10 to 18. there are cheaper ways of doing it through just having lessons, but i suggest you look into the cost of it before introducing the idea to your daughter if you think she would be interested as if she becomes obsessed in a way many AS & NTs alike do, it may be difficult to call it off at a later stage!

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Nice to meet you, mumoftwoaspys.

I'm Jerry.

Well one idea which is working for me is doing a martial art. I have been involve in Kendo for about 10 months and I like it very much. I was shy at first but due to the screaming portion of Kendo, I'm no longer shy.

(The screaming or strong voice is a must to be good in Kendo)

Welcome mumoftwoaspys,

There is a worldwide collection in the Kids' Crater, given their own world and peer group they think it was about time.

Like the rest of us, they seem perfectly normal online. They are not quite normal, they are polite, intelligent, outgoing, nothing like kids in real life. Having a support group works for all ages, and the price is right.

Not being the only one, belonging to an exclusive club, and they do have a way of reaching each other.

I hear the socialization carries over. Once they get started, the rest is child's play.

Welcome here, mumoftwoaspys, from a mumofoneaspy who is one herself as well.

Hi

welcome to you and family
I bonded with animals when younger. Everyone thought my raven 'Dawn' was an imaginary friend and I have no imagination. Got caught feeding a wild bird almost as tall as me (and hopping over me). I still don't beleive the bird would have harmed me. More than I can say about many humans. Wonder about getting a service dog.
http://www.northstardogs.com/autism.shtml

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Hi MO2A! You have to get to know Smelena and Siuan; both of them have Aspie families as well! Among several others here!

Hello! It's good to have another parent join us.

I am the mom of 4 kids, 3 are Aspies and the other one could be, if he wasn't so social. I've got 3 boys, Kid#1 is 16, male with AS. Kid #2 is the social, eccentric athletic one. And he's a boy,too as is Kid#3, a 13 yr. old with AS. My 7 year old daughter (she's also in gr.2) has AS but I have yet to find anyone around here who will diagnose her. Tony Attwood's description of a girl with AS suits her to a "T". And she is just like me. I have had my sons therapist suggest I be assessed as well.

My daughter is also at the age where she is starting to notice that she is different and that our family is different. She knows that her brothers have AS and that I have inattentive ADHD so she tells people she does, too. (She has been diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD). So far, she seems to be holding her own at school so I have no immediate worries but I do wonder how life will be for her when she gets in the older grades and middle school.

I'm glad you found us here. I have found support here that I have not found anywhere else. Enjoy!

Welcome. Secrecond grade can be tough. Let your daughter know how much you love her and give her the support she needs. You can try working with the school if things get bad or you don't feel they're giving her the attention she deserves. In psychology they say that a good way to boost someones confidence and self-esteem is to promote the abilities of that person. If she has any interests or talents you could work on cultivating them. (If she likes dance enroll her in dance classes, if she likes to draw art classes, camping scouts, stuff like that).