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My son Dylan was diagnosed just 2 days ago. He is almost 15.

I just wanted to say Hello and that I am looking forward to learning from all of you, aspies and parents. It feels really great to FINALLY see that Dylan is not alone in his behavior, his quirks, his personality. He is so darned COOL and SHARP! These past few years have been such a struggle for all of us, but now more than ever I understand what he may have been going thru,

I want him to come in here and inmerse himself in the information you all provide. I want him to be interested about AS but it has been 2 days only since his "preliminary" diagnosis. May I ask you all something?: what do you suggest, based on your experiences, we should do to get the info to him? To get him interested about AS? I DON'T WANT to push him at all!! ! (using caps for emphasis, not screaming.)

Thank you ahead of time.

Maria

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

Nice to meet you, Maria.

I'm Jerry.

Welcome to WP

I think that maybe you should keep in mind that he might not have an interest in it at this point or he might be fully engulfed in another project right now. If this is the case it might be difficult to get him to engage in any kind of research. It might be benficial to let him take his own time with figuring out where he fits into all of this, it can be overwhelming. I'm sure that once he does take an interest in it he will pursue it with the same commitment and ferocity he usually exhibit.

That said leave some stuff lying around. Find out everything you can and be content with your greater understanding of your son. It might be that he is happy with being different, and just wants everyone around him to understand that. That he feels this way isnt new to him like it is to you.

He might also struggle with the concept of fitting into a mold, I know I did. I kind of liked being different, and it took me some time to realize that I still was.

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Welcome to WP.
Is he online? Why not introduce him to WP as well?
This is a wonderful place.

I appreciate your input. I will not push him. I had already printed a couple of pages which I will file away from now although I like the idea of leaving things around!! !!

I have ordered a few books (both my husband and I are bookworms) and one for him from the point of view of a teen (can't remember the author now). As this journey gets on its way I will make a discreet effort to get him into WP. I know he will dig this place. Forums are usally such a diverse and interesting place "to meet."

Thank you, and keep the ideas coming.

Maria

Hi, welcome to wrong planet. Hopefully we''ll be welcoming your son soon. If its only been two days since his diagnosis he may need a little more time to adjust. Get some research done yourself and when he is ready you guys can talk. Let him know that he's still the same wonderful person he always was, and that you still love and support him the same. If you and your husband are interested O.A.S.I.S (www.asperger.org) has a book for parents which you may be able to locate at a library. I read it to try and get a parents take on AS. Its reasonably well done.
By the way love your picture of Nefertiti.

[youtube]http://youtube.com/watch?v=Mt6ncggElNY[/youtube] Hey My name is JAMO5D!! !

Bummer. Jamo5d's video clip showed to be unavailable!
Militarybrat, thank you! Oh, and I was also a Military Brat.

Maria

Your welcome. My dad's a Marine, what branch do you hail from?

HELLO Castillian!!

Hi. I have 2 teen sons, 16 yrs. and 13 yrs. who were diagnosed in February of this year. While they are both happy to know that they aren't just weird or misfits, they have not taken much of an interest in the literature that I have. I did leave a few of the books we have lying in the living room and kitchen. They looked through them, asked a few questions and haven't looked at them since (that I know of). I used to try to sneak information about AS into our conversations. I was told that they know what AS is, they know what it is like to live with because they have it and when they need to learn more they will. I haven't pushed the subject further.

I found what was most helpful was having them see a therapist while we were going through the diagnostic process. She was able to tell them about AS and answer their questions far better than I could. She also saw my 14 yr. old NT son and my 7 yr. old daughter. She helped them understand their brothers and addressed their concerns.

I hope you and your son find WP as supportive as I have. My kids haven't been to this site but they know that it is here if they are interested.

Lauri

Hi Maria! I was diagnosed at 14 too! Get your son onto WP! There's a forum just for teenagers (Adolescent Asperger Forum), and General Autism Discussion and The Haven is good for finding people with traits similar to you, as well as the quizzes in Off The Wall! The other forums are also good; if he is shy in real life he can be himself and be anonymous here and find out if others have similar interests to him, and since they're Aspie they're less likely to be judgemental!


Welcome to WP, both of you!