Hi, from the wife of an Aspie

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Hey there:)

Just here to see what I can learn form other people's experiences with AS. My partner and I rarely have any issues with communication, etc- but we have always chalked this harmony up to cultural differences. We met online, he's Australia, I'm Canadian by way of Britian. So we theorize that all the little things that might be am impediment to people from the same place are easier for us to get around- as missunderstandings and such are common due to very different backgrounds. But not everyone understands him- or copes with his occasional "other-ness" as well as I. So I'd like to fid ways to help him cope with that.

I'm rambing, so I'll stop.

Erm- hi?!

Hi from a HFA (= high-functioning autistic)/Aspie to you! We have just a few neurotypicals, like yourself, married to an Aspie. Welcome! Not just a cultural mix for you, but a cognitive mix too....diversity. I think you will learn much from us - I hope. Aspie's are fun! Or else totally exasperating; a matter of perspective.

I definitely find it interesting and refreshing more then I find it exasperating, luckily! The constant need to adapt is a great challenge, and even a fun game.

Hi. Welcome to WP.

Welcome, as a fellow wife of an aspie...and also as an aspie myself

Hello! It's great to get a positive perspective of an NT/AS marriage when most of the writings on this subject available on the net are incredibly negative. I attribute that to the tendency for humans to be silent about things when they go well but very loud and vocal when things are amiss. Anyway, are there any questions you would like to ask in order to help me (or anyone else) focus potential commentary and thoughts in a way which would be most interesting, relevant, and beneficial to you?

Hi and welcome to the aspie community.

I have always been far to open or honest myself, and feel my true friends do not mine.. but then they usually are the same as me very honest and open as well, hate all the game playing.

If your both happy then continue to be, doesn't seen to me he needs to change.

Welcome tntnikki!

Hello tntnikki, or iikknntt in the alphabetical order (clever name that!).
You have such a positive attitude, which is nice to see. Hope you'll be with us for a long time.

WD

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Nice to meet you, tntnikki.

Welcome to WrongPlanet!

Welcome from an aspie...

None I can think of- it's just interesting to me to read other's perspectives and see how they cope with some issues.



I'm sorry if I gave the impression that I want to change him in some fashion- I most certainly do not! Rather, it is a matter of learning more about how other people cope in the world- because while he and I have worked out a great balance in our lives, most people in our lives are unaware- and as a result sometimes misunderstandings occur. Anything we can do to ease the sometimes awkward social faus pas is a bonus!

Hi, welcome to Wrong Planet. I think honesty is a good copeing strategy. Your husband is an Aspie, you love each other, anyone who may have a problem with that needs to get over it and find a way to deal with the facts. Its kind of harsh sounding in its blunt form, so it could be softened in its presentation. If your husband is comfortable enough to be fully open about his diagnoses and how it affects him, he could explain it to outside parties. Ultimatly, it comes down to them how they will accept the information: many may be understanding about it others may not. The only thing that truely matters is that you two are comfortable with each other and happy in your relationship.

Welcome to WP!

Tim

Welcome to WP! Have a floral arrangement of smileys.