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Hi there, I'm 19 and I suspect that I may have aspergers.

Recently i've been seeing a girl, and we get along great. A couple weeks ago she told me she has aspergers, so I started reading about it.
The more I read, the more i'm starting to wonder whether I also have this condition.

What follows is me blurting out all my thoughts in an unrestrained letting out all the things that have been eating at me my entire life. I apologizes if you find it boring, but your thoughts would be really appreciated since I'm kind of confused.

The social aspect I understand so well. It explains so much for me. Why i've never understood body language. Why I dislike eye contact. Why i've always felt like I don't understand people. I have virtually no friends, and quite frankly I prefer to be alone. People find this weird, but I'm more comfortable reading than struggling to make connections to people. I have no clue how to make small talk, or even what small talk is supposed to be about.

Whenever i'm in a social situation with people I don't know, I feel really anxious, and afterwards i'm totally drained and need to be alone for at least a week. Even if it's a social situation with people that I do know well, I'm still extremely drained afterwards.

Christmas time was killer for me. After a week of forced contact with people, I became physically ill and just told everyone that I had to stop doing stuff, and locked myself in my room for 2 weeks.

And then there's my sh***y memory... i can't remember names, dates, birthdays, verbal instructions...

All this seems to fit for me, but then I was watching mozart and the whale, and I see a lot of things that I haven't experienced. Sensitivity to light, sound. Extreme obsession with personal space. And although I like learning about stuff, the extreme focus that my girlfriend describes where she bought tons and tons of books and learned every single thing on a subject matter for fun, I just haven't experienced that level of focus over a long period of time.


Are the things I haven't experienced a sign that i may be hypochondriac about this or something... I don't know

the aspie quiz says ...

Your Aspie score: 160 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 36 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie

Nice to meet you, blakehaven.

Good luck with the girl.

Welcome blakehaven!

Welcome to wrongplanet... i am the official Strappologist of wrongplanet... if you want to learn more about me and some other things you can click below to hit some of my other threads.

http://alinssite.iguido.com/Thread_List ... _List.html

hi hi boy =]

you already know my thoughts on this but i decided to reply anyway so you could feel special.

not everyone is bothered by light and noise and stuff, people gets lots of different combinations of symptoms or whatever they're called.
so even though you don't experience all the stuff, there are quite a few that you do have so yea,
i really don't think you're just being a hypochondriac about it [although that is just my personal opinion].
i know i've already told you all this but i just thought i'd say it again.

uhm, i thought i had more to say but since i can't think of it at the moment, i guess that is all.

<3

[edit: err, forgot to mention, i'm the girl he was talking about, the heart wasn't just randomly there. ]

Last edited by kt_j on 08 Feb 2008, 7:29 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Well Blakehaven, I am an aspie with diagnosis and everything. And I only scored a 106 on my aspie score.
So either you weren't honest on the test (Wouldn't make much sense) or you are definetly on the autistic spectrum.
Now the real problem with aspergers is that not two are the same. Think of it as a pool of symptoms/traits that all aspies MAY have,
but I am yet to meet someone who has all of them. I for instance have less of a problem with reading facial expressions than most aspergers,
but that sertainly doesn't make me normal (or Neurotypical as you will find they say here )
Now I hope I have been of some help (I like helping ) and you will find that in wrongplanet there is ALWAYS someone who wants to listen to you, and should someone ever find your blurtings boring... well then they properly weren't the best for helping you anyway.
Now good luck with that girl interest of yours, and you are most welcome on wrongplanet

The first time I took it, I got 186.
Then I got about 130 after several months of research so that I knew what I was talking about.

thanks for welcoming and being all nice. you can call me blake if you want.

what's a strappologist?

i like your spinny star kate haha

anders your comments have been very helpful i feel more confident that i'm not overreacting already

basshead what do you mean after research? if you changed your answers based on stuff you read wouldn't that be a less accurate reading?

Strappologists are people who are so obsessed with straps they practically study them

ask me any strap related question and i swear i probably know an answer.

What are straps for? why do you love them so much? is that a photo of you wearing a strap?

I saw in another thread that you said that you're physically disabled. Tell me more? i'm curious

Straps can be used for a LOT of things.. but i think you are asking about specifically the kind you see on my avatar, that is actually technically known as a positioning harness, most frequently used in medical conditions such as SMA (more than likely what i have, still pending final diagnosis) that result in the loss of muscles, the loss of muscles takes the ability to hold his/her own self up and totally wonks it up, straps help by doing that for them haha... reason i am obsessed with straps, wow, this is a hard question, multiple reasons i guess, probably because it is a component to powerchairs which are my biggest obsession, i know EVERYTHING about powerchairs, and then theres a little sensory end to it the fact that i like the way restraints and being restrained feels. About the photo, no that is not me, that is actually a photo off http://bodypoint.com i should take a photo of me and make that my avatar. that would be cool hehe...

Yes i do have physical disabilities, for more info on that check my website http://www.alinssite.info

haha, me too. it's fun to stare at.

hmmm... yes... it indeed is fun to stare at... i just stared at it for like 60 seconds lol... coulda gone for more if i didnt make this post

Hi blakehaven

welcome to WP.

From what you have said and from your score on the aspie quiz...I would say that it is possible that you are on the spectrum somewhere. Sound and light sensitivities are common is people with AS...but are also a sign/symptom of SID [sensory integration disorder]. Not everyone with AS has those sensitivities, so you could still on the spectrum without it.
Anyway...I hope you enjoy posting here.

Welcome to WP! You (sort of) already know me.

I'm helpful? thats... like the best compliment out there, thanks
If there is anything further I can be helpful about, dont hessitate te ask.