The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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kit-teh, kit-teh, kit-teh!

Ok, less kitsch.


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This has been discussed in the Cafe before and I thought the link and related article interesting on several fronts. Chuck and I tried a non conclusive experiment in here that seemed to help lessen the Tinnitus we both have. Well that's not exactly coming out right, we both ended up taking naps and that may have had the desired affect on the noise, we couldn't hear it while we were asleep. I don't even know if it's considered an Aspie trait, but it sure has been mentioned over the course of time I have been here a few times or six.

New Therapies Fight Phantom Noises of Tinnitus

Limming away in Sturkistan topic

I do not understand what most of the posters are talking about. Except for Lau. Too much NT (NIT TWIT) talk. Neuro Talk. Jibber Jabber.

Hello ritchie.

My boss just called, have to go wait on 40 people. This lady's 19 year old son shot himself, the funeral was yesterday and today is the "lunch" I'v never heard of such a thing, but what do I know.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to hold it together if she starts crying all over the place, my daughter was 19 also and Its just gonna make me relive a lot of painful emotions that I'm still trying to repress. And it must be worse when they kill themselves because of all the added guilt (deserved or not theres LOTS of guilt involved in the death of a child) CRAP, I'm NOT looking forward to this. And I can't get out of it.
On a lighter note, glad you liked the Kinks Postpaeleo, the song "Superman" and "Father Christmas" were listened to relentlessly by me for years.
Sorry you can't understand anything the rest of us say sartresue.

sorry we are not your cup of tea, Sartresue. We just blither away at each other and have for years, now. It is like group stimming, I suppose.

Merle

Wheres nanna? I did got to the other forum and yes, it was a bit something. Forgot what I was supposed to be looking for now

I did bring back fish for supper though

Priceless. Absolutely up there with your best.

Have a peaceful, easy weekend everyone. My favorite younger brother is here with my niece and nephew. We'll be spending the weekend with them.

Dobie Gray - Drift Away
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Eagles - Take It Easy

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My thoughts are with you Reika. I don't know how it is possible to ever get over the death of a child. Just be kind to your self and know that she wouldn't want you to suffer. That's what I try to tell my daughter, but I don't know if that kind of thinking really helps any. The anniversary of Aaron's death is coming up in May. It's hard to believe that a year has gone by.

I don't know if I've told you, you meaning not only Reika, but all in cafe, but in addition to losing Aaron, my daughter also has the stress of raising a 5 yr old grandson (another son's child), which though stressful, requires, or shall I say, demands her to keep herself from falling apart. (Just like your love and concern for mini-Reika, requires of you) But, at any rate, a bitter-sweet little story:

A few weeks ago my daughter got her grandson a parakeet. She took him with her to pick it out. He loved it, and was curious about it, of course, as any five year old would be. He kept it in his bedroom most of the time, and once in a while would let it out of it's cage. Well, he got a little too curious, and the bird wound up missing a few tail feathers. (I should tell you that we are almost certain he has Asperger's. (no - not the bird, the grandson).

Two days ago, while her grandson was in kindergarten, my daughter found the bird dead in its cage. It had been fine, singing, flying about the night before. It was a mysterious death.
She couldn't bear to tell her grandson that his bird had died. He had already lost both of his parents (not due to death but to their incapacity to care for him) and his best buddy Uncle Aaron - so she took the bird out back and buried it and then rushed off to the pet store to get another blue parakeet as close in resemblence to it as possible. And she had to do all this in a big hurry so the new bird would be there in its cage when he got home from school. The first pet store told her that all of their parakeets were under quarantine. (Which probably explains the the parakeets sudden death). The next store didn't have any blue parakeets. She went back to the first store and begged the clerk to please sell her a blue parakeet. When the clerk insisted that she couldn't do that, my daughter broke down and just went to pieces in front of everyone in the store. Fortunately, the clerk, a woman about my daughter's age, held her in her arms and comforted her as she sobbed out the story of Aaron and why she couldn't go home without a blue parakeet for her grandson. The clerk suggested another pet store and my daughter was able to buy a blue parakeet and get it back home in the cage in time.

When her grandson got home and saw the bird he said "Mom-mom, Sky looks different. How did he get all those white feathers on his belly? And how did he get new tail feathers over night?" My daughter said "Well, I guess they just grew in fast cause he's so healthy and sometimes birds' feathers can change color, I guess." He said,"Hmmm, maybe tomorrow he will have some red feathers." This was precocious because he also has a chicken (hen) who is light brown in color and my daughter did a painting of this chicken and made it kind of psychedelic with a lot of red color prominent. Her grandson hated the painting and insisted that there is no such thing as a chicken of those colors.

I feel like that too. I don't feel hostile about it so much as this is like a group of adults talking about things that I don't get. It's very strange. I've popped in here a few times now and almost never say anything. I don't know where to start, what the subject is, ... and it seems to flit so fast from one thing to another.

About flickering lights etc at public events: have more than once made "nuisance " of self at events asking for doors to be shut, curtains to be pulled, amplifiers on standby to be switched off, people to stop using shrieking/booming/fuzzy mikes and just talk in a normal clear voice, etc etc, or if haven't said anything moaned about it at the top of my ( whispering ) voice instead.

Gosh, I said something in a formless flow of chat.

The thing is that it always feels like I'm interrupting something as a result. Like I've blocked everything, put the flow out of joint. Didn't respond to the right bit.

Ouinon, we don't have just one conversation going on at a time around here - if you try to read all the posts in sequence, you probably will get lost.

Because some of us can only log in once a day (sometimes even less), and we're not going to keep our contributions to ourselves just because the convo has flowed on without us.

Therefore, you can't interrupt the flow. We don't let that happen.

ouinon said "this is like a group of adults talking about things that I don't get. It's very strange."

Some of the comments made on here are very specific to American, British or other culture and a period of time or of an interest area (film or song).

Take for example yesterday when an image of a cat and dog was posted with the caption "Bring me a shrubbery" - That only makes any sense if you know the British (1980's?) film "Holy Grail" by Monty Python. Thus my reply would equally make little sense about farting French men.

There are also lots of things posted here that I don't have a clue about.

It seems to be a place where you can throw in a favourite random moment or memory and see who can latch on to it too.

Im new here - this is just how it comes over to me anyway.

Thank you Tallyman and DeaconBlue. Reassurances appreciated. Post this way and always look on the bright side.

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Ouinon I notice you are in France too (and of course Oui non) are you French or English (or other)? I'm still learning French - it is very difficult. Learning the gender of all nouns is very alien to people who's first language is English.

Half english-half german. Yep; le and la horrible pointless complications. Here 10 years now. Had son with french guy.