The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Ah well.... I was blonde at one point in time. And knowing me I'll get tired of my hair and colour it the same way I've been doing for the past few months. For the record, and so that you don't end up with a bunch of gray-haired cat ladies chasing after you, I know many beautiful women with silver or white hair so I really wouldn't say I "damaged" your image of me. Altered may be a better word.

My family is good by the way. I've been busy studying my Medical Transcriptionist courses and have achieved an over-all mark of 93% so far. I was very mad that I only got 85% on my last unit test. I got 3 questions wrong and had flashbacks to highschool and college when I just about gave myself an ulcer every time I got less than 90% on anything. I had to remind myself that "perfect" sucks the enjoyment out of life. (Remember that.) And I really want to enjoy what I'm doing.

And what's new in your world?

My husband, NT to the ...eyeballs (can't remember what the saying is) has a firm belief that what is under the skin counts. When he told me this the other day ... again... I was a bit surprised. He doesn't turn his head as much now as he used to when a Merle-like female passes but I'm sure he swivels his er ...eyeballs.

I'm glad we met on line first because I won't be distracted by looks when we all meet (sigh).

(When Merle was young she heard a man laughing. "That bloke just walked into a lamp post ... he was watching you walk by!" he said.)

You are in an old fart's cafe, Sam.

It's so liberating for an NT to be an old fart. I am now guilt free about being socially inept, loud, weird. But one thing in my favour is that I know I am breaking the rules (as opposed to those that have to struggle to work out the rules).

I love that song Postie


Thank you all for your personal insights about smoking. I like to hear "all" opinions. I can make my decisions based on what I know to work for me...ie...no such thing as bad information if you have analytical skills to weed through info....(what does "taking everything with a grain of salt mean???or is it a grain of sand???)


Hi pinhead....I had a friend with that "nick name" because of all his face piercings....we were big Hell Raiser fans.

Am I to young or old for my husk?

When I was a kid I thought my peers were annoyingly immature..loud..not logical...boring.I thought I was to old for my skin.
Then I hit my early 30's and began to feel both to old and to young. I liked collecting rocks and punk music and stuffed animals and didn't care about getting married,having kids or 401K........Lawerence Welk still sounded like crap(weird to think it was my parents favorite show when they were in their 30's....man,they were OLD.)Yet my peers seemed to have no intellectual curiosity and very little personal insight or analytical skills....Now I feel to young,because of my interests and lack of interests in the "right things" and because I like to get down on my hands and knees and bark and wrestle with the dogs,BUT...I work with kids in their twenties who have poor work ethic,play stupid drama-mind games and seem very immature...so I am to old...?????Perplexing.


I think I see "age appropriate" as being as silly as "gender appropriate"...I like to pick the parts of each gender and age that I think is most positive to me and not have some out side source pick for me. When Jesus said become as the little children..I don't think he meant...be selfish and bully people(which is something I saw in many of my peers as a kid. I think he was talking about finding joy and amazement in the simple wonders of life, being honest and "nieve" because we can't imagine why some people would be "mean" or duplicitous. I think those are the aspie traits that make many of us "out siders" in adult society and often "victems" to peer abuse. My mother claimed I was "holier then thou" but I never flet the need to be "better"...I just wanted to understand why others were being so mean...I still don't understand it most days.

CC and Sinsboldly....I wish you both luck in your "psychological" ventures. Every time think of "therapy type things"...I can't block out the voice of Nietzsche....."look not into the abysse for the abyss looks also into you.(poor paraphrase=bad memory)
Yet the abysse is always a both intrigueing and scary to me.


I wrote this as a tribute for Bob Dylan(can't recall if I posted it)



http://alianoraspie.deviantart.com/art/Dylan-65239231

@Krex: I had started a post about the smoking issue a few days ago and lost it, got sidetracked and forgot, until now. ADHD sure is a pain in my butt!

I was going to comment that there is a documented reason why it is hard to quit smoking. It has been documented that nicotine causes the release of dopamine in the brain every time a cigarette is smoked. With that release, a feeling of well-being is created.

http://archpsyc.ama-assn.org/cgi/content/full/63/7/808

It has been theorized that with long-term smokers, this constant forcing of the brain to release dopamine may actually change the way the receptors in the brain work and how much dopamine is being produce. Unfortunately dopamine is not "created" by the body. We all have a certain amount and that is all we get. It cannot be recreated outside the body as a supplement.

This is also the reason chocolate and carbohydrates are craved by certain people. When I tried to quit smoking the first 3 times, I found that within a month the nicotine craving was replaced by the chocolate and carb cravings. It almost drove me crazy at times. I chose to take bupropion (Zyban, AKA Wellbutrin) as it is a dopamine and norepinephrine re-uptake inhibitor. It was the first time that I could quit without feeling miserable and gaining excessive weight. I took bupropion for a year and then decided to stop taking it. Within a few months, I was craving the carbs and chocolate again. I also found my ADD getting worse. I chose to begin the Wellbutrin again after a one year break.

I believe you mentioned that you had tried bupropion and were horribly allergic to it. Effexor works in the same manner but is a serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine inhibitor.

I'm also wondering if your cough drop addiction doesn't also come from a craving for more dopamine. They are sugar-based and produce the same dopamine release. I know this because I found myself craving them after going through packages and packages with my last cold virus. It was ridiculous. The sugar could also be responsible for the increased mucous production. It is known to be a mucous producing agent. Naturopaths have known this for years but now the medical field is doing research that proves it. http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/ ... ekey=87885

Thanks Blessed. Interesting link with suger.Yeah,I had a horrid reaction to Wellbutrin which sucked the more because I never flet better then two weeks I was using it.

I think I use nicotin in part to deal with symptoms of aspergers(social phobias)and ADD(helps concentration).I really don't understand why it isn't offered as a medication instead of only an add to quiting smoking. Why is it worse then other anti-anxiety medications that are as or more addictive?It's not good for you?I've read the side-effects of many perscription drugs and none of them seem particularly good for you. I really think the scientific community is over looking a potential chemcical just because it is associated with "that evil devil weed". Or perhaps the tobacco company still has some influence?

Why s that gum so damn expenssive and will it ever be excepted as any thing more then an "aid to quit" instead of an aid for people with AS/ADD?