The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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It was the wording of CC's post which just rubbed me up the wrong way. Nothing to do with you or your posts.

I was wondering about something you mentioned in a post a couple of days ago, about how you change character every couple of years . How did you mean?

PS: I love bratwurst, with sauerkraut! mmm

ah, i see, no, i hadn't read any of it, just wondered like that...
i now have read it (not all but most)
wish you luck, it seems that it is highly probably things will work out if i read well?


i can relate to the noise of the nt while raising your child, i have had a lot of trouble with that too,
my husband only understands it now and is doing his best to avoid it when possible.
(but i even suffer from talking all day, i need hours of rest, quite, silence, no words, that was
quite difficult to get this message through, especially cause he would prefer to have (at least ten times) more and not less noise/talking/words/etc)


i don't know if you heard about the french website
http://www.aspergeraide.com/
never really visited it much myself cause it is french and not belgian so english is more logical or something...

Wow, no, never heard of it. Thank you very much for pointing me at it. Will go look.

... ... ... their home/first page is definitely a mess! On and on and on, with no idea of what it is supposed to include, just an endless rambling list. Tiring.

But I will look at the sections arranged rather more clearly and conventionally on the left and right hand sides!! etc.

... ... ... the sections in the forum are so numerous and so precise that is tiring to look at and try to choose between them. Also the subject matters are so minutely divided up that feel oppressed already!

And the way "people with autism" ( as opposed to Aspergers) have a separate space to themselves is umm, not exactly promising/inviting.

It's interesting to see how another country does it though.

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'nuther recipe for ya. it's pretty quick, and great on the charcoal grill.

1.5 lbs beef, cubed into 1-inch squares (roughly)
bamboo skewers
white onions
olive oil
salt
black pepper

marinade:
2 tablespoons soy sauce
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon (or a bit less) ground cumin


mix marinade ingredients together, pour over beef, soak for at least 1 hour

on medium-hot grill, place onion slices (about a half-inch thick, that have been brushed with olive oil, sprinkled with salt and pepper). cook until done (there'll be some charring). they cook quickly (this also works with bell peppers, but they cook ever faster) you probably want to count on turning them only once, as they'll fall apart if you try too many turns.

put skewers of beef on the same grill, give it about 3 to 4 minutes before turning them over (depends on how hot the coals are and how done you want the meat).
once you turn them over, put the grilled onion on top and let them finish cooking. (we usually just put the lid on the grill and come back in a few minutes at that point.)

serve when cooked to preference - we like a little charring on our meat on the outside, as long as the inside isn't dry. rather yummy, good for diabetics. watch the cumin, if you have really fresh stuff you might want to drop the amount down just a bit. probably not too good for those restricting salt intake, though. but really good, and the leftover meat is good cold the next day.

Deacon..........and others who I probably confused.


I was laying in bed last night talking to my BF and listed my favorite movies from childhood. It suddenly falshed in my mind that I had written Solient Green (my favorite movie) instead of Andomeda Strain (another favorite movie.) It isn't that long of a list..and includes the Planet of the Apes series of movies and Little Big Man. Seems trivial but I almost got up to correct my error and relized someone here would probably realize the mistake and clear it up ...Thanks Deacon


This is one of the problems I have with memory and communication that has caused me past embarrassment. Sometimes I realize that my brain has misfired and brought up the wrong information but sometimes it is only once I am "Quit" that I realize that I said the wrong "word" and sometimes I don't think I "hear" it all and then I wonder why people seem to be giving me strange looks......do they think I was lying?

I just bring this up because it seems to have gotten much worse in the past few years and I am concerned about a decline in my memeory and over all cognitive functioning. I really, really ant an MRI to rule out (OK, don't laugh) ...a brain tumor, or some such. Sometimes I swear, that if I didn't have my BF in the next room to yell to..."Hey, what was the name of that movie we saw that had that guy with the dissociation..the guy that was on Friends?"....(NUMB)...I would never be able to finish a post on WP. I know old people are Known for memory problems but this has gotten really bad and I'm losing vocabulary as well as "names of movies,books,stars,bands". It never was great but...is this just old age(I'm 44), stress..inquiring minds want to know.

Is this a misunderstanding we've already addressed and I've apologized for? If not, I'm about ready to cut my f*****g tongue out. Oh no, I'll still have my fingers, won't I. And my Aspie brain. Really, moi? CC? My words have rubbed someone the wrong way?

Grin.

Just wait another fifteen years, then you can catch up with me.

That thing about how you can't remember the right word for the thing you do that makes past events return into you current sphere of cognition... what do you call it? Ah! "remember" - that's the word I was after.

I got this too.

I thought it might be part of the auto-immune thyroiditis I'm convinced I have to some extent. Apparently memory loss, ( as well as slowed up thought, mental confusion/slips), is a symptom of T Dysfunction.

I am hoping a high protein no carb diet will help, because it is definitely in the last year or so in which have been eating increasingly less meat and more and more rice etc, that this sort of memory loss has really accelerated. I really noticed it this last winter, and yes, it worries me, esp as my english grandmother had alzeimers. I am 44 too.

So I'm crossing my fingers for a paleo revival.

PS: CC, I've got over it. Sorry. It was just that big motherhood etc post of yours and I was feeling a bit raw.

Last edited by ouinon on 27 May 2008, 2:38 pm, edited 4 times in total.

Nan's Marinated Beef Cubes. Yum Yum Into the recipe box with that one. Thanks, Nan.

Aspie Cook Book anyone? So simple even an Ass pie can learn to cook and join the ranks of James Beard and Julia Child. That Julia was kinda of strange, dontcha think? I was always fascinated by the way she salivated so profusely during her cooking demonstrations.

Back to lurking and no more posting when I have PMS.

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Holly cow. I just played "moby dick" on my keyboard,(had a mouth full of coffee and forgot to swallow before I exhaled..very impressive spout action all across the keyboards). I think I turned it upside down fast enough but if the board frys and I can't get on-line.....that's why
(Note to self.....swallow liquid THEN exhale)so complicated having a human body with all it's leaking and breathing and such.

Anyway...my recipe is for the lower functioning end of the spectrum.

Fill a small sauce pan 3/4 full of water and put on burner . Turn burner on med high and wait for water to boil...stop staring at the cool boiling water and open your Ramon noodles and place in pan...put aside the flavor pouch.

While waiting for noddles to cook....put pre cut broccoli florets into a microwave safe dish with 1 inch water and cover and let them steam about 8 min.

When noodles are soft, add worschestire sauce, pepper, garlic powder and the season packet that came with noddles. Crack open two eggs and drop them in the noodles and let them cook whole. When they appear mostly solid....add the cooked broccoli from the microwave and stir it all up......breakfast is served. Bon appetit

Quoting BlessedMom:

But they do keep each other entertained when they are little and free Mommy up a bit to pee or brush her teeth.



This makes me incredibly sad. I hate to be forced out of my house and my neigborhood. The thing is this: we have not succumbed to the racism and bigotry that sent the white majority running for their lives fifteen years ago to get away from the minorities and new immigrants that moved in because the affordable housing is here. I love what has happened to our neighborhood in that respect. The bigots and hate mongers left, and we have an interesting and diversified neighborhood. The whites who stayed behind stayed because skin color and ethnicity are not issues of negative concern. I don't want to live in a ghetto, no matter what color it is or what culture it embraces. I want to learn and I want my children to learn to live in peace with all types of people. But violent crime and drive by shootings are another issue altogether. I don't want to be manipulated by anyone for whatever reason to leave a place I love. I have to find out if what my husband has told me about gangs and shootings is really true. Not that I think he is lying, but perhaps his sources are. I don't read the local newspaper and I haven't seen any of this sort of thing on the local news, so I am wondering if this is some kind of political or capitalist maneuver to delude the remaining white population into leaving and freeing up more affordable housing for real estate brokers to cash in on. The realtors have been buying up properties, knocking down old (but charming) houses like ours on double and triple building lots, and building modern duplexes jammed together and bringing in more tax dollars for the local municipalities. So you see, I have a lot of research to do and I'm not leaving my home without a good fight.

Good for you! And if anyone can put up a good fight, I'm sure it's you. I'll be sending strong, hopeful thoughts your way.

My hope for the boys when I had them so close together was that they would be close when they grew up. So far it seems that they are better friends than most siblings their ages. When they were little I used to get complaints from the parents of kids that came over to play because the other children had a hard time fitting in with my 3 boys. They were like a little gang that was hard to penetrate.

One time when they were 6, 4 and 2, the oldest one came into the house screaming that the middle one was going to kill a little boy who also lived in our townhouse complex. I knew the kid was a poop disturber so I ran out to see what was going on. My 4 year old had the other child pushed up against the side of the car, his hand on the boys chest and was yelling right into his face that if he ever threw a rock at his little brother again he was going to kill him. His face was red with rage and I have only seen him that angry once since (recently and it involved a girl, surprise, surprise.) The only times the kids got in trouble in school was when they were protecting each other on the playground, usually Soccerdude protecting his Aspie brothers. They really get in an uproar if one of the 3 is threatened. They can be a force to contend with.

Oh Geez - Now I know what's going on. Duh. I missed your above post, Ouinon, and thought your post to Merle about my words rubbing you the wrong way was referring to a previous post I made about my old female relatives and my cousin's dream. I guess I'm glad I missed it, because I was feeling pretty lousy this morning and it would have added one more louse to my lousiness.

The post that bothered you so much was a response to SleepyDragon's post about her teenage son falling in love. My post is about raising teenagers and the women I addressed all have teens or have had teens and have posted recently about the exploits and drama they are experiencing as a teen mom. I didn't include you because your son is very young and not a teen yet. Sorry, I don't like to feel ignored either, and it wasn't deliberate. So - what have I learned by this faux pas? Don't address anyone by name in my posts anymore. There is always the chance of leaving someone out unintentionally.

Ouinon wrote:


When I said "Glad you're feeling a little more up to the challenge today." it was in response to the above post where you say you are feeling calmer about the inspection thing and not in the shocked state you were in yesterday.



Those are some awful strong and contemptful words and they were never in my mind, I promise. I think you are quite an amazing woman - and I don't BS about such things - and I am amazed by how much you reveal about yourself. That is rare and it shows courage.

I'm not an evil b***h. Really.

THANK YOU CC for full explanation and wonderful response to me. Thanks so much. I had kind of worked out how it might have happened, afterwards. Sorry to have made fuss but felt p'eed ( was feeling desperately raw after yesterdays crisis) .



NB: am completely in awe of you having brought up 5 children. It suddenly occurs to me that I was maybe feeling some "inferiority" stuff about that and it made me read the word "challenge" in your post from that position !