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08 Nov 2011, 11:17 pm

Hi everyone! :flower:



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09 Nov 2011, 10:56 am

Hi Hope8.
I'm glad I finished pruning yesterday. It is raining hard today.
I keep wondering how Nan is.


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09 Nov 2011, 12:19 pm

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hartzofspace wrote:
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off to devise a 'system that works'.

Merle

It's always nice to hear from you, Merle! I hope you come up with a system that works. I used to say those exact words to my daughter fairly frequently, since she kept her room - well, let's just say that it looked like a hurricane hit it. Frequently. :lol:[

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Mom would always call me the 'butterfly' because I looked great going out, but my room resembled a shredded cocoon. :roll:

:lol: Great imagery!


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09 Nov 2011, 2:47 pm

Ah, a system that works... that's a great thing. The system can get more and more complex, but as long as it's gradual you adjust and things are good.

A liveable life is another way I put it.

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09 Nov 2011, 6:28 pm

Well, we just got back from the first formal inspection of the house we're considering buying. Alas, the place needs a new roof! So now we are going to have to see if the owners are willing to pay for that, since it is not otherwise insurable. So many details to iron out! :?


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12 Nov 2011, 4:48 pm

nan, I sure hope everything is o.k. for your daughter.



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Well, we just got back from the first formal inspection of the house we're considering buying. Alas, the place needs a new roof! So now we are going to have to see if the owners are willing to pay for that, since it is not otherwise insurable. So many details to iron out
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Hope it works out for you! Buying a house is complicated, messy and disruptive... but then you get a new house and get to set up things the way you want, etc.
Here's wishing you courage until you're settled!
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nan, I sure hope everything is o.k. for your daughter.


Me too! Update us when you can, Nan.



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14 Nov 2011, 7:55 pm

Them were the days.....

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14 Nov 2011, 8:43 pm

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Them were the days.....

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15 Nov 2011, 12:33 am

hartzofspace wrote:
sinsboldly wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
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off to devise a 'system that works'.

Merle

It's always nice to hear from you, Merle! I hope you come up with a system that works. I used to say those exact words to my daughter fairly frequently, since she kept her room - well, let's just say that it looked like a hurricane hit it. Frequently. :lol:[

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Mom would always call me the 'butterfly' because I looked great going out, but my room resembled a shredded cocoon. :roll:

:lol: Great imagery!


:lmao: my sister was the prepie honor role type always with the in crowd..... and I was into heavy metal. ( a Breakfast Club household) The funniest thing was my room was always spotless and we couldn't find the floor in her room.


I just made a fresh pot of coffee


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16 Nov 2011, 7:14 pm

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I was hoping to fit in a bit better here than I do most places. I have been lurking around WrongPlanet for a few weeks now.

I am 41 years old and a diagnosed Aspie. I am incredibly gifted with intelligence and mental ability, while being completely crippled in social skills and intuition. I am not comfortable with emotional outbursts or drama. I have managed to survive in the world of NTs by becoming very adept at reading them and avoiding situations I know could be dangerous. This requires a great deal of effort, so I generally avoid interactions with multiple people at once. I am working on evolving beyond just surviving in the world of NTs and trying to thrive. It is a bit odd trying to carve out a niche for my uniqueness when I have spent so long trying to fit in.

I came to WrongPlanet hoping to find some people that I could relate to, but for the most part I feel just as out of place here as I do around NTs. I am not thinking of killing myself. My life is not full of drama. I am employed. I have a family. My health is ok. I am able to care for myself. I don't generally have public meltdowns. I still get depressed. I still have bad days. I still have trouble relating to people. I still have terrible trouble with tolerating certain situations that cause me a great deal of stress because I am fighting against a meltdown that will occur as soon as I can get out of sight of others, to the degree that when my control starts to wane I excuse myself to the restroom.

Being high-functioning and well-adapted at concealing my condition feels more like a curse at this point. It makes me feel like an outsider in both NT and AS circles.


Hey, cool, another 41 year old new person, welcome.
We are the progeny of the hippie era.
Might I ask what day or just month you we're born?
I was born April, 13th 1970 almost exactly when Apollo 13 uttered the phrase "Houston, we have had a problem."
(I checked the NASA mission logs)

I know how you feel, it's tough for me to feel like I fit in anywhere.

I was diagnosed with AS 5 years ago, after going through a whole list of other diagnoses. All my life me & my family knew there was something 'different' about me, but we could never put our finger on it. My mom apologies to me as if she thinks there was something more she should have done for me growing up. But it's not her fault, nobody knew back then. I was just the withdrawn kid who arranged his blocks & crayons in an orderly fashion, preferred reference books over comic books, and spun in circles until he fell down. We moved almost every year, so the schools never caught the social problems. Then by Jr high & high school I had taken to pot & alcohol, so all my troubles we're blamed on that. But what I thought was a primary "disease" of addiction, was only a symptom of what later turned out to be autism.

I was called lazy for being unemployed for years and years, but the social handicap of AS makes finding work nearly impossible, especially in a hard economy.

I'm still quite new here in WP, but these people seem REALLY nice. And it's good to find some people on the internet whom I'm not old enough to be their father.



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16 Nov 2011, 11:00 pm

pete1061 wrote:
Nick-Zimmerman wrote:
I was hoping to fit in a bit better here than I do most places. I have been lurking around WrongPlanet for a few weeks now.

I am 41 years old and a diagnosed Aspie. I am incredibly gifted with intelligence and mental ability, while being completely crippled in social skills and intuition. I am not comfortable with emotional outbursts or drama. I have managed to survive in the world of NTs by becoming very adept at reading them and avoiding situations I know could be dangerous. This requires a great deal of effort, so I generally avoid interactions with multiple people at once. I am working on evolving beyond just surviving in the world of NTs and trying to thrive. It is a bit odd trying to carve out a niche for my uniqueness when I have spent so long trying to fit in.

I came to WrongPlanet hoping to find some people that I could relate to, but for the most part I feel just as out of place here as I do around NTs. I am not thinking of killing myself. My life is not full of drama. I am employed. I have a family. My health is ok. I am able to care for myself. I don't generally have public meltdowns. I still get depressed. I still have bad days. I still have trouble relating to people. I still have terrible trouble with tolerating certain situations that cause me a great deal of stress because I am fighting against a meltdown that will occur as soon as I can get out of sight of others, to the degree that when my control starts to wane I excuse myself to the restroom.

Being high-functioning and well-adapted at concealing my condition feels more like a curse at this point. It makes me feel like an outsider in both NT and AS circles.


Hey, cool, another 41 year old new person, welcome.
We are the progeny of the hippie era.
Might I ask what day or just month you we're born?
I was born April, 13th 1970 almost exactly when Apollo 13 uttered the phrase "Houston, we have had a problem."
(I checked the NASA mission logs)

I know how you feel, it's tough for me to feel like I fit in anywhere.

I was diagnosed with AS 5 years ago, after going through a whole list of other diagnoses. All my life me & my family knew there was something 'different' about me, but we could never put our finger on it. My mom apologies to me as if she thinks there was something more she should have done for me growing up. But it's not her fault, nobody knew back then. I was just the withdrawn kid who arranged his blocks & crayons in an orderly fashion, preferred reference books over comic books, and spun in circles until he fell down. We moved almost every year, so the schools never caught the social problems. Then by Jr high & high school I had taken to pot & alcohol, so all my troubles we're blamed on that. But what I thought was a primary "disease" of addiction, was only a symptom of what later turned out to be autism.

I was called lazy for being unemployed for years and years, but the social handicap of AS makes finding work nearly impossible, especially in a hard economy.

I'm still quite new here in WP, but these people seem REALLY nice. And it's good to find some people on the internet whom I'm not old enough to be their father.

Hey, pete1061, welcome to the Dino Cafe! Have some biscotti! :)


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17 Nov 2011, 8:47 pm

Well, we just got back from the first formal inspection of the house we're considering buying. Alas, the place needs a new roof! So now we are going to have to see if the owners are willing to pay for that, since it is not otherwise insurable. So many details to iron out!

postcards57 wrote:
Hope it works out for you! Buying a house is complicated, messy and disruptive... but then you get a new house and get to set up things the way you want, etc.
Here's wishing you courage until you're settled!
J.

Well, we just got great news. The owners are willing to finance the new roof. Now,if only we can wrap things up before the end of the year, so that we can qualify for a huge tax exemption! Also, we want to move away from my annoying apartment ASAP.


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18 Nov 2011, 7:00 am

Hi folks. Things are on hold. Almost literally, we are holding our breath waiting until the 5th, when the kid goes back in for an ultrasound to see if the thing has filled back up with fluid again. If so, we have to schedule surgery. If not, we check in a few more months.

The kid has one more year on my insurance, courtesy of Obamacare, so as long as that isn't struck down by the supreme court or anything we should be ok. We'll know soon.

We're still waiting for the ok for repeat dna testing from the insurance company. Apparently one of the critera you have to show for getting it done is what impact it will have on treatment. We are trying to find out what she has at this point, so we can know if there IS a treatment. So because we don't know what it is we can't tell them how the outcome of the test would result in treatment.... so it's been denied twice, one time because the clinic apparently didn't send them the correct info. I'm starting to see a disturbing trend with the new clinic - the doc puts things in to their system to send to the insurance company and only part of it makes it up there. Resulting in my having to make phone calls to make the rest of it happen. That's not good.



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18 Nov 2011, 12:37 pm

Nan wrote:
Hi folks. Things are on hold. Almost literally, we are holding our breath waiting until the 5th, when the kid goes back in for an ultrasound to see if the thing has filled back up with fluid again. If so, we have to schedule surgery. If not, we check in a few more months.

The kid has one more year on my insurance, courtesy of Obamacare, so as long as that isn't struck down by the supreme court or anything we should be ok. We'll know soon.

We're still waiting for the ok for repeat dna testing from the insurance company. Apparently one of the critera you have to show for getting it done is what impact it will have on treatment. We are trying to find out what she has at this point, so we can know if there IS a treatment. So because we don't know what it is we can't tell them how the outcome of the test would result in treatment.... so it's been denied twice, one time because the clinic apparently didn't send them the correct info. I'm starting to see a disturbing trend with the new clinic - the doc puts things in to their system to send to the insurance company and only part of it makes it up there. Resulting in my having to make phone calls to make the rest of it happen. That's not good.

I'm so glad for the update, Nan! I hope you get some real answers and solutions as well. What a frustrating and stressful time you are having.


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