If you could be "cured" of AS...

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I'd rather see them cure NT

Amen, Matt.

If I were "cured" I would have to do these things:

Gossip about famous people.
Watch Fox TV.
Be stupid.
Think of the boss as godlike.
Read crap.
Believe baseball has something to do with the meaning of life.
Simultaneously want to be just like everybody else and fret about not standing out.
Lie more and better.
Wear a noose at work.

Instead of wishing to have your AS eliminated, how about wishing to learn to live effectively with it, and maybe even use it to your advantage.

I guess it depends really. If my AS could be cured, would that mean I would have:

-friends?
-a satisfying career?
-a love life/a true love?
-any successes what so ever?
-independance?
-self confidence?
-happiness?
-skills that are actually useful and fun for me?

If yes, then HELL YES, I would say sign me up right away!

But then.... I have always dispised this world, the way society works, the dumbass and cruel people in this world, just all the hurtful painful things that is due to humans... Ofcourse, mind you, if I was suddenly one of them, I wouldn't despise them all like I do now I guess. I dunno, but it seems like no matter how hopeless I feel, I never want to lose who I am. I'm sure there's a reason for me being here, and even if I have to be miserable and a failure my entire life, maybe I have some benefit for other people so that I have to be there for them, hopefully. I don't want to be 100% useless.

I would say, rather than cure me of my AS, I want a chance to go back home to my REAL planet, where I will fit in and be loved and gifted and appreciated!

Everyone wants to live on the planet Utopia, not only aspies.

I would have had it done long ago

Definitely not. I am a unique individual, and AS is a part of who I am. I like being different; why would you want to spend your life being like everyone else? I'm proud to be an Aspie; it might make some parts of my life difficult, but it makes other parts so much better. ^_^

With these questions I wonder how you differentiate between AS and all the other parts of your mind/personality/abilities etc. I tend to think of it as all one big jumble that can't be separated. Who knows what AS is solely 'responsible' for anyway in an individual?
I think that we shouldn't try to get rid of AS, but instead the problems that make us want to in the first place.

That does seem to be the basic conundrum here: if I could be separated from my AS, what/who would I become (because I wouldn't be me anymore)?

This is a GREAT point. I mean there IS Aspergers, there are common traits we share, but some of us have milder amounts, some have a stronger amount, and we don't all have all the traits or the same intensity of them. Withen the Aspergers diagnoses, we still have our own personalities. And while a part of it may be because of AS, some of it might be a seperate aspect of us as well.

In any case, you have the Aspies who are very successful, happy, and skilled, and make it seem like less of a disability and more of an ABILITY. Then you have ones like myself, who haven't fully been able to come to terms and accept that we have this differenence, and we might be struggling alot and very depressed and hate to have these problems. So in actuality, its not necessarily all about AS anymore, but what are the problems in YOUR individual life, and what kinds of things could you do to improve yourself and find happiness? We each have to figure it out, because, no matter how difficult things get and how much we struggle, there IS a way to improve and to learn to cope. I think we need to be doing that. Besides, AS isn't an ILLNESS so it can't be CURED. We were born with it right? So it will never leave us, it just may become less and less of an issue as we get older and learn better how to deal with life. For instance, I don't see that I will EVER not be obsessive about my favourite interest, I will just learn how to turn that into a useful career instead of just a hobby. And I may very well ALWAYS have social anxiety, and never be a party animal, but I hopefully will learn how to improve my confidence and comfort level in social situations, so that I will be able to meet people, and make friends, and date.... *sigh*

It might be nice to be more intune with other peoples emotions, something i find really hard to do, i know that my 'standoffishness' can upset people sometimes. I think it can be especially hard for partners who have to deal with being forgotten, ignored or find that their presence around you is stressing you out.
Also some of the things that NT's get exited about are really nice you know, like making your friends feel good on their birthdays or knowing when to say the right thing to make a person feel better when their upset. Nt's get to work by social instinct alot which must make it so much easier for them....i have to figure things out logically or learn how they work....that's hard.
Then again, like lots of people have said, i don't know how to be any other way, i've always been like this, in fact i'm the most constant person i know, i still do the same things and have the same interests ( my main ones) that i had as a kid.
Being constant and routine, having the things you know and understand and being able to fall into them...thats nice, thats safe and comfortable. I like the way i am, i always have done, being different, standing out (when i noticed is at all) has never really bothered me. Though i realise i'm proably lucky there. I like the way i think, the world doesn't make sense to me, but the way i think does.
It can be hard to feel apart so much, espceailly when you 'want' to be close to someone.
But i couldn't really cahnge me, now could I?

No. Even if there was a way just to cure the flaws, I wouldn't do it, because I think the disadvantages are the advantages in a way - it just depends on the situation.

We can't cure it. We would still have to learn those social skills, although it might go faster. Also people are saying some of the bad stuff of NT's as why not to be cured. We would still remember our Aspie selves, correct? so we could avoid being like other, stupid NTs. A better question would be: "If you could change it, would you have rather been born an NT, or an Aspie?"
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I agree with Solidess. Screw being NT or Aspie, get me a Lentora! I want back to Ictyla!

Seriously, though, if I could change it, I wouldn't. Why be normal, when you can be different?

I´m not sure. I would love nothing more than to be self confident, happy and independent. But how can I be happy having AS when I hate being lonely and different from other people ?

No way, I'd fail my degree.