A really weird question for females..??

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i used to hate being a girl, now i love it
i'm not that girly, i don't own any makeup and stuffs too.. but i wanna be a mother someday..

I feel the same way.

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Hi, I'm new here but this post thread intrigued me. When I was younger and had only male friends and was only understood by guys, I sometimes was frustrated being a woman with my personality; but I never wished I wasn't a female. I actually love wearing makeup, doing my hair, I'm married and have 3 children and want more. Aspergers has affected me in a thousand and one ways; but I've always loved being feminine. I just tend to be feminine all alone; without friends.

When I was a child I was called a tomboy. I prefered climbing trees, riding my bike, playing stickball , and other outdoor pursuits to playing with dolls. Pllus I was always getting intio scrapes like a boy, and I was not very graceful either "like a bull in a china shop," my aunt used to say. I'm glad I'm a woman now. I'd hate to be a middle-aged guy with my hair falling out and prostrate problems (No offense to you middle-aged guys on WP) I've heard from other Aspie Women that having been a tomboy is a commom trait.

I wonder if its that or if we just dont conform to stereotype. Since some of us are not girly, we are cast as the opposite (tomboy). I am just myself.

I can remember a defining moment playing some sort of primitive homemade wooden hockey board against a boy my age. One more point and I win. It gave me pause, I recognised that it was 'wrong' for me to beat him (in 1959 standards). But I scored the winning point anyway.

We can walk both sides of the fence as women. I think it is traditionally harder for a guy (hope its better by now). Just listen to any highschool (and up) coach ridicule the players by comparing them to girls as though it is insulting. It is considered belittling to be female so men are cubbyholed into being careful in expressing that side of their personalities. Its like being half a person.

Sometimes I feel the same way. Generally I'm OK with being woman but all this female philology - I wish I don't have it sometimes. If I could choose I'd prefer to be genderless.

I'm an NT woman, late thirties, two children. I've always been a very maternal person, even as a child, I was the "mother hen" to my little cousins. I do have some discomfort with my body, but mostly it is a sense of not being comfortable in my own skin...being self-critical.

I do detest shopping malls and the fashion obsession associated with malls. So many cultural stereotypes about women are really degrading...and it is sometimes hard not to internalize those negative messages. I consider myself a feminist, so I'm interested in gender as it relates to imbalances of power, etc.

Many people choose a 'trans-gender' or even 'post-gender' approach to life.

Interesting topic!

I was a dedicated tomboy my whole childhood. My mom had knock down drag out fights with me to get me to wear a dress or anything with 'frills' - that crap was irritating to me! I'd far rather have been on a dirt bike or on horseback than having sleepovers, and never owned a single barbie doll. And yes, I WAS G.I. Jane, long before Demi Moore made it trendy, heh.

It wasn't until a few years ago actually that I began seeing being feminine as a positive thing. Up to that point I stringently avoided shopping of any kind...well, I still do, but that's another story. I was a jeans n tennis shoes kinda girl, very little make up and didn't really understand the art of it. I was fascinated by it, don't get me wrong, I just couldn't 'get it.'

'Round about some 7 or 8 years ago however, that changed, when I became acquainted with a certain group of folks involved with bdsm. The submissives I met were more than patient and willing to teach me what I wanted to learn. Including the art of femininity and *gasp* make up, lol.

I keep it minimal, and still detest heavy make up except for the most formal of occasions. I don't want to go out looking like I just stepped off a theatre stage. It's off as soon as I come home, and into my comfy under-armour pants and shirt or fuzzy pj's with the footies. Go ahead, giggle,. but it's COMFORTABLE, hahaha. Otherwise my dress is casual but again, ultra feminine. I love it now. Long, soft, flowing skirts down to my ankles, boots of all kinds (my one shopping fetish I guess). It's taken me forever to learn what other women knew when they were 16. But learn it I did, and I'm happy with my style nowadays. Fellow submissive women taught me how to be sexy without being slu*ty, for which I am eternally grateful, because most days I see women who haven't the first clue that there even IS a difference, let alone distinguish one from the other.

I keep my hair simple, no muss, no fuss, not a lot of chemicals even to shampoo.

What is bdsm and who are submissives??

Omg you guys, THANK YOU!! I totally understand this!

The stereotype of women losiong their sh*t over pregnancy and childbirth totally unhinges me. My current boss is one of those jerks who doesn't care for a woman unless she giggles, jiggles and fawns over him incessantly. Thank heavens I'll only be here for a few more weeks.

I've recently discovered dresses and makeup (sort of) but that's more due to the nice fabrics and cuts here (Mexico is also pretty cheap, making that sort of thing more accessable). I also like cars and engines and stuff like that. I find myself attracted to both men and women and consider myself asexual with a lean to the hetro side. I think I prefer being a girl because women have nicer bodies. I really like boobs.

No plans to give birth but wouldn't mind adopting and adding to my herd of fur children. Animals are just easier to communicate with, imho.

I consider myself a very heterosexual female (but probably a gay man in a past life...) but I've always been a 'tomboy'. I was a kid in the 70's and all my interests revolved around Star Wars, Japanese 'cartoons' (they were still cartoons back then - not anime!), comics and horror movies. And they still do in alot of ways. When I was in high school, I mimicked, alot. I tried the hair and makeup and clothes thing. It died out in college. I reverted back to my 'boy' gear. I keep my hair long but other than that, I'm not a fan of the girly stuff for myself. And, I'm so tired of other women telling me 'you'd look so pretty if you'd just...' Thanks, I'm 42, I know all about makeup and haircuts. I'm not sure they realize it just makes you feel worse that you aren't accepted for who and how you are.

I'm heterosexual, do wear make-up and have long hair (I wear it loose all the time, though), but I'm definitely not as girly as expected.
I dress practically, don't wear any dresses, own just one skirt, not willing to wear high heels.
And I really want to have nice small breasts! Large ones are so annoying.
Pregnancy, childbirth, taking care of kids? No, thanks.
I hate injustice and prejudices, including those connected with being a woman.

Hello.. My first day on WP.. first thread that caught my eye. I already feel at home.

I grew up thinking I was male until I was about seven years old, and my parents (and even my teachers) were so neglectful that no one bothered to correct me until one day when I had a substitute teacher..! I've always been bisexual, too. When I was little, I would slobber over the mid-page spread in my Cinderella book- looking from Cinderella to the Prince, wanting to marry them both at the same time!

I had some severe transgender issues until I was about 27... then, I experimented with "girl" things. I did this in the spirit of "can't beat them, might as well join them." So now, on the outside, I'm told that I look like a girl, but I don't feel like it. I like to wear make-up, but I feel like a fake, wooden girl, like "Pinnochia." I see other girls and women in public and wonder how they are so inherently feminine. I just don't get it.

But I'm not "male" anymore on the inside.. at least, not as much. These days, I don't care to be either. I'm mostly okay just being me- an asexual creature- and I'm okay with my body now, not because it's feminine, but because it's mine.

I didn't know this was an Aspie thing..!

I don't like shopping. Most women get obsessed with clothes, and can be all day in a clothes shop, and they go into a world of their own when it comes to looking at clothes. But I don't like clothes shopping. I'm not very good at taking in what I'm looking at. Once I walked into a clothes shop when I was on my own, to see if I could find anything I liked, and I found myself staring at men's socks without really realising. I thought, ''oh, what am I doing standing here - this isn't what I'm looking for!'' And I then started wondering around aimlessly, then I came across the door again, and walked out.

I think I know why I don't like clothes shopping. It's because I get too distracted by the crowds, which makes me anxious, and when I get anxious I can't concentrate on anything else but the thing what is making me that anxious. Plus women glare at me in clothes shops (especially teenage girls), and I can't concentrate when I'm being looked at all the time. I don't know what it is, but I just wish I could enjoy clothes shopping like everyone else.

I would like kids, but then they will be Autistic, which is what I don't want, thank you very much! f*****g Autism - it ruined my life, why should I bring kids into this world suffering from it too (just MY opinion on it). Otherwise, I would have kids.

I'm not bisexual, though.

I am biologically female but identify as gender neutral. Gender is pretty much meaningless in my life. I don't do any of the typically feminine things, including makeup and shopping. I am far from the typical emotional female, many of my hobbies are more traditionally male hobbies. I don't really see the point in the gender binary overall. I have no maternal instinct at all and most definately plan to never have children. I could not imagine a more horrible life than that lol. Of course, no judgement to those who do decide to have them, its just not for me. I always associated with more males than females, but gender doesn't really factor into it at all for me.

Physically I am also fairly androgynous. The clothes I wear are mainly neutral, normally black pants and whatever band shirt I feel like at the time. I am heavily into body modification and things like dreads and large gauge piercings just aren't considered very feminine. Most of the tattoos I have are also fairly masculine in nature (predominantly dark and "evil" themed) although not entirely as I do intend to soon have a large "feminine" floral piece.

To my mind, people are people and gender is basically irrelavent to the equation.

I'm a female, 100%. I can be girly, but I'd really rather not be. Unless I'm having an "I-feel-like-being-girly" moment.