Dunnyveg wrote:
Sapphira, welcome. Sorry to hear you are experiencing so many relationship problems.
As far as your fella goes, it's hard to say if he has AS. What I would do would be to do some research on it and see how many of the diagnostic criteria you can see he fits.
As far as eye contact goes, that's something aspies learn to do, though what you describe is very typical. Some days it's easier to seem normal than others. Some days I'm gregarious and want to talk to people; other days I walk into my office, and my employees know to leave me alone unless it's very important. And on the very worst days, I don't leave my house or answer my phone.
One thing I will forewarn you about: If you do succeed in getting into a serious relationship with this fella, he's not likely ever to be warm and cuddly. That's just not the way aspies are--for the most part.
Now would be a good time to decide on whether or not this is something you can handle. It should be a matter of putting what you like about him in one column, and what you don't like in the other, and see how they balance out.
The next time you talk to him, you just might ask him if he has AS. If he says he doesn't know, there are a number of tests online that can offer some idea as to whether the taker has AS. Just google it up.
I think I missed this post before. Well, I think it would be a while before I could broach the subject. We're not dating--had one date--don't even know what he considered it! He said he wanted to do it again but I can tell he's a bit of a workaholic. Now I see him just grabbing coffee at lunch hour and a snack and going back to his office. I think he must be stressed about work but he has a very sort of calm exterior and he walks rather slowly, I've noticed. Hmmm...warm and cuddly? Well, I really need to get to know him better to see what he'd be like. I did see a group photo of him from a wedding reception where he was standing with some other people--a couple guys and a woman--he had his arms around them as though they were good friends, he looked happy and comfortable. Who knows!
28 Dec 2011, 12:44 pm
