Are there other gray-haired Aspies out there?

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Hi bonbayel - great photos!

Welcome to WP. I'm 49 and joined not very long ago too. It answers a lot of questions when you find out about Asperger's doesn't it? For me, it was an eureka moment. At last...understanding.

Hope you enjoy your time here.

I think you are absolutely right, it's a very stiff and rigid system. Not much room for the disabled, the old, the foreigners who look wrong, or people who can't speak fluent danish. It's a very smothering system.

If you ever visit your children, and they live near me (Jylland, Århus) and you want to, you can pm me and we could meet.

In fact, it's not just the "foreigners who look wrong", it was any foreigner. I was never allowed to think for a second that I was Danish, and my Danish is quite fluent. Even my daughter was embarassed about talking English walking down "Strøjet" in Aarhus when she was a teenager ' until I asked her to stop at listen to the languages being spoken around her!
I lived for a while with a computer scientist who I am sure is AS because of his problems socially, even though he liked people and even had a few friends. One of those friends, who most definitely was AS now that I think of it, was brilliant, but couldn't stick to more than a year of college, so he spent most of his time reading philosophy. Finally they did "activate" him as a bricklayer, which he loved, until the boss promoted him to a supervisor position, which he quit after 1 day. Now I know exactly why he did that. I didn't get it before I started getting into the same sort of problems!


My kids live in Copenhagen (although my son would like to move to another country - I hope here!) But in all my moving around Denmark, I lived in Aarhus about 4 different times, in Bispehaven, Hasle, Ny Munkegade and finally Vestervang. I really got to love Aarhus as a place. I loved getting around walking or by bike or bus, particularly biking to the wonderful parks along the bay north and south of town!
It was great not needing a car. When I got to California, what shocked me most was the number of big cars (especially the SUV's, small trucks, etc) that people need to get around.

From 1983 till 2002 I lived 2 km from Bispehaven, Holmstrup, so I now the area well. Vestervang is a really nice place. Yeah, Aarhus is nice, the 'smallest big city' in the world.

It's hard to be accepted as a foreigner, I've heard if you, also as a native of Denmark, move to one of the smaller island, you are the newcommers the first 4-5 generations.

And we don't understand why you can't speak danish without an accent, how hard can it be!

Wriel me a personal message if you want to talk some more, and check your own personal message, I will write you sometime.

I have a small area of grey hairs, and I am 27 years old.

Anyway, welcome to WP!

Tim

Yeah, I had a "small area" of gray when I was 27.

G'day Bonbayel

If I grow a beard, there is grey that comes thru, otherwise no grey anywhere (yet). 47 y.o.

Welcome to WP.

Hello Bonbayel. I'm 54. My beard and hair are greyish verging on white. Up to a couple of years ago I used to dye them black, then after a while I just got sick of doing that, so now I say to myself, might as well just admit the truth and try to grow old with a bit of dignity.

Welcome to WP.

Rory

Hi, bonbayel ! ! Yes, there are some oldsters on these forums. I'm 50, and wish I had more gray hair (balding, you know). Interesting how different Denmark treats people with AS. I'm presently poking the bushes to find a new job, and I hate the thought of cubical life. I don't know how many jobs I've lost because of Office Politics, and a bit of stubborness on my part.

Anyway, welcome ! ! Do check out the Random Forum, that's where all the jokesters hang out ! !! !

I've really enjoyed all your replies, and I'm enjoying the forums. I have added a couple of things in the General on Autism Forum as well.

I got my first gray hair at about 21 and was pretty much all silver by 40, but I have now survived many ups and downs to reach 63!

I'm thinking that we mature Aspies all had to put up with being different without having a reasonable explanation for why we couldn't manage as well as all the others.

And because of that, most of us have had to work out our own coping mechanisms without the aid of counsellors to guide us. I expect that some of us have actually figured out some useful coping techniques that others could benefit from.

On the other hand we more mature aspies may have issues that the younger ones (and the counsellors) haven't run across yet and can help each other.

What I'm getting at is maybe starting a new Forum called something like "Advice from and for mature Aspies"?

That is a jolly good idea ! !! (If we can get enough posts from our crowd ! !!)
I could go on and on about how I coped, or didn't, and wondered what on earth is wrong with me??

I dunno about "mature Aspies". I think I'm pretty immature. (I like it that way - "mature" is too self-important.) What about "Forum for doddering oldies"?

I have gray hair underneath the hair coloring
You can see me at MySpace www.myspace.com/piermarshall
(This could be wrong)

I have 1 or 2 gray hairs so far.I'm 47
Welcome Bonbayel,I've enjoyed reading your story. It's certainly true that those of us
who are older went through a slightly different experience as things like Aspergers weren't
even considered.One of the good things about WP is the range of age groups and there's
no stereotypes.Some of the younger people are more than capable of behaving maturely and some of us more mature ones can behave like children !
I'm sure you'll enjoy it here.

Im Here.

Diagnosed in 2000.

Had Hell pre 2000 diagnosis.

Slowly getting some Life back.

Have job lead for SpaceIslandGroup.com

When???

Have 1 cat, no dates, not dating, love adventure, UFOs, Tech.

Live with parents due to LA economics $$$$$ to live:
Apt rents run 1K plus alone for LA CA area.
Homes cost more 600K plus.

Seek a Fullfilling Life.
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Travel
Romance.

Hi, I'm also an 'oldster' ("over 40" is all I'll admit to!). I dont know if I have any gray hairs; I'm a natural blonde, so its kinda hard to tell. I look younger than I really am, and, mentally/socially I probably function on a teenage level, at least on an NT social perspective. I think you're as old as you are inside, rather than it being just a chronological years thing.