I have Aspergers and I don't know what to do.

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Mike, I can't pretend to know what you're going through, or even begin to imagine it, but here is what I think:

None of us can do this alone. Everyone needs someone to help them, whether it's finding a good job or even just helping you lift something heavy. It sounds to me like you have no one to help you; your mother is indifferent, and your father's even worse. So I think what you need to do is forget about them, and find someone who will help you. I know it's scary, but if you don't try, things will never change. In fact, they'll probably get worse.

It might not even be very hard at all. I know it seems like you're all alone, but I bet you'd be surprised at how many Aspies are out there. That's one of the cool things about Wrong Planet, it lets you find others. I'd try seeing if there are any other Aspies in your local area (there's a thread for that) and asking what they do/who they go to for help. Who knows, they might be willing to help you too.

And as for pills: No, there are no pills for Aspergers. But there are pills that can help with anxiety and depression. I myself have all three (and it sounds to me like you might, too), and I know that not having to deal with the anxiety and depression has helped a ton.

I like to concentrate on my hobbies when I feel lonely. I like to knit and I am currently working on a pair of gloves. Also, I like to read and run very early in the morning. I also like to play music and I am taking singing lessons. I think that hobbies help you develop and get rid of some negative emotions. It builds self esteem

I like to concentrate on my hobbies when I feel lonely. I like to knit and I am currently working on a pair of gloves. Also, I like to read and run very early in the morning. I also like to play music and I am taking singing lessons. I think that hobbies help you develop and get rid of some negative emotions. It builds self esteem

Coastt, I'm not sure I would agree with you on that.
If I had known my life may have been very different.
For instance I may have understood myself enough to finish collage instead of going through all the trouble of getting in and getting loans, then burning out in the first week leaving myself with thousands in debt.
Or my mother may have understood better how to handle my outbursts as a child and I wouldn't have spent half of it with my father.
I might have gotten help learning to fit in so I don't make an idiot of myself as much as I do.
As for my life depressing you, join the club.



Thanks Lunari, my dads actually been written off for the last year, I've only spoken to him once and it wasn't by choice, nor did it end well.
As for my mom, I can't really just forget about her. After her husband died me and my brother were the only reason she picked herself up.
Now her husband's mother is dying the same way and they are pretty close, especially after his death.
I'm not really sure she'll be able to pick herself up this time.

The real problem with your suggestion is that I'm only good for 1 or 2 days of real human contact, especially if its stressful or I talk a lot.
After that I just don't want to talk to anyone for days or sometimes the next week.
If it was someone I really liked I could probably do 4ish days if they weren't stressful, but I've never had the chance to put that to the test.
Girls tend to disappear if I like them that much...I'm sure that sounds as depressing to everyone else as it did to me.
A lot of that is due to the stress in my life right now and my mood, the better my life the longer I last, though no matter my mood I've always felt drained after 4-5 days.



Bellissima, you posted your message twice. ;p
I do try and stay busy with hobbies and when I can it helps.
However money is tight for me and most of my interests aren't that cheap.