Hello Unsortable, and everybody,
I'm new here myself, only just discovering that I am, though undiagnosed, High on the Autistic Quotient test (35) and on the Asperger's quiz (166/200).
I relate to so much of what you and others here say, it's mind-boggling.
For so many years, I'm 49 now, I have thought of myself and some family members as "outsiders" to society, and have just written it off to intellectual differences, my Mom (also Danish) was a member of Mensa.
The most difficult part has been trying to maintain some sense of self-esteem while battling my inabilities to keep work or standard social relationships, or to avoid my frustration at what I sometimes feel is the whole world's inadequacies.
Stunning as this revelation has been, I am somehow calmed by the idea that what I am coping with is not just my own complete "weirdness", but something that I can actually appreciate about myself and others with Asperger's.
This is quite an adjustment to my entire point of view on life, and so I'll leave it there for now. I've got a lot of research on this to do. I will also try to stay optimistic knowing that at least with some idea of what my position is, I may not find life such a baffling and constant struggle in the future.
Thanks for being here.