Hello, I'm a mom with a 5 year old daughter who is autistic

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Thanks, Prof! wags tail...



I was just going to log on with a German Shepard analogy-good dog. bad dog. (as long as the dog can connect the bad dog reaction to an ACTUAL definable, replayable, explainable action*; and relate this to child rearing; when you played right into my hands with a

"Good Girrrrrrrl!"


Ah the mysteries of the Universe....
My day is set.

Glad to oblige ! !!

(On a personal note, I find it a tad creepy whenever a parent of an AS-suspected child says they want to observe us ! !!)

to which I explain!

Sideways
by Carlos Santana



You know it ain't easy
For these thoughts here to leave me
There's no words to describe it
In French or in English

Cause, diamonds they fade
And flowers they bloom
And I'm telling you

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
They've been knockin' me out lately
Whenever you come around me

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
I keep thinking in a moment that
Time will take them away

But these feelings won't go away

These feelings won't go away

It ain't easy
For these thoughts here to leave me
There's no words to describe it
In French or in English

Cause, diamonds they fade
And flowers they bloom
And I'm telling you

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
They've been knockin' me out lately
Whenever you come around me

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
I keep thinking in a moment that
Time will take them away

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
I keep thinking in a moment that
Time will take them away

These feelings won't go away

These feelings won't go away

Well, diamonds they fade
And flowers they bloom
And I'm telling you
And I'm telling you

And, diamonds they fade
And flowers they bloom
And I'm telling you
And I'm telling you

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
They've been knockin' me out lately
Whenever you come around me

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
I keep thinking in a moment that
Time will take them away

These feelings won't go away
They've been knockin' me sideways
I keep thinking in a moment that
Time will take them away

But feelings won't go away

These feelings won't go away, nah

These feelings won't go away

These feelings won't go away

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http://www.gandymusic.com/sw.htm

Such beautiful prose ! ! Is he a Yank poet ??? An ASpie, perhaps ??

Oh! For Certs, Aye, to me, it seems he just may be...I hear...that His buddy "Tull" wrote this in response:
though...I can't make heads or tails of it.....


Really don't mind if you sit this one out.
My words but a whisper your deafness a SHOUT.
I may make you feel but I can't make you think.
Your sperm's in the gutter your love's in the sink.
So you ride yourselves over the fields and
you make all your animal deals and
your wise men don't know how it feels to be thick as a brick.
And the sand-castle virtues are all swept away
in the tidal destruction the moral melee.
The elastic retreat rings the close of play
as the last wave uncovers the newfangled way.
But your new shoes are worn at the heels
and your suntan does rapidly peel
and your wise men don't know how it feels
to be thick as a brick.
And the love that I feel is so far away:
I'm a bad dream that I just had today (e-eh-e-eh
-e-eh-e-eh)
and you shake your head: and say: it's_a_shame.
So you ride yourselves over the fields
and you make all your animal deals
and your wise men don't know how it feels
to be thick as a brick.

Spin me back down the years and the days of my youth.
Draw the lace and black curtains and shut out the whole truth.
Spin me down the long ages: let them sing the song.


http://www.collecting-tull.com/Albums/L ... Brick.html

(edit:what I dont'*actually* have on disc)

Last edited by SeaBright on 31 Jan 2007, 11:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

"Practical Solutions For Out-Of-Bounds Behavior-The Sensory-Sensitive Child"-Karen A Smith Phd; Karen R. Gouze, Phd. Based on the observations of Ayers.


'Read The Sensor-Sensitive Child and learn:

*The central role of our senses in every imaginable aspect of life--and how differently children with sensory processing problems experience the world.

*What science and health professionals know--and don't know--about dysfuncitonal sensory integration and the available treatment options.

*Dozens of "sense-able parenting" strategies to prevent problems, defuse crises, and help your child succeed at home, at school, and with friends.

*How to create a support team with teachers, therapists, and other professionals.

*Ways to ease the stress on the whole family...and much more!

grossly inaccurrate paraphrase of book research starter "blah blah blah I was a long time child development behavioral psychologist and thought I knew it all ...until....my two sons"

citation: "It is our hope that after you read this book you will see your child's behavior through a sensory lens. This new understanding and the changes it will bring to your family will launch your child on a happier, more successful course in life"--K.S. and K.


AND its AWESOME!
At first I was offended at the language-as it begins, 'this book is the story of children whose senses have failed them.


sensory analysis.

Wow, I'm sorry to have offended you all. I realize you have trouble communicating as we "NT's" do according to you but you apparently can read and you are either misquoting, mistaking or misreading what I said in my post. I never said I wanted "to observe" anybody. I wanted to know where you were coming from so I could understand you bettter. This is something I would ask anybody "NT" included. I am interested for my daughter's sake. I do pay attention to my daughter which is precisely why I asked SeaBright in the first place. I do not understand how she (my duaghter) sees the world. I will press on without the help of those who could help her (and others) most-those of you who have been there.
I must say that I did not expect such defensive responses. However, the responses you all gave did answer my questions in regard to how you see the world though not in content of your answers rather in their manner.
I hope I can help my daughter to learn that we love her and will not grow to have an exclusionary attitude towards those who do not relate to her way of thinking.
I appreciate your input truly and do not wish to incite you further so I will say my goodbyes and hope to find others who are interested in helping show the world what wonderful people autistics truly are inside.
Good Luck and all the Best,
Michelle

Off-Ended, maybe. Thought I made that clear.....

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May I point out, it seems you have ADMITTED OBSERVANCE! I mean you no harm. I'm just pointing out the fallacy of your earlier statement. Which, he was not directing at you by the way. Rather, expressing a generalized frustration experienced in life, in a manner and a place where he could express it.

The offended thing. I'd like you to take a look at that from the outside. Actual harm requires intention. Assumed intention DOES NOT meet the requirements of actual harm intended/directed. When actual harm is not actually intended towards you, then it was not directed towards you; and when you go on as if it was-this is what is known as 'Offended'.




exclusionary attitude to those WHO DO NOT RELATE TO HER WAY OF THINKING.
that is what this is about, ma'am. YOU learning the tools TO RELATE TO HER WAY OF THINKING so that your precious young thing will not grow to have an exclusionary attitude towards YOU.



???? I know.





Sure! You too. I can't put this book down, the one I mentioned. Cracked it just today from the library. There's some BIG things in their for you. I'm certain. But I don't think you'll believe me and act on that. It kinda sounds like, though you say this and that, that you want to runaway from the actual process of LEARNING what to do to work within the situation. You may say, no no. But listen to what you just did. It's so much easier too! Believe me, I understand. But this book. Strong read. And as easy as a request from the library. Doctors don't have all the answers ma'am, and if they do, they don't all have it at the same time in the same place. A fair bit of reading is in order. A fair bit of personal development. I'm not going to sugarcoat it. (not that I know how). I am not responsible for your decisions. I feel no guilt over your actions. I see them through a different lens.



I know your just being lazy. I do it all the time. Though, not with the ultimate meanings of life and family; with the normal things like socialness, hygene, and ediquette. 2 different languages. Your effort into learning your daughters unique language=your daughters effort into learning yours.

See! Simple!! You get a for effort!!

it talks about building neurosynapes, and relating them to desired behavior, you know, those things you mentioned she was having problems with.

Hell, I was a stumbling, bumbling, mess when a neuro inquisitive person started on me some years ago.

So what I am asking you, ksMom, is "Are You Readdddddy To Rummmmmbbbbblllllleee!"

You know, ready to get jiggy with it.
Ready.
To change your perceptions. To effect...miracle in your child and self. (beyond what you obviously do)
Are you ready to throw caution to the wind. To believe that which doubts your senses (literary for that which your senses doubt)

Are you ready.
What are your barriers?
Reading Comprehension?
Self Worth?
Self Belief?
Structured Understanding of the world?
Do you need someone you trust to tell you it is ok? To begin, that is.
Are you willing to believe in a positive outcome?

Ready to set that aside
And to accept. In light of everything, what the outcome will be?


Print this entire conversation-and read it every night before bed for 10 nights.
But I don't think that you will. It holds far to much information for your filters (brain language for 'information prejudice') to process. As I can see, you quickly filtered out, our preceeding information and repoire session.
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Hello, I am a new mom here, I have a 4 year old daughter who has Autism with Speech Aproxia. Also a 19 month old boy. Just introducing myself. We just got our diagnosis this past September. So I am learning quickly how the system of care works, and our rights. We just barely received Medicade for our daughter in December, so I am in process to set up therapies, and services to help.
I am seeing quickly the frustrations of communicating our needs, because at times I am not always real sure "exactly" what it is were wanting. But just curious to hear how others experinces, ideas about things are. thanks.

http://www.kidspeech.com/index.php?page=56

Hi hualapaimom!

I am sorry to hear about your daughter. I imagine this is the most difficult road.
I'm certain you will find other parents who deal with the same. I had to look up apraxia to see if it was the word used to describe the severe speech impediment I remember seeing in special ed section of my school, while growing up. It was. I felt terrible for the conditions they experienced 25 years ago. And am really hopeful now that society has moved on a bit.

My thoughts and prayers with your family.