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I am amazed that you mentioned the jungle book. In my original post I described his brain telling him that he doesn't need clothes and wants to run off, but I didn't mention that his exact words on more than one occaision were:
"My brain keeps telling me that I was born to be wild, and that I should run through the forest naked".

Of course I questioned him immediately about the movie "The Jungle Book", which he denied had anything to do with the thought.

I've been thinking lately about my own childhood thoughts, and in fact I was pretty certain myself that I wasn't a native to planet earth. I was certain I would finally find my REAL home one day. What helped me with that was when I stumbled upon a webpage about Indigo, Rainbow and Crystal children. Seemed any explanation would bring relief.

Thank you for being so open about your thoughts and experiences. It helps in ways I cannot even describe. Oddly, I found my refuge from my enormously busy and annoying brain in writing, poetry and art. I am sensing that my son would be in his glory with some kind of scientific model of a head and brain that could be taken apart and put back together again. Anatomy might be the way to go for him as an interest.

We do all have our own meditation CDs here. The kids listen to theirs nightly. This has helped my son immensley. We look to eastern philosophies of life for the most part, and Yoga is a good idea. He needs to get out of his head and into his body as mentioned. That might be a great way to do it.

Thanks again for being so open. I can't thank you enough!

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Tim

Hi!

Welcome to Wrongplanet!

I hope you enjoy posting here!

Why don't you let your son join WP too, and set up a separate account for him. I have 2 grandsons who post every day.

All the best to you.

Really? How old are your Grandsons? I am one of those mom's the kids call the "fun wrecker' - hypervigilant, worried about everything from the net to mid-way rides. He does want to post, and had a blog for a while, but we lost it. Is there an age requirement for joining / posting?
Thanks for the idea.

Mom68:

You said:
"Even though it was prescribed some time back, he only just took his first dose of ativan last week one evening when he bolted screaming from his room saying "my brain keeps telling me that when you talk to me, I only think I know what you're saying, but that it's really a different language to you than what I am hearing", and "when I answer you back, you're hearing something else, even though it sounds like it all makes sense" and "what if when I see the color red, it looks different than what you see when you look at red?" and "how did God create himself to create the world before he even existed?". Dr. calls him a little existentialist. His mind wanders into all kinds of philosophical ideas and he scares himself silly. Sorry, back to the ativan. he had a backwards reaction to it. Didn't so much get hyper, but did stay awake and busy, in fact went for ice cream. When it wore off, his scary thoughts returned and were amplified enormously. Second dose was required, and he finally went to sleep. He was impossible to wake for school the next day."

Your son's thought process isn't unlike my own. I do have problems with language, with understanding what people mean, taking things literally. As well as having to run through all the meanings of the words and having to decide WHICH of those meanings is what is meant.

There are tons of concrete examples in which these things are true. Our vision changes as we age. Varying kinds of "color blindness". We can switch our monitor white point or change from millions to thousands to hundreds to grey scale and that changes everything. You could have yours set on millions of colors, but if all I had was hundreds, I might not see red at all. Hah! Only certain colors might show up the same. And monitors themselves vary. And there is color calibration. Uh. Okay, I DO think about that stuff a lot.

In other words, what I see is NOT what you see. Or what anyone else here sees. We'd all need the same computer set up, and calibrate our monitors to the same settings, in the same size room, with no natural light and the same everything to have our monitor picture be the same.

That doesn't include all the things that could be going with our eyes/vision. If a medication affects vision. Now I've bored everyone.

When I was busy, like when I was working, I had less time to think. There was too much going on around me and very few times to process. It was more react and there was not much that could go wrong (but it would go wrong later, anyway, LOL).

Know how many times I have misinterpreted other people? Too many to count. The words that come out of their mouth, they know how they mean those words and how they intended them to be interpreted. I don't. If I'm not picking up the facial or body language cues, I'm missing a lot of language.

I don't know all their past, so slang terms or unfamiliar words ARE a different language.

A friend pointed out to me that I am trapped in a cycle. Where I don't understand, and I beat myself up for it. Or I might THINK I understand, get into an argument, find out I didn't understand, and beat myself up for it. I ask that friend many of the same questions that I think your son is or will be asking soon enough.

Most people do not think about these things. So it can be lonely not to have someone to talk to about those things. But finding this group here, on WP, helps.

Having that friend to talk to who is also Aspie, and doesn't think I'm a total lunatic, that helps a lot too.

Finding people that your son can talk to, that could help a lot. To find people that speak the same language. Anyone who doesn't get it, can think of it as actually talking to someone who is speaking an unknown language. They know what they mean, I know what I mean, I just can't figure out what they are saying, nor they me.

Does he like to color? I wondered if he'd enjoy those "learning coloring books" like for Biology or Anatomy. Search for "coloring" in Books at Amazon.
http://www.amazon.com

OOoooOOOoooh, Mandalas! You can copy off all the pages several times, so the same image can be colored again and again. Geometrics. Kaleidoscope. Oooh.

The shapes can be cut out too, after being colored, if he likes the ones I like. The same image could be colored twice, glued, taped or stapled together, and hung up in his room. Okay, that's really want to do, in my apartment.

Coloring is relaxing, meditative, helps focus concentration. It also seems to ease the mind of that internal dialogue, since the mind really likes to play. It's quiet, but music can be put on in the background. The worst injury that can occur is a paper cut (which really smarts). And crayons aren't very expensive.

You can show him this site, which I think is really neat, on Color Blindness. You'll see there are MANY kinds of vision, and you can SEE what others see. Remembering that it only applies if you have full spectrum vision (or normal, or whatever). You can show him that we all don't see the same color of red. And that's okay.

It's a valuable lesson to learn. Not just about vision. But about the world.
http://www.olympusmicro.com/primer/java ... index.html

P.S. I talk too much.

Interesting. Dismaying. Puzzling. Post and answers.

Medications can make things infinitely worse. Medications can help ease life. You don't know which medication will do what until you try, carefully, realizing that paradoxical effects and potential suicidal ideation (oddly enough, a symptom of improvement) are par for the course. And then comes the fact that you don't really know what the medication will do for weeks or months after starting it.

I wish I had a The Answer for you.

I think the youngest in the Kids' Crater is seven. They have no problem speaking to each other.

I replied in full to you, pressed the submit and ppppppppppsssss the server collapsed.

My grandsons are 7 and almost 9. Their mother types for the younger one but does not change any of his words. The boys are only allowed 15 minutes a day each. She remains with them whenever they are on WP. The computer is in the main living area, so the parents can keep an eye on what is happening all the time.

The boys mainly post on Kids Crater and Random Discussion. They mix with all ages.

As you become more familiar with WP, you will recognise many people and form friendships. You will get to know the adults who interact with the children. When my daughter and I joined, we found that the adults we talked to would visit the boys (in the internet sense).

Many say that they can spot a troll! A would-be troll can be blocked. To make extra sure that your child is safe you can check his private mail.

I consider this as safe a site as possible. All the best for your time here.

Thank you! He does enjoy writing things on the computer, so we will give it a try this weekend.

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