Ciao from Rome!

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Hi, thanks for the welcome! Yeah, I think that, after the 1980s, Italian cinema has lost a lot in comparison with other countries. I'm not realy knowledgeable in British cinema, but I think it is really good in adaptations from novels, and in general the documentaries are great!
Tennet's Super is quite popular because it's cheap and you get drunk easily, or at least that's why I used to drink it a lot! I've been to the UK just once, in London, and I often think about emigrating there, even if Brexit will probabibly make it more difficult from next year. My dream is a Phd in the UK or the US, we'll see if I manage to get decent grades to be accepted somewhere.

My main problem is that they don't understand my daily difficulties, like my sensory issue (mostly sounds) and my social anxiety (queue at the post office or the doctor, or family dinners: gods of all religions, help me!). They think that I have created my own problems in my minds, and thinking positively will solve anything. The idea of neurological differences is beyond their threshold of acceptance. It took years for them to accept my being gay, it will take years for this, too. Adding up to all this, I probabibly interpret too literally, even if, at this point, I'm not sure. Moreover, after my diagnosis I realized that I often make inappropriate comments and lose my temper easily, which is probabibly what makes friendship so difficult for me. I hope that here I will find other aspies to make friends with! Maybe, among neuroAtypicals we can understand each other more smoothly.

I'm sorry to hear that you haven't experienced enough understanding for your problems. How well known in AS in Italy? maybe with the diagnosis you might get some counsellor which might further address your social problems and help you in gaining social skills? Or some trusted friend who's a bit more at ease in social situations.

The fact that they did accept you being gay, gives a glimmer of hope I just hope it'll be soon enough!

It's pretty much the same here, btw, the culture is very similar, but your family ties are even stronger than those here, from what I've read. I hope that means they'll be more unconditionally accepting and more understanding!

And I sure hope you'll find friends here

Unfortunately, here family ties are only strong as long as you behave exactly like the family expects, otherwise you are just some sort of "alien".
I have an appointment at the end August for an ADHD evaluation as well, so we'll see how it will get from there. Truth is, I've been pushed for so long by my family to be more social that now I have reached the threshold of tolerance: engaging socially is nothing but extreme stress. Only with a couple of friends I'm able to feel at ease, but they have their own matters to deal with, so we don't meet often.
In any case, I really appreciate your enthusiasm and sweet words, I don't hear them so often

Hope all goes well at that appointment! Keep us posted please

I'm sorry that they're making you so miserable, is there a way to move away from them? I don't know whether you're working or not, I suppose that renting apartments in Rome is extremely costly, but still, if that's a price to pay for some peace I guess it's worth it. Or sharing the costs of renting the apartment with someone, but I'm not sure whether it's doable.

And no problem!

I'm still completing my 2-year Master, and I make just some money from tutoring, not enough to sustain myself. But I should definately move out of my house. Honestly I feel a little lost, I hope I have finally found a decent doctor who can provide some guidance.