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25 May 2009, 9:09 pm

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Hey guys, just an update...

And of course he tried to get me on anti-psychotics again:\
Even if I don't end up having it, what harm can a test do? Why's he so against it?


because it is not his specialty. Because he would feel like an idiot if you were and he never discovered/diagnosed it. Because if you found out you did have it you might think he was incompetent. Because he is supposed to be the wise all knowing sage, and you are to be the earnest searcher of information only he knows.

All these medical professionals are human. Birds poop on their cars just as much as they do on yours.


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25 May 2009, 9:20 pm

1234 wrote:
Hey guys, just an update...


1. I went to my dr. on Wednesday to discuss this matter.
She got into contact with GGZ (I suppose similar to NHS in UK), and if all goes well I'll receive a letter this week or next week with an appointment to get tested so we can get an indication on whether I have Asperger's or not.
My dr. was pretty accepting of my views on the subject and did say she has noticed my problems with making contact etc.
So that was a big relieve.

2. Today I went to my psych. and in the last moments I dropped the A-bomb:p. I told him what I had told my dr.,
but he wouldn't have any of it and basically just threw all my arguments etc. away with the reasoning that, if I would have it, I wouldn't have got problems at school so sudden (I went from a super student to a school ditcher in just a year:p) and that they would've caught it at an early age (due to unusual behaviour) etc.
I told him that girls usually don't get diagnosed as easily.. and that I'd rather get diagnosed (or not) by people specialized in autism etc.
And he didn't like that I went to my dr. with this.

And of course he tried to get me on anti-psychotics again:\
Even if I don't end up having it, what harm can a test do? Why's he so against it?



But that's the update for now.


The whole system is like that, its nothing personal.



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25 May 2009, 10:08 pm

1234 wrote:
And of course he tried to get me on anti-psychotics again:\
Even if I don't end up having it, what harm can a test do? Why's he so against it?
...


Thats something someone without 'empathy' would ask. ;) Sounds like it could harm his ego. If you have it then he didn't pick it up. I think he is defending the social order which you have challenged by self-diagnosing and using other information sources. Perhaps whether you have Asperger's is secondary to who decides you have Asperger's?

If you do decide this is the case then you should consider dumping him IMHO.



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26 May 2009, 6:54 am

1234 wrote:
I told him what I had told my dr.,
but he wouldn't have any of it and basically just threw all my arguments etc. away with the reasoning that, if I would have it, I wouldn't have got problems at school so sudden (I went from a super student to a school ditcher in just a year:p) and that they would've caught it at an early age (due to unusual behaviour) etc.


That signals a lack of knowledge and experience of autism/AS on his part; bad argumentation.

He shouldn't be putting ego, or whatever it happens to be, above his patients' interests and welfare. It is extremely important to question doctors and medical staff. You asked intelligent questions and it is unacceptable for him to dismiss them like that.

If the autism specialists who assess you are experienced in diagnosing adults and females, there shouldn't be much to worry about concerning your developmental history; they will know what to look for.


flamingshorts wrote:
Perhaps whether you have Asperger's is secondary to who decides you have Asperger's?


That seems quite likely.



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26 May 2009, 8:00 am

1234 wrote:
And of course he tried to get me on anti-psychotics again:\
Even if I don't end up having it, what harm can a test do? Why's he so against it?


That's why I suggested not tell him... hard earned experience. he is a paid professional that works for YOU, stop letting him manipulate you.



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26 May 2009, 10:17 am

Yeah:\
Just after those words left my mouth, I could've kicked myself 'cause I remembered you saying I shouldn't.

sinsboldly wrote:

All these medical professionals are human. Birds poop on their cars just as much as they do on yours.



I understand that professionals are human. I wasn't implying otherwise, but a little support from him would've been nice.

But, I guess I'm trying to understand the 'he'll feel stupid' reasoning:) I suppose there are billions of people on this planet, so there's bound to be a group of people with that type of reaction.



outlier wrote:
1234 wrote:

If the autism specialists who assess you are experienced in diagnosing adults and females, there shouldn't be much to worry about concerning your developmental history; they will know what to look for.


flamingshorts wrote:
Perhaps whether you have Asperger's is secondary to who decides you have Asperger's?


That seems quite likely.


That's why I asked my dr. to refer me to a specialist, because they'd know what they're looking for and so I wouldn't get a misdiagnosis (e.g. get diagnosed with AS while I don't have it, or get diagnosed with something else while I do have it).

I'm not quite sure what flaming shorts means with that sentence though, sometimes my English isn't all that great..( I'm sorry),




Perhaps, since my parents can't tell me much about my younger years, I could dig up some home videos to get an idea...
Though yeah, I have no idea what I should be looking at.
I tried looking for pictures, but all albums we have are of my sister (she was born first, which probably explains the vast amounts of pics taken of her), and all the photo's that haven't been put in albums are all from when I was 6 or so. Though I'm sure there's a stash of 'younger me' pics somewhere.