16 Jan 2012, 2:25 pm
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
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Biologist/environmental scientist is something I always wanted to do as a child so no chould point me into Indian stereotype job college degree jobs and plus biology and environmental science subjects are my obsession besides autism.
It not just in Hollywood. They tend to own conenience stores ( even an uncle of mine I think owns one Too depending on the state in the US. But that's the biggest stereotype in US. Think the TV show the Simpsons. Were the only indian guy in town owns the quicke mart.
Funny thing about the stero types. I was sitting watching a dance art. And this Indian guy starts chatting with me and offering some of his food and buys me cookies. We start talking about college and he tells me he is a engineer major ( how chould I not see that coming)
Here is some more stereotype.
Smartest person in the class.
Good in math
Biologist/environmental scientist is something I always wanted to do as a child so no chould point me into Indian stereotype job college degree jobs and plus biology and environmental science subjects are my obsession besides autism.
It not just in Hollywood. They tend to own conenience stores ( even an uncle of mine I think owns one Too
depending on the state in the US. But that's the biggest stereotype in US. Think the TV show the Simpsons. Were the only indian guy in town owns the quicke mart. Funny thing about the stero types. I was sitting watching a dance art. And this Indian guy starts chatting with me and offering some of his food and buys me cookies. We start talking about college and he tells me he is a engineer major ( how chould I not see that coming)
Here is some more stereotype.
Smartest person in the class.
Good in math
Hmmm, Indian guy started chatting with you...
Was he good looking, were there any sparks
He was quite good looking with his glasses in all
and what I really got me is that he knows alot about Guyana which makes me believe he has family who are from the region but has Indian heritage. Which to me We were talking great about little things. unfortunate. As I may be his type on the outside I may not been his type in the inside( it
may becouse of our different interest)
Or he just wanted someone to talk too. This is very unfortunate as there is bearly any Indians here even less with from this region.
I will have my chance one day
17 Jan 2012, 12:20 am
Lady-ivy wrote:
He was quite good looking with his glasses in all and what I really got me is that he knows alot about Guyana which makes me believe he has family who are from the region but has Indian heritage. Which to me We were talking great about little things. unfortunate. As I may be his type on the outside I may not been his type in the inside( it
may becouse of our different interest) Or he just wanted someone to talk too. This is very unfortunate as there is bearly any Indians here even less with from this region.
I will have my chance one day
and what I really got me is that he knows alot about Guyana which makes me believe he has family who are from the region but has Indian heritage. Which to me We were talking great about little things. unfortunate. As I may be his type on the outside I may not been his type in the inside( it may becouse of our different interest)
Or he just wanted someone to talk too. This is very unfortunate as there is bearly any Indians here even less with from this region. I will have my chance one day
Aww.. what a pity. He seemed real nice though, offering food and cookies..
Hmm.. you may not be his type in the inside.. was he your type on the inside? Not trying to be nosey, just curious.
17 Jan 2012, 1:09 am
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
He was quite good looking with his glasses in all and what I really got me is that he knows alot about Guyana which makes me believe he has family who are from the region but has Indian heritage. Which to me We were talking great about little things. unfortunate. As I may be his type on the outside I may not been his type in the inside( it
may becouse of our different interest) Or he just wanted someone to talk too. This is very unfortunate as there is bearly any Indians here even less with from this region.
I will have my chance one day
and what I really got me is that he knows alot about Guyana which makes me believe he has family who are from the region but has Indian heritage. Which to me We were talking great about little things. unfortunate. As I may be his type on the outside I may not been his type in the inside( it may becouse of our different interest)
Or he just wanted someone to talk too. This is very unfortunate as there is bearly any Indians here even less with from this region. I will have my chance one day
Aww.. what a pity. He seemed real nice though, offering food and cookies..
Hmm.. you may not be his type in the inside.. was he your type on the inside? Not trying to be nosey, just curious.
You are not being nosey
I only talked to him for 15 mins during dance art break. He
came up to me asking if I was a dancer. I chould tell he was my type. Physically. He looked like a nerdy Indian
. The inside am not sure Since it was only 15 mins, we chould only talk about little things. But for 15 mins I chould tell he was nice and interesting and that's plus for me. So I say yes for the little time I known him. Am just making speculation why he may not have been interest in finding a partnership with me. There chould be for so many resions for it. I forgot to put a 
Mark at end of different interest 
17 Jan 2012, 1:31 am
Lady-ivy wrote:
You are not being nosey I only talked to him for 15 mins during dance art break. He
came up to me asking if I was a dancer. I chould tell he was my type. Physically. He looked like a nerdy Indian. The inside am not sure Since it was only 15 mins, we chould only talk about little things. But for 15 mins I chould tell he was nice and interesting and that's plus for me. So I say yes for the little time I known him. Am just making speculation why he may not have been interest in finding a partnership with me. There chould be for so many resions for it. I forgot to put a Mark at end of different interest
I only talked to him for 15 mins during dance art break. He came up to me asking if I was a dancer. I chould tell he was my type. Physically. He looked like a nerdy Indian
. The inside am not sure Since it was only 15 mins, we chould only talk about little things. But for 15 mins I chould tell he was nice and interesting and that's plus for me. So I say yes for the little time I known him. Am just making speculation why he may not have been interest in finding a partnership with me. There chould be for so many resions for it. I forgot to put a Mark at end of different interest Damn! this looks so good. I guess 15 mins is too short a time to exchange phone nos. I hope you bump into him again somewhere
.
17 Jan 2012, 5:48 pm
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
if you came up to them and say I have autism and I whould like to help you guys. Whould they say no
Will you believe me if I said, that they would say no? As most of them think it is a disability, they would not want a disabled person to work with them on such an "important" issue.
That kind of stupid and makes no since. Why have autism oranztions and try educating people if you cant have people who have autism try to help educate. They sound very autism speck like.
Lady-ivy wrote:
Do you have the names of the organizations?
Here's a comprehensive list - http://www.autism-india.org/afa_otherlinks.html. I have to admit that the list has grown considerably, half of the Indian states have autism organisations. Just not in my city yet
. Maybe I should reconsider what I said earlier, and try to find an organisation in my city and ask to work with them.Or you can work with the closest oranzion in your area or state. ( I read from the autism oranztion list you gave. They do have a autism society( I help with them) I think personlly think they are the best. But they call it there autism society of india. Call them and ask if you can establish a autism society chapter in your area or state.
Lady-ivy wrote:
If the right people go after the doctors. Think experts and advocate who teach the right stuff. Before the doctors come of hold of bad information. Then we have to
unteach this bad stuff
The very rich in other non west countries could of heard of autism already and maybe heard the bad( I hope not) and good of autism information. Plus if the very rich can't find what they are looking for their child. If their child is officially digoness or there are aware
their may have autism. I wish this was not true but They will send there child over sea for better education for there childs needs as they can't find it in were they live. This makes no since as rich have a chance to bring more awareness and change too demanding the need they want for their child. My only problem and you see too with the rich is that they can the possibility of saying something stupid( everyone will follow it) think jenny mccarthy. Besides
expets and advocates( in my mind are the best but we tend to not have the money. Best to leave the doctors to experts or advocates being sponsored from organizations.
I tend to be a all rounder when it comes to autism. And my country knows autism already so
I teach all around the spturim But when it comes to country with no awareness I suggest what you planning already Just stay on a path teach people about high functioning autism it will be easler for NT to understand. And others will relize they are not the only ones who are aspies.
I suggest you do on your own page not on worng planet. Because not everyone has heard
of wrong planet. When someone from India types in aspergers on google for example and if you had your own site They find your blog. It is easier someone to find it then to put it on a different site as this person needs to look high and low for your blog on wrong planet.but you chould do it on both sites.
unteach this bad stuff
The very rich in other non west countries could of heard of autism already and maybe heard the bad( I hope not) and good of autism information. Plus if the very rich can't find what they are looking for their child. If their child is officially digoness or there are aware
their may have autism. I wish this was not true but They will send there child over sea for better education for there childs needs as they can't find it in were they live. This makes no since as rich have a chance to bring more awareness and change too demanding the need they want for their child. My only problem and you see too with the rich is that they can the possibility of saying something stupid( everyone will follow it) think jenny mccarthy. Besides
expets and advocates( in my mind are the best but we tend to not have the money. Best to leave the doctors to experts or advocates being sponsored from organizations.
I tend to be a all rounder when it comes to autism. And my country knows autism already so
I teach all around the spturim But when it comes to country with no awareness I suggest what you planning already Just stay on a path teach people about high functioning autism it will be easler for NT to understand. And others will relize they are not the only ones who are aspies.
I suggest you do on your own page not on worng planet. Because not everyone has heard
of wrong planet. When someone from India types in aspergers on google for example and if you had your own site They find your blog. It is easier someone to find it then to put it on a different site as this person needs to look high and low for your blog on wrong planet.but you chould do it on both sites.
As far as I know, the chance of an official diagnosis is very slim in India. They would just dump the kid in the usual categories. But I hope this has also changed, like the other things. Same with doctors sponsored by organisations, I'm not sure how well-aware they are, but I hope things have improved.
I guess I'll just stick to aspergers for now. Thanks for the blog suggestions, I'll try to do it on both sites
.Your welcome I love doing what I do,
Lady-ivy wrote:
All this talk is making me want to come to India now.
want to come to India now.It would be great if could visit India. India might seem a little different from the places you've seen, just read up some tourist advice whenever you decide to come, something like
http://wikitravel.org/en/India#Stay_safe
17 Jan 2012, 6:08 pm
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
ps:
Damn! this looks so good. I guess 15 mins is too short a time to exchange phone nos. I hope you bump into him again somewhere
.[/quote
I hope I do see him a again one day. From what he told me he lives in riverside. That about 40 mins away from me( in America 40 mins drive is not problem) but the odds are in low of seeing him again. He has pretty much become one of those people you see once in your life but you remember them for many years. It sounds like a cheesy romantic film plot
if I meet him again but it will be awesome
Any ways how did you meet your wife
18 Jan 2012, 2:17 am
Lady-ivy wrote:
I hope I do see him a again one day. From what he told me he lives in riverside. That about 40 mins away from me( in America 40 mins drive is not problem) but the odds are in low of seeing him again. He has pretty much become one of those people you see once in your life but you remember them for many years. It sounds like a cheesy romantic film plot if I meet him again but it will be awesome
Any ways how did you meet your wife
if I meet him again but it will be awesome Any ways how did you meet your wife
Hehe, nothing so romantic. Arranged marriage. Just got incredibly lucky. In arranged marriages, the romance starts after marriage
.
This system is unfair, some get really bad life partners, and some get angels. I kind of feel sorry for my wife. I'm not a bad husband, but someone like her should have got a much better deal.
18 Jan 2012, 2:26 am
18 Jan 2012, 2:20 pm
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
That kind of stupid and makes no since. Why have autism oranztions and try educating people if you cant have people who have autism try to help educate. They sound very autism speck like.
Lady-ivy wrote:
Or you can work with the closest oranzion in your area or state. ( I read from the autism oranztion list you gave. They do have a autism society( I help with them) I think personlly think they are the best. But they call it there autism society of india. Call them and ask if you can establish a autism society chapter in your area or state.
Starting a chapter in my area! That sounds big. I guess I'll contact whichever autism organisation starts in my city, and ask to work with them. Till then I think I'll stick to spreading awareness about aspergers.
Take your time.
Here to
for a change of awareness
18 Jan 2012, 3:31 pm
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
I hope I do see him a again one day. From what he told me he lives in riverside. That about 40 mins away from me( in America 40 mins drive is not problem) but the odds are in low of seeing him again. He has pretty much become one of those people you see once in your life but you remember them for many years. It sounds like a cheesy romantic film plot if I meet him again but it will be awesome
Any ways how did you meet your wife
if I meet him again but it will be awesome Any ways how did you meet your wife
Hehe, nothing so romantic. Arranged marriage. Just got incredibly lucky. In arranged marriages, the romance starts after marriage
.This system is unfair, some get really bad life partners, and some get angels. I kind of feel sorry for my wife. I'm not a bad husband, but someone like her should have got a much better deal.
How does it work
your parents find the suitable partners. And you both decide on the picked partner.
I guess arrange marriage can looked from this quite from Forrest gump " life is like a box of chocolate, you never what you get) which sum the partners full personality. There is good and bad in every system . Less people are starting to go though arranged marriage now. At least these with Indian heritage from Guyana and America.
I have met someone from bad side of arrange marriage. She was married at age of 16 in Guyana. She was in a abusive marriage until she moved to America then she divorced. now at in her 60s. She is now in a love marriage. Funny thing she tried to ask my parents if
she can adopt me becouse all she had were 3 sons. I guess She pretty much All ways wanted a girl.
You should not say that.
. Am sure Your wife loves you and feels Lucky to have you. Even though I go though sometimes wandering who whould want me or if I'll ever find love. But I then again that normally a question everyone ask themselves
20 Jan 2012, 4:30 pm
Am wondering if if I was to visit India one day. Because I like to visit country were my grandfather is originally from. I how would they treat an Indian mix I know I can read travel guides and tips. But they never say advice for people planing to visit who may be part of the background. whould they expect to me understand cultural things there already. this question I have thinking about for a while.
21 Jan 2012, 6:17 am
Lady-ivy wrote:
Am wondering if if I was to visit India one day. Because I like to visit country were my grandfather is originally from. I how would they treat an Indian mix I know I can read travel guides and tips. But they never say advice for people planing to visit who may be part of the background. whould they expect to me understand cultural things there already. this question I have thinking about for a while.
I know I can read travel guides and tips. But they never say advice for people planing to visit who may be part of the background. whould they expect to me understand cultural things there already. this question I have thinking about for a while.Well it depends on a lot of things. Like, whether you are referring to your hosts or random people you meet on the streets. It depends on whether they see you as an NRI, as an Indian or as a multiracial person. I also depends on who your co-visitors are.
21 Jan 2012, 6:30 am
Lady-ivy wrote:
How does it work your parents find the suitable partners. And you both decide on the picked partner.
I guess arrange marriage can looked from this quite from Forrest gump " life is like a box of chocolate, you never what you get) which sum the partners full personality. There is good and bad in every system . Less people are starting to go though arranged marriage now. At least these with Indian heritage from Guyana and America.
I have met someone from bad side of arrange marriage. She was married at age of 16 in Guyana. She was in a abusive marriage until she moved to America then she divorced. now at in her 60s. She is now in a love marriage. Funny thing she tried to ask my parents if
she can adopt me becouse all she had were 3 sons. I guess She pretty much All ways wanted a girl.
You should not say that. . Am sure Your wife loves you and feels Lucky to have you. Even though I go though sometimes wandering who whould want me or if I'll ever find love. But I then again that normally a question everyone ask themselves
your parents find the suitable partners. And you both decide on the picked partner. I guess arrange marriage can looked from this quite from Forrest gump " life is like a box of chocolate, you never what you get) which sum the partners full personality. There is good and bad in every system . Less people are starting to go though arranged marriage now. At least these with Indian heritage from Guyana and America.
I have met someone from bad side of arrange marriage. She was married at age of 16 in Guyana. She was in a abusive marriage until she moved to America then she divorced. now at in her 60s. She is now in a love marriage. Funny thing she tried to ask my parents if
she can adopt me becouse all she had were 3 sons. I guess She pretty much All ways wanted a girl.
You should not say that.
. Am sure Your wife loves you and feels Lucky to have you. Even though I go though sometimes wandering who whould want me or if I'll ever find love. But I then again that normally a question everyone ask themselvesWell I guess you can describe it like that. The parents (and uncles and aunts) find suitable matches, then there are meetings. The boy meets some prospective brides, the girl meets some prospective grooms. It goes on until the boy/girl finally likes one of the matches.
I'm sorry to hear about the lady you mentioned. I guess arranged marriages are like a box of chocolates.
Well I didn't say that in an emotional way. I am kind of a rational person (like many autistic people). I just weigh the pros and cons in a detached manner in almost everything. I didn't say that to hurt anyone's feelings, not even mine
.
And yes, you will find your special someone. It's just a matter of time
21 Jan 2012, 4:03 pm
Dhawal wrote:
[
Well I guess you can describe it like that. The parents (and uncles and aunts) find suitable matches, then there are meetings. The boy meets some prospective brides, the girl meets some prospective grooms. It goes on until the boy/girl finally likes one of the matches.
I'm sorry to hear about the lady you mentioned. I guess arranged marriages are like a box of chocolates.
Well I didn't say that in an emotional way. I am kind of a rational person (like many autistic people). I just weigh the pros and cons in a detached manner in almost everything. I didn't say that to hurt anyone's feelings, not even mine
.And yes, you will find your special someone. It's just a matter of time
[/quote]
wow seems like the process of finding someone takes some planish energy.. i don't know if i chould ever go though the process. it might be mildly over whelming for me. i natrually get anxiety and become shy to point i want stay in my room intil they are gone when people i never met before outside my house come into my house. I whould possible blew it with with my possible partner.
as long if they are happier now. am pretty happy for them,. as no none should ever surffer abuse
sorry, maybe becouse this is written, I can't read it in the currect emotion way. it funny thing though i had conversation with someone about socialzing in written form. we said that it is hard to understand what emotion and tone of voice is since the conversation is written and these things dont show. i guess that why we have emoticons.
I am looking farward to meeting my special someone one day
but i live in the worng area to find what i have attraction for 
21 Jan 2012, 4:44 pm
Dhawal wrote:
Lady-ivy wrote:
Am wondering if if I was to visit India one day. Because I like to visit country were my grandfather is originally from. I how would they treat an Indian mix I know I can read travel guides and tips. But they never say advice for people planing to visit who may be part of the background. whould they expect to me understand cultural things there already. this question I have thinking about for a while.
I know I can read travel guides and tips. But they never say advice for people planing to visit who may be part of the background. whould they expect to me understand cultural things there already. this question I have thinking about for a while.Well it depends on a lot of things. Like, whether you are referring to your hosts or random people you meet on the streets. It depends on whether they see you as an NRI, as an Indian or as a multiracial person. I also depends on who your co-visitors are.
i was thinking becouse, am mixed with and they might ( am talking about ramdom people on the street) will see it. and they possible had not expernces with mixes they but give me cold shulder and stare at me or they are like bah " it just it a another person" dont really care.
i am not expecting random people to give hugs out of know were. and people will of course will veiw me as a tourist.
even in the US different people veiw me different from there eyes, they think am think am full indian, more indian, more black, black mix. etc but moslty people veiw me as indian
even you said in a a eailer post, that i look more indian and you are from india. am guessing if i visted india different people will see me in different ways in their eyes. but more likey just a mixed
if i ever visit i whould bring someone i know who is indian or mixed themselves ( possiblty family members or married with hubby)
21 Jan 2012, 5:17 pm
Lady-ivy wrote:
wow seems like the process of finding someone takes some planish energy.. i don't know if i chould ever go though the process. it might be mildly over whelming for me. i natrually get anxiety and become shy to point i want stay in my room intil they are gone when people i never met before outside my house come into my house. I whould possible blew it with with my possible partner.
as long if they are happier now. am pretty happy for them,. as no none should ever surffer abuse
sorry, maybe becouse this is written, I can't read it in the currect emotion way. it funny thing though i had conversation with someone about socialzing in written form. we said that it is hard to understand what emotion and tone of voice is since the conversation is written and these things dont show. i guess that why we have emoticons.
I am looking farward to meeting my special someone one day but i live in the worng area to find what i have attraction for
as long if they are happier now. am pretty happy for them,. as no none should ever surffer abuse
sorry, maybe becouse this is written, I can't read it in the currect emotion way. it funny thing though i had conversation with someone about socialzing in written form. we said that it is hard to understand what emotion and tone of voice is since the conversation is written and these things dont show. i guess that why we have emoticons.
I am looking farward to meeting my special someone one day
but i live in the worng area to find what i have attraction for There are people who would be blowing it up with their possible partners. The system is hardly perfect but I'm glad it is there. If I was from a western country, I would've never got married!
Emoticons - you're so good with them. I just thought that if I am saying something flatly, I should not use any emoticons! Now I think I'll use this one
under such circumstances.
And let's hope there are more Guyanese-Indian guys in California in near future
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