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05 Sep 2007, 5:05 pm

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Acceptance. Suddenly, life excites me again.


Interesting, that word, acceptance, has popped up more then a little in my life. 12 stepper programs use it alot. I took the basic meaning of their use of it to heart, well as good as I can. Acceptance therapy, happens to be the method my councilor tossed at me at the last meeting, inbetween my antics with empty pepsi cans. I had to stifle my giggles when he mentioned it, he said it was something from Califorinia, as if that was validation in itself, that it was a good form of therapy. I would have been more impressed if it had some from Switzerland. The therapy, I've used on others, what is wild and all to true at times, it's very hard for me to grasp it when looking at my little oddities. The therapy is just one of those things I stumbled into that seemed to work ok in some cases, wasn't my fault someone actually put it in a more managable form, that others could learn it. But me being me, I'll probably be seconds from death and still trying to figure this all out. But yes, life excites me and I'm odd and I don't give a sh** what others think about me anymore. That's my acceptance. I just so love that line, "Suddenly, life excites me again".


"It came from California" validates it?

OOOHhh, I'm so, so sorry Postie. The bit about there being an excess of nuts and flakes out here? It's actually rather true. I think the weather attracts them. Or, perhaps, the lack thereof. Better to go with what comes out of the place (I think it IS in Switzerland) where they deal with torture survivors. That would be real. And maybe useful.

And not just trendy.

Good luck. What would he do if you started gnawing on the soda can, do you think?



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05 Sep 2007, 5:23 pm

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Good luck. What would he do if you started gnawing on the soda can, do you think?


Not sure, but I know I could make an annoying noise with it, crinkling it repeatedly in my hands. I think he might get an instant message if I threw it at him. Naw he's a really nice guy, wants to help, has an open mind. The Wife says she thinks he actually looks forward to our little get togethers. I sure wouldn't, but then I have to live with me too. So does The Wife and sometimes I wonder how she does it.

Yeah that was my take on it. That California makes it cutting edge, the right stuff, the wonder therapy. It may have been a very innocent statement, I just found it very funny.


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05 Sep 2007, 5:28 pm

HOT DAMN WOOT WOOT WOOT'n'HOOT!! !! 8O :roll: :lol: The Wife found my King Crimson tape. (Court of the Crimson King) Of course she hid it to begin with. Oh joy oh rapture, my deviously conieved and ill conceived plans can move forward. This song should stick for about a week. :cry: :? Which was not part of the plan, but I just live with it. Could be worse, it could be something by the Everly Brothers.
[youtube]http://youtube.com/watch?v=2Y7GDK1ImzM[/youtube]


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05 Sep 2007, 6:51 pm

I will not go on WP today. I will not go on......... Wha?

I have so much to do, responsibilities while Jim is away ... But you keep drawing me in, and now I am lost in your musings and dreams. So wise! Such insights! I love you all and embrace you.

On to Life!

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05 Sep 2007, 6:54 pm

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I will not go on WP today. I will not go on......... Wha?

I have so much to do, responsibilities while Jim is away ... But you keep drawing me in, and now I am lost in your musings and dreams. So wise! Such insights! I love you all and embrace you.

On to Life!

Robyn

Do we need to start a "Hooked on WP" support group, Nannarob? I'll join! :roll:



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05 Sep 2007, 7:02 pm

Jim's usually is on the computer while you are 'live'. While he is away I am on and off WP throughout my day.

But how can we meet on our 'Hooked on WP' support group? I know. We can start a new forum. We'll ask Alex!

BTW I've loved all the videos this morning, and esp yours, Blessed Mom. The words were great for the discussion, but I was hooked on the teear jerking video too.

It's dark and gloomy here, and the discussions and videos seem all the more poignant.

It's also 10 am and I've done NOTHING!

Will return after I have folded the washing which is spread all over the spare bedroom!


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05 Sep 2007, 7:09 pm

:wink: I don't know if it's being hooked on the site or the people that post on the site. I'm hedging toward the latter. :lol: That would be an interesting group, Aspies who need help avoiding being social. :roll: :lol: :wink: Must admit I've not had this problem before. :)



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05 Sep 2007, 7:12 pm

Glad to see people excited about life again! :D :D :D

A couple thoughts on Lau's dream:

When you just jumped into the flow without "forcing things" and without "prejudging" you did a perfect job: You tried cricket, which you had never before been interested in, and found that you could catch perfectly and effortlessly, and it was fun! How neat to find a skill and interest that you did not know you even possessed! You impressed yourself, and so tried to use the same information to impress the woman at the bar.

But when you tried to over-analyze things and plan too much (figuring out the exact change with the most amount of coins) the amount kept changing. Which became frustrating. And instead of just enjoying the beers you bought you got hung up over their cheap price, and kept misplacing them and people kept drinking them for you. Separately, you tried to impress the woman, and so didn't.

I say: your dream says just flow!! ! :D Try new things and discover talents you didn't know you had! And just being yourself will impress the woman in tonight's dream. And the beer will be free and you'll actually get to drink it. :D

I have always been impressed with you, and you have never had to try.
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On talks of dreams:
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The old "We only use 10% (or other small fraction) of our brains." saying is an urban myth. We use every bit of it. Almost the entire brain function has been elucidated. A few years ago, only "the silent area" was unknown territory. This area is becoming smaller as its functions are being discovered.

This is the place of hallucinations and dreams.

They have discovered that this is a memory area for music and sounds, and peoples voices, and things you see, and memories of familiar and old sights.

People who have seizures that originate in this spot experience temporary amnesia. Or deja vu, or have auditory hallucinations, or remember forgotten dreams.

It is an integrative creative zone.

Perhaps it is the area of original thought sparks and showers. :D
In us, it is not "silent".



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05 Sep 2007, 7:14 pm

Thank you for your kind words Robyn! :oops: :D



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05 Sep 2007, 7:20 pm

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CC, This is what I'm listening to right now. I think you will like it. (Please ignore the video. I couldn't find a good one.)


I loved it. Sarah Brightman? Couldn't have been more appropriate or needed. Like Robyn, I got hooked on the video too. It was also very moving. Thanks, Lauri. It's been a good day in the cafe, music, laughter, love, and friendship are the best medicine.

Hi Robyn, Nice to see you. Isn't it great when the men folk go away and we can have control of the remote controls and tech toys? I always enjoy flying solo for a while. :)



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05 Sep 2007, 7:23 pm

Now it's 10:15 and I have picked some stuff off the floor and put it away...

Jim and I went to Bible College for two years. I was chosen to give the valedictory at our graduation. After all I had conformed, and I was shy and pious (read depressed and low self esteem) My theme was: We are accepted by God as we are and so we must accept others - but better expressed than that. It was a big revelation that Someone accepted me just as I was. I didn't like myself very much at all!

I've changed a lot from those days, but acceptance of ourselves is a vital step to mental health. You are very wise, O Chairma Lau!

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05 Sep 2007, 7:26 pm

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...Hi Robyn, Nice to see you. Isn't it great when the men folk go away and we can have control of the remote controls and tech toys? I always enjoy flying solo for a while. :)


I always like it when you have the floor, and when the women folk have it, and I get to see your interesting thoughts.

8O :oops: Oops! (Chuck , who realizes that he has just butted in and intruded, butts out and disappears).



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05 Sep 2007, 7:29 pm

nannarob wrote:
...Jim and I went to Bible College for two years. I was chosen to give the valedictory at our graduation. After all I had conformed, and I was shy and pious (read depressed and low self esteem) My theme was: We are accepted by God as we are and so we must accept others - but better expressed than that. It was a big revelation that Someone accepted me just as I was. I didn't like myself very much at all!

I've changed a lot from those days, but acceptance of ourselves is a vital step to mental health. You are very wise, O Chairma Lau!

Robyn


(Chuck butts in once again)
I've always been impressed with you Robyn!
(Chuck butts back out)



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05 Sep 2007, 7:46 pm

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...Hi Robyn, Nice to see you. Isn't it great when the men folk go away and we can have control of the remote controls and tech toys? I always enjoy flying solo for a while. :)


I always like it when you have the floor, and when the women folk have it, and I get to see your interesting thoughts.

8O :oops: Oops! (Chuck , who realizes that he has just butted in and intruded, butts out and disappears).


I meant at home, Chuck. Not in the cafe. But it was a nice compliment just the same, about the women folk here in the cafe. :) No need to leave, your butt is not intrusive.



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05 Sep 2007, 7:46 pm

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Well, it certainly was reassuring to find out that even though I am "odd" (and there's no disputing that, though I've learned how to "act" quite well over the years) there are other "odd" folks of a similar nature. It was definitely difficult and quite often painful going through life thinking it was "only me" and that it wasn't something that had a name, it was just that I was "different". I had accepted who I am long ago. But it was a lonely kind of place, sometimes.

There are and still will be difficulties and there will still be pain, but at least I'm not alone anymore. And that makes an immense difference in how I feel when I go to sleep at night.

:)

And that's the last gushy, smooshy, touchie-feelie thing you'll ever get me to write. So use it well. :wink:


awwwwww... Nannie. . .you care for us. . you really, really DOOOOOO!!

I am teasing, but your words are true. I will still have problems, still will have pain, but I am no longer alone, I have our little circle here and that has made all the difference in the world. When I come to think how I could have missed out if Lupine had not been so insistant on recycling, I shudder. . .
Saved by my family so I could keep in touch with my family, damn. . that is what families DO, isn't it!

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05 Sep 2007, 7:51 pm

richie mentioned where he was from, haven't been there in years and must admit all I really remember is Hanover Farms in that area. I was thinking for some reason when CC was using a different location under her avatar she might be from that area. A band named Live did a song they dedicated to York Pa., they called it Sh*t Towne. Know anything about Harley Davidsons richie? :wink: I wonder if Hanover Farms still makes shoes. I wonder if that crazy ass guy I knew with the GTO (3 duces, 389) still is alive and living in the York/Hanover area. Most hair rising car ride I ever took in my life was with him. God what a ride, danced with death that night.


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