Hello. Welcome to the India thread!
I read your introduction here - http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp4825721.html
Even though you're from India, I'm having great difficulty following what you've written. It is full of western references that I know nothing about (hulk smash, winging it, tattooed lady, Proff Xavier?). So I'll just talk about the things that I did understand.
You and your husband run a research company in Delhi? That is so interesting. I'm not even able to hold on to a proper job. You wrote that you guys have recently discovered about aspergers, and you're at the initial stage of understanding about autism. Isn't that blissful? To know that you do belong in the same world, and that there is a way to be happy and be yourself? We've all been through this stage, and it is so like having a burden lifted from your shoulders. I wish you guys luck for a better and happier future.
The questions that you've asked, I'll try to reply (whatever I know) in the thread itself.
One more thing, about losing your posts - I always keep saving what I've typed in a notepad file, I'm kind of paranoid that way. Maybe you can try that.
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What is the single most frequent thought that aspies have?
How do NTs do that?