The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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Laurie wrote:

Last week my daughter, Aaron's mom, was taking one of her sons to work and she had her 5 yr. old grandson, Blaze, with her in the car. It would be Blaze's first day of kindergarten and she would be taking him later to the afternoon session. After dropping her son off at work she was headed back home and had to take a detour for some reason. She found herself on roads that she was not familiar with. At one point she was forced to make a left hand turn and found herself - guess where? - at the entrance of the cemetery where Aaron is buried. She took it immediately as a sign from him. He had been so excited about little Blaze going to kindergarten this year and was planning on going along with his mom to take Blaze to his first day of kindergarten. She said to Blaze "Uncle Ari wants to see you on your first day of kindergarten." So she and Blazie spent some time there before going back home.

Previous to that, my husband and my brother-in-law were on their way to do a plumbing job when their ladder fell off the truck. Right in front of the cemetery. In order to get the ladder they had to pull out of the traffic and turn into the cemetery. The weirdness of the situation struck both of them and they looked at each other with that knowing look and said "I think Aaron wants to see us." So they went to his grave and spent some time with him there.

My daughter cries so much that the skin under her eyes is being eroded by her tears. It's raw and bleeding. She tries not to cry in front of the boys. The other day little Blazie saw her crying and said to her "Mom-Mom, I look like Uncle Ari, don't I?" She said "You sure do, Blaze." He said, "Well, when you miss Uncle Ari you can just look at me and then you won't have to cry anymore."
From the mouths of babes.

There are so many stories like these going on in our lives, we can't help but feel Aaron's presence. My daughter and her sister are going to see the psychic, John Edwards in Atlantic City in December. $160.00 for a ticket. Her son bought it for her. She watches John Edwards on tv everyday and it makes her feel better. I think it's an outrage to charge grieving people, or anyone, but especially the severely grieving, 160.00 for a seat in a packed auditorium with only a slim chance of being called upon for a psychic breakthrough, and I refused to go because I don't want to feed into that kind of pain for profit mentality.

Yes, I think Aaron is making his presence felt. My heart breaks when I hear about your daughter! I can't even begin to imagine the ache that the loss of a child causes. I don't want to. It's too bad he can't show her that he is at alright.

I wouldn't go to someone who takes money from people who are downtrodden, either! They prey on the hopes of vulnerable people and make a mockery of their grief or pain. I wonder if it might be something that your daughter needs to begin healing, the hope that he may be able to give her with his words. If it is, the money may have been well spent, even if he doesn't call on her personally.

Lauri, why can't you be my next door neighbor. We would get on so well.

Thank you, Carol. I feel the same way.

I am about ready to pack up the kidlets and move to anywhere but here. Not sure the States would take me, though.

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I know where there's a bunch of 3 bedroom, 2 bath condos on the market in the same complex for only around $260,000.... you can all move in and we'll just make it Aspieland.

Parking is lousy, tho.

THE BIRTH ORDER OF CHILDREN

Your Clothes:
1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy. 2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible. 3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.
Preparing for the Birth:
1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously. 2nd baby: Yo u don't bother because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing. 3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your eighth month.
The Layette
1st baby: You pre-wash newborn's clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau. 2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains. 3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they?
Worries:
1s t baby: At the first sign of distress--a whimper, a frown--you pick up the baby. 2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn. 3rd baby: You teach your three-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.
Pacifier:
1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it. 2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle.
3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.
Diapering:
1st baby: You change your baby's di apers every hour, whether they need it or not. 2nd baby: You change their diaper every two to three hours, if needed. 3rd baby: You try to change their diaper before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees.
Activities:
1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour. 2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics. 3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.
Going Out:
1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home five times. 2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.
At Home:
1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby. 2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby. 3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.
Swallowing Coins (a favorite):
1st child: When first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-ray s. 2nd child: When second child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for the coin to pass. 3rd child: When third child swallows a coin you deduct it from his allowance.

Good grief, man, it works like homeopathy! A beginner should start with explosives equivalent to no less than 1 kg TNT. Only when you have proved a subtle understanding of the flow of energy may you proceed to the gentle but strangely cataclysmic art of sparkler arrangement. What evil genius taught you?



I rest my case! Please, Chuck, contact me, I'll tell you where to find the nearest safe house. Do it now!



Chixculub crater. Need I say more? Asteroid! As if!



Is that how the Stewart woman got you in her clutches? Promises of eternal youth? It's not worth the price. Really, it's not. Please, it may not be too late yet.

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CC,
OOOHHH!! THAT'S TRUE!!

We could have a "special" bus. Bright red so they could see us coming and stay the hell out of our way. "The Aspies are coming! The Aspies are coming!"

Oh, oh!! I think ChuckChuckChuck may have blown up his Feng Shui Landscaping, Martha Stewart lovin self! He's disappeared!

As long as it's not one of the short ones.

Well, just as an exercise in problem-solving... assume that we could all pick up and move somewhere, eventually. For example, when I retire I expect I'll look for a location with a lower cost-of-living. And fewer people (than the SF Bay Area, for example). With the internet, I'm less inclined to feel I need to be near a cultural "hub". So... 1) which hemisphere? 2) which country? 3) which region?

Not Alberta that's fer sure!

Nan wrote:

Preferably it should be a double-decker so we can pack all of our perseverations in the top for easy access while on the road. Okay, Krex, top this. An Aspie Road Trip. Who's in? I want the back seat all to myself.