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25 Oct 2007, 3:00 pm

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Yeah, unfortunately some of us come with rage issue's, no excuse, but they can get a bit demanding. Mostly I internalize it and that isn't very good either. Has a way of creeping back in, in another form and likes to freak me out in in places it isn't good. Mostly I yell at the tv or thin air, took a while for The Wife to understand it didn't really have a pointed direction, but it can do that too. Not proud of it and I try to work on it. I come with pretty thin skinned, kind of conditioned for it from past experiences. I like to eat bullys, on the other hand whiners are just as polished at their game as any bully that let anything evil out of their mouths. Both have issues and that's what we're here for. But yeah, come rest a while.

Would like a muffin?


That's what we're here for? You make it sound like we are on Wrong Planet as some kind of punishment. For the most part, I find the people here refreshingly without either whining or bullying issues. I think we're here to enjoy each other and support our positive traits, help find alternative strategies for negative traits. But I use the term "positive" and "negative" completely subjectively. In other words, if something makes me feel good, and doesn't hurt others, I consider it positive. If it hurts someone, or me, I consider it negative. Positive and negative as absolute values don't exist outside of personal experience, in my not-so-humble opinion. I guess that means "no thanks" to the muffin, for now, but I might consider forgiving you once you've got off of your "we are here because we have issues" soapbox.



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25 Oct 2007, 3:00 pm

Yeah I believe in "Soulmates" also but "Be careful what you wish for...."
I TRULY believed in the whole "Disney Myth" and "soulmates" and all, I really did, and still do to some extant I guess.
However my future ex was my soulmate if I really did ever have one. I dreamed about him and saw him in my dreams once when I was 7. I knew it was him the MOMENT I touched his arm and the VERY first thought that when thru my head was "Oh s**t, its him...don't blow this!"
I could go on and on but the point is, he was my soulmate and look how it ended. I think I was destined to be with him so I would have our (MY) daughter, shes what kept me going during the death of my oldest daughter(she was a year and a half old when it happened and I didnt know she was autistic yet.)
He taught me life-lessons that I unfortunately hadn't learned yet so, Yes, we were destined to meet. I now have gotten it thru my thick head the "Love" as we feel it is just a chemical reaction in the brain and an emotional high that like all highs eventually develops a tolerance. (And I can't tolerate the men I choose :D )


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25 Oct 2007, 3:05 pm

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Yeah I believe in "Soulmates" also but "Be careful what you wish for...."
I TRULY believed in the whole "Disney Myth" and "soulmates" and all, I really did, and still do to some extant I guess.
However my future ex was my soulmate if I really did ever have one. I dreamed about him and saw him in my dreams once when I was 7. I knew it was him the MOMENT I touched his arm and the VERY first thought that when thru my head was "Oh sh**, its him...don't blow this!"
I could go on and on but the point is, he was my soulmate and look how it ended. I think I was destined to be with him so I would have our (MY) daughter, shes what kept me going during the death of my oldest daughter(she was a year and a half old when it happened and I didnt know she was autistic yet.)
He taught me life-lessons that I unfortunately hadn't learned yet so, Yes, we were destined to meet. I now have gotten it thru my thick head the "Love" as we feel it is just a chemical reaction in the brain and an emotional high that like all highs eventually develops a tolerance. (And I can't tolerate the men I choose :D )
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:lol: :lol: I know that high well. Had it with the past 2 marriages. I'm running away from that one, too. And I know better than to believe in Disney (I never watched the Princess movies).It doesn't last past a year or two and it sets you up for all kinds of crap. If the next one doesn't feel like an old running shoe (comfortable and long wearing) I'm not going to be interested.



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25 Oct 2007, 4:00 pm

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I have an opinion on the hard-wired thing anyway. I think that saying we (humans) are hard-wired one way or another really depends on time frame. We may have adapted to certain conditions with a certain way of doing / thinking that works best for survival - at that time.


I am getting this urge .. can't resist ...

Matt Ridley's "Nature via Nurture" is supposed to be very good on the subject, and an easy read. I can provide a slightly more technical reference (still not difficult to read and very good) and a much more technical reference to the state of the art, if desired. Send a pm.

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An education was a bit like a communicable sexual disease. It made you unsuitable for a lot of jobs and then you had the urge to pass it on.



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25 Oct 2007, 4:02 pm

very little time the coming week, starting by ... now :roll:

i leave my clone right here 8O
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp986244.html#986244

hm, whatever :roll:

(sorry i had three cups of coffee, no good... i never drink any, it's terrible as an effect!)



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25 Oct 2007, 4:02 pm

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If the next one doesn't feel like an old running shoe (comfortable and long wearing) I'm not going to be interested.

That is the best description of desirable qualities in a partner I have ever seen. :D



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25 Oct 2007, 4:05 pm

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very little time the coming week, starting by ... now :roll:

i leave my clone right here 8O
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp986244.html#986244

hm, whatever :roll:

(sorry i had three cups of coffee, no good... i never drink any, it's terrible as an effect!)


Oh, Lemon! That is why we luv ya'! :lol:



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25 Oct 2007, 4:08 pm

i thought asking 'because i never drink coffee?'

but then again guess not :?: :!:

really don't understand my own coffeebrain, feels like a cat running after it's own tail
:?


now, did i catch it ?



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25 Oct 2007, 4:12 pm

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i thought asking 'because i never drink coffee?'

but then again guess not :?: :!:

really don't understand my own coffeebrain, feels like a cat running after it's own tail
:?


now, did i catch it ?


Because you are the only one who would think to leave us a clone. :D



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25 Oct 2007, 4:14 pm

Hello peoples......
Another day another backache........ :x


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25 Oct 2007, 4:14 pm

:D :lol: :mrgreen:


sorry richie, this wasn't a reply to your backache, but a response to blessedmom,
hope you feel well soon.



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25 Oct 2007, 4:22 pm

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:D :lol: :mrgreen:


sorry richie, this wasn't a reply to your backache, but a response to blessedmom,
hope you feel well soon.


No headache, but everything else is feeling sore... I've been lifting, wrapping, and loading, heavy windows 10 hours a day
all week long so far and the weather is changing rapidly..... Last week we were near 90 degrees F, now we are barely above 50
with lows in the high 30s at night...... ahhh aahh Achooo!! !!


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25 Oct 2007, 4:27 pm

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postpaleo wrote:
Yeah, unfortunately some of us come with rage issue's, no excuse, but they can get a bit demanding. Mostly I internalize it and that isn't very good either. Has a way of creeping back in, in another form and likes to freak me out in in places it isn't good. Mostly I yell at the tv or thin air, took a while for The Wife to understand it didn't really have a pointed direction, but it can do that too. Not proud of it and I try to work on it. I come with pretty thin skinned, kind of conditioned for it from past experiences. I like to eat bullys, on the other hand whiners are just as polished at their game as any bully that let anything evil out of their mouths. Both have issues and that's what we're here for. But yeah, come rest a while.

Would like a muffin?


That's what we're here for? You make it sound like we are on Wrong Planet as some kind of punishment. For the most part, I find the people here refreshingly without either whining or bullying issues. I think we're here to enjoy each other and support our positive traits, help find alternative strategies for negative traits. But I use the term "positive" and "negative" completely subjectively. In other words, if something makes me feel good, and doesn't hurt others, I consider it positive. If it hurts someone, or me, I consider it negative. Positive and negative as absolute values don't exist outside of personal experience, in my not-so-humble opinion. I guess that means "no thanks" to the muffin, for now, but I might consider forgiving you once you've got off of your "we are here because we have issues" soapbox.


Hold your breath while you wait for my forgiveness plea. Holier-then-thou would have worked better then, not-so-humble.


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25 Oct 2007, 4:30 pm

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I am getting this urge .. can't resist ...

Matt Ridley's "Nature via Nurture" is supposed to be very good on the subject, and an easy read.


Not sure why you would apologise for recommending a book? Something I'm missing? Not sure why its important that its an easy read, either. Something else I'm missing?



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25 Oct 2007, 4:32 pm

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Hold your breath while you wait for my forgiveness plea. Holier-then-thou would have worked better then, not-so-humble.



Curmudgeon is appealing. Condescending is not.



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25 Oct 2007, 4:49 pm

Postpaleo, insinuating (without even the courage to speak directly) that I was a whiner for speaking up about what goes on, and then hiding it in a sugar coated muffin, was a bad ploy to use on me. I see straight through these things and yes, I also eat bullies for breakfast.