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10 Jun 2009, 1:18 pm

hi from England

firstly, I am very new to all this and I am pretty sure I am Neurotypical (is that the right jargon?) so I would like to apologise if

a) this is the wrong place for me

or

b) I say anything offensive

Right. Here goes....

There seems to be plenty of stuff out there for parents of children with Asperger's/autism but I can't find anything for children of people with Asperger's/autism.

I would be very grateful if anybody could tell me good places to read about this on the internet.

I think my dad may have "mild" (high-functioning?) undiagnosed Austism and I would like to find out more.

Hope you can help

-midlander

-later addition: just to clarify, I am 38 and my dad is 70. I love him dearly but over the years I have been thinking that there is something a bit "different" (is it ok to say it like this by the way?) about my dad. There's only so many times you can end up in strange situations due to misunderstandings before you start thinking "there's something going on here....". Putting together a lot of small clues I'm starting to think he may have Asperger's or similar and be undiagnosed. Out of respect for his privacy I don't want to say too much about him here but the stuff I've read about having difficulty interacting in social situations, about getting completely absorbed in hobbies/interests, about being very sensitive to sounds and so on, all make me think I'm on the right trail. Hope some of you can help.



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10 Jun 2009, 3:37 pm

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10 Jun 2009, 10:57 pm

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10 Jun 2009, 11:43 pm

Age 70 is far too old to diagnose anyone with an autism spectrum disorder...

Most old people don't really like to be social anyways, so you could practically diagnose them all.


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10 Jun 2009, 11:46 pm

886 wrote:
Age 70 is far too old to diagnose anyone with an autism spectrum disorder...


Why do you think it is too old?

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Most old people don't really like to be social anyways, so you could practically diagnose them all.


Many people are not sociable. Not all of them have an ASD. There are other criteria for a diagnosis.

midlander, welcome to the forums. I am sorry but I do not have any information about places to seek out information if your parent has an ASD. You could try contacting a place that offers support for people with ASDs and they might be able to help you.



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11 Jun 2009, 7:23 am

886 wrote:
Age 70 is far too old to diagnose anyone with an autism spectrum disorder...

Age 19 is far to young to diagnose anyone with having a brain...

886 wrote:
Most old people don't really like to be social anyways, so you could practically diagnose them all.

Most young people have not been around long enough to have a social presence, so you could practically ignore them all.

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11 Jun 2009, 11:13 am

lau wrote:
886 wrote:
Age 70 is far too old to diagnose anyone with an autism spectrum disorder...

Age 19 is far to young to diagnose anyone with having a brain...

886 wrote:
Most old people don't really like to be social anyways, so you could practically diagnose them all.

Most young people have not been around long enough to have a social presence, so you could practically ignore them all.

(:))


I lend my endorsement to the Truthiness of this post!



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12 Jun 2009, 10:42 am

Crassus wrote:
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I lend my endorsement to the Truthiness of this post!

You may be amused to hear that:
OED wrote:
truthy, a.

rare or dial.

Characterized by truth; truthful, true. Hence truthiness, truthfulness, faithfulness.

1824 J. J. GURNEY in Braithwaite Mem. (1854) I. 242 Everyone who knows her is aware of her truthiness.


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15 Jun 2009, 8:38 am

I also think my father (62) is AS...

When my son was diagnosed I felt my father fitted in many AS characteristics.
He is too sensible to sounds, touch and smells (as a teenager I couldn't use a perfume).
He is obsessed about his work and prefers it to almost everything else (but over the past 5 yeas he plays Ages of Empires on his free time).
He argues that my mother doesn't speak clearly or says things directly (doesn't understand metaphor?).
My conversations with him are always technical (computers, software, etc.).

I won't tell him anything about MY theory that he is AS. I think at his age I think it wouldn't help him and he will deny he is different. It does help ME understand my son.

I also believe I am AS, at least i never felt neurotypical.



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15 Jun 2009, 8:41 am

midlander wrote:
-later addition: just to clarify, I am 38 and my dad is 70. I love him dearly but over the years I have been thinking that there is something a bit "different" (is it ok to say it like this by the way?) about my dad. There's only so many times you can end up in strange situations due to misunderstandings before you start thinking "there's something going on here....". Putting together a lot of small clues I'm starting to think he may have Asperger's or similar and be undiagnosed. Out of respect for his privacy I don't want to say too much about him here but the stuff I've read about having difficulty interacting in social situations, about getting completely absorbed in hobbies/interests, about being very sensitive to sounds and so on, all make me think I'm on the right trail. Hope some of you can help.

I am not an Aspergers expert, but there is not enough here to go on. You could just as easily be describing a neurotypical introvert who is a highly sensitive. Maybe this site will also describe him: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person .



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15 Jun 2009, 9:00 am

It suddenly occurred to me recently that my hermit dad could be an aspie too.