So my sweet little 4 yo boy is an Aspie.

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No real surprise, he's pretty much a textbook case. We've known he was different since he was a baby, but never could pinpoint specifically how or why. His dad and I are both pretty unique, so we thought he just shared our different traits (my clumsyness and nerdiness, and my husband's just plain bizarreness). I can easily understand how many parents panic at such overwhelming news. There are a lot of challenges for us today and down the road. I can live with the tantrums and sensory issues, it's the bullying, anxiety, and depression that my boy sometimes experiences that just make me cry. I've been visiting this site for a while and it's been wonderful to see the real side of Asperger's. I've found that most of the medical websites paint such an ugly and negative picture of Autism and Asperger's that I can see why a parent would run out as soon as possible to find a "cure." The news is not all bad. He's still the same sweet boy I've loved from day 1. So he likes to hoard calculators and can't eat anything cold. It could be worse. Thanks for enlightening a newbie.

You're welcome, dear. As a mom, let me tell you, there is life after diagnosis. And as an Aspie, let me second that. You will just have to think outside the box while your child is growing. Ignore what you're "supposed" to do and do what works for you and him. You and he will be fine.

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Greetings, and welcome aboard the Wrong Planet, number5.

Welcome home, number5!

Merle

That is so very true. As a Mum of an Aspie, and as Aspie myself, I found that life got incredibly easier once I started working outside of the box and doing what worked for us. Good luck on your journey. You'll find a lot of support here.

Greetings number5 and to your son too....number4 ?

Wrong Planet welcomes you both!

Welcome to WP, number5.

You sound like an awesome person and an awesome mom. So very kind and understanding. Your son is blessed to have you in his life.
You say "it's the bullying, anxiety, and depression that my boy sometimes experiences that just make me cry." but please keep in mind that just like so many other diagnoses of all types, kids now have it so much better than they did when I was your son's age (in the 1970's). Bullying is handled in such better ways in schools etc than it ever was in my day; I know it is hard, but there are so many more options. Meds (for depression etc) if you decide to go that route; the internet, for finding real-life stories and advice; and just even general recognition that bullying is not cool, not inevitable, and not something to tolerate in an old-fashioned "kids will be kids" kind of nonsense.

Hang in there. And clone yourself and your husband while you're at it, go back in time, and move your family next door to little four-year-old me!

Welcome to you and to your son.

If he is anything like me, in spite of the difficulties with an ASD, he may in fact like who he is and how he is. With a mum like you , it sounds as if he has a good head start in life.

The parenting section here at WP may offer you support and insight too.

Thanks for all the kind words. I've always been a fan of thinking and working outside of the box. I do feel lucky to be dealing with this now as opposed to 20+ years ago. I know we'll be OK and this kind of support helps to reinforce that. Sidenote: we call my son #5 sometimes because I had 4 prior miscarriages and he was lucky #5. It's such an awesome gift to even have him in our lives and not a day goes by that we don't recognize that fact.

By the way, what's with the emu egg?

WP members get assigned different statuses based on how many posts you have put up. A certain huge number gets you a custom status. If you put up a vast number of posts in a short amount of time, you become a "veteran" as if you had been here forever: an imperfect system.
Newbies are emu eggs, but not for long.

Welcome to WP!

That "huge number" is 1,000 posts.

LOL (I know- I only have 76 more to go- my subtle, inside joke). 75, now, really.