Hi, im new and not sure if im an Aspie or not

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Hi, im new to the page.

As u can see in the title, im not sure if im an aspie or not. heres my story (or at least some background...). Im 19-years-old.

When i was little i always felt a little detached. like, i dont payed a lot of attention to orders my parents gave me and stuff. i always was kind of in my world although i wasnt a lone wolf. quite the opossite, i was always excited. i loved to hang around with people and stuff but i was never sure what others thought of me.

My father is kind of a quiet man, very quiet actually but not like a serious guy hes just the kind of person that only talks about certain stuff and doesnt pay much attention, or maybe doesnt know how to, to othere peoples feelings and stuff. Maybe he's an aspie too, but if you trace back to his childhood he had a lonely childhood and a poor one too. His mother was said to be bipolar but my mom told me that she kinda "turned" that way, or that her "bipolarity" was pushed to the extreme cause someone (i dont know who or if it was the government or child services or what) took her (my grandma) away from my father when he was a kid. Im not sure how that story went, maybe i have to find out more about it. but i always knew my grandma, she was pretty normal, she just seemed a little quiet and kinda childlike, she loved to watch shows like tom and jerry and she always kept a smilke on her face. Then again, she might had been an aspie too.

Anyways, back to me. The stuff that makes me doubt im an aspie is stuff like this: I always loved to draw, but that might have a relation with the fact my father always gave me comic books as a kid. My parents are now divorced, and my mother told me that when they were going to get the divorce, they told me and my brother that they were gonna talk to us about it, and my brother went to where they were to hear what they had to say, and i just turned around and kept drawing or doing whatever it was i was doing (i was little so i dont remember).
I also think i dont feel i have the difficulty to understand non-verbal language and stuff, i think maybe i just kinda choose to avoid it. I make very little eye contact and i have some ocd's.

But my question is what are the chances i just have some childhood issues instead of AS?? maybe i just chose when i was little to just lock myself in drawing and stuff instead of dealing with my family, just because maybe my parent's were arguing a lot or something and doing that for a couple years before they got divorce kinda got me stucked in that attitude and those kinds of activities.

I really not sure and im thinking about going to a therapist to find out, but id like to hear your opinion.

Im not sure if this goes here (getting to know each other) or in another section. Just move it if it doesn't belong.

FYI my mom already took me to a psychologist when i was around 11 cause i got a tick in my eye and used to talk in a childlike voice when i was little. i still got some weird features here and there but they arent as strong as before i guess.

Ok thanks in advance if someone reads all of this and sorry for the long post.

edit: i wrote "i don't make "i" contact" lol.

oops it got posted twice, sorry. remove one, i guess.

Hello, have you taken the test yet, they are good indicators http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php

I think you will find the info here quite good in some places

Kaleido

Ok then im gonna take the test now. i wanted to share more info but i was waiting to see which of the 2 posts i made (unintentionally) was gonna get removed. remove the other one then. Im taking the test and then well see.

Ok im gonna post my results here (cause it wont let me post the link cause im new):

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Your Aspie score: 113 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 98 of 200
You seem to have both Aspie and neurotypical traits

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I still got a bunch of things to say on the subject but i guess ill continue postin later, now i gotta go. id still like to hear some responses. like how could it be that a quiet enough father can cause "asperger's-like" reactions??? is someone in a similar situation family-wise? opinions on the subject are appreciated.

id still would like to talk about my "journey" through school and highschool and my opinion on that. And another thing ill ad to this is that the imagination thing wouldn't be a characteristic on me cause ive always like to draw and write, and ive always draw and wrote "original" stuff (i mean it obviously was inspired from other stuff but it was quite original anyways) and stuff. Anyways thanks for reading.

Nice to meet you, tha_tempest, and welcome to the Wrong Planet neighborhood.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Your father's behaviour could not cause Asperger's. It is a matter of how the brain cells are arranged.
But whether or not you have AS, you are welcome here to talk about whatever you need to talk about.

ok thanks all for the welcome. I think it will take maybe more time and more posting to find out where i am on the spectrum. ill probably do some therapy thouh i say that often and end up not going, so we'll see.

i will add a few more details.

As a kid i loved to play with action figures, a lot. i had a friend with whom ill do that all day. that was up until more or less 11-years-old or so, and then i kinda left him and went on to the more NT crowd because i felt it was kinda absorbing too much of my time and not letting me expierience my life and my capabilities, social skills, etc. but i never stopped liking that kind of stuff, storytelling, playing, etc.

When i went to the psycologist i just used to draw or just sit on the floor and play with the little soldiers and stuff without talking much to her (i think i was 10 years old).

when i play guitar i can pull out almost any melody i can remember. and i remember, (like i think most people would) probably almost any melody i heard and liked. same with the organ or bass.

as i already said, up to when i was 10 id sometimes talk like a kid and i remember one time a couple friends asked me to talk normal or something and they said i talked like "a detective", wich i connected to the "little proffesor" characteristic of people with AS.

im always prone to be with the "outsiders", with the more quiet guys...

im also very passionate about stuff, i like complex stuff, i think ill probably study programming and im also interested in video game programming, game design, etc. and ive learn by myself some graphic design.

What would your opinion be on all that?

some info on my musical tastes...
About music i like new metal, hip hop, some heavy metal and some alternative rock.

Anyways this site seems very friendly and very interesting and i think i'll enjoy being here and reading the posts, even if im an aspie or not.

Thank you all for reading.

Oh, and i forgot to add one thing, my memory. i can remember a lot of stuff, and im a very visual guy, too.

For example last year i was with this guy in my class who i had already met when i was 5 or 6. i remembered his house, i remember i had gone to a birthday in his house at that time, and all that stuff. i told him i remember all that stuff and he didnt remember about it, wich is easy to understand why, and other guys where kinda surprised about that, and about how much i remembered, so i thought maybe they were surprised cause i was so little at the time and stuff but i guess its more than just that.

To counter that theory i had this other classmate who i had already known just for a day when we were 11 or 12 or something (far older than in the previous story) and he didnt remember either, i remembered which game we played that day and stuff and he still couldnt remember much.

So, memories from the past come to me often, but it can get kinda annoying at times, like "can't i just move on?". but i enjoy remembering too, specially the good times i had, so it has a good side to it.

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edit: i forgot to add that besides my long term memory being good, my short term memory is not so good, i tend to forget things, like if a teacher or a friend tells me ill have a test in a week i tend to forget wich day it was gonna be, its hard for me to remember wich subject of my high school course i have wich day without looking at my schedule (mabe thats just lazyness ), and stuff like that.

also this was the link to my aspie-test results but im a newbie, so i dont know how this works:



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Ok just wanted to add that so my profile is more or less complete. I think thats all about myself. I guess i will go roaming other posts, now.

Thanks.

If your dad is aspie too, that can contribute to the confusion.

I remember when I first mentioned aspergers to my sister, she said: that's not aspergers, thats just a .... family thing.

Turns out, on the evidence, that aspergers has featured strongly in my family history. Without any chance of a conversation including diagnosis, of course, it becomes a matter of family pride.

It's hard, too, dealing with professionals who don't really know about the condition. With employers who don't know about the condition. With fellow sufferers who don't know about the condition.

One of the primary conditions is : everyone adapts differently to that early lack in socialisation skills. It puts different stresses on your connections with your parents, siblings, schools, whatever, and those stresses shape your personality and your networks in a purely path-dependent fashion.

1st of all i edited my last post, i added some new stuff there.

2nd: peterd thanks for your response. yeah you could definetely be right it could be running through my family, though in my opinion both my parents are kinda "special", though in different ways. i dont know who i should suspect to have AS so it makes it a bit harder. Not that i really wanna go on a detective crusade, anyways. but i guess ill keep my eyes open to all this from now on.

i already told my mother about this and she says i do have some of the characteristics but how can i know where it comes from?, so she says i can have the same traits but that it could be from different roots, form my personal experiences. she always points out to their (my parents) divorce, and so she concludes i should go to a therapist, which i think is a rational conclussion. So i guess for now ill keep roaming these page and some articles and maybe one of this days i get an appointment with a therapist, but im not very sure about that.

Also excuse me if my english is not so good im not from an anglosaxon country, im from south america.