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I am the NT mother of an almost twelve year old Aspie son. I have two other children who so far appear to be NT also, but I find that every little thing that could be an indicator I am obsessing over.

We did not have a DX until last year and my other two are much younger (second marriage). I am hoping that this site will give me more insight into how my son is "wired". Some days are such a mixed bag, with questions about whether cotton (as in his clothing specifically) is edible and if I know the radiation levels of a black hole. Some days are very frustrating, like when he does not understand WHY he should not try to do experiments on his two year old brother like pouring vinegar on him to "see if it burns his skin".

Welcome. I hope you'll feel at home here.

Hmm, sounds like a future Nobel Prize winner there! You're lucky you've got a curious kid, instead of one of the little droids who never look farther than the end of where their arms reach out to.

I suggest telling him, on the "experiments on siblings" that real scientists have to have all their experiments pass a review board that determines if they'll hurt anybody. And if there's any chance that the experiment will hurt anybody, they shouldn't do it as it's "bad science".

It might buy him off...

Welcome.

Welcome to the Wrong Planet neighborhood, MorbidMiss.

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Curious topic

Your username suggests the state of being morbid.

Thoughts?

Thank you all for the welcome.

I am very proud of my son, he is very intelligent and creative. Just sometimes... tiring. I think that curiosity is good, though I cannot say that my two NT children are lacking in it by any means. They are into everything, as is age appropriate at almost one year and two.

I do think that if my X-Husband (his father) had not been abusive to him, then all of this would be easier. Not to mention the onset of puberty. *shakes head*

We did have a joint discussion about human experimentation with his therapist. We are very fortunate in that we have found a Psychologist for him who has experience with AS, Asperger's specifically, and she genuinely loves to work with these types of children and understands what makes them tick.

As for my name... I am darkly minded and like the Neo-Romantic and Punk aesthetic and music. Although I do not dress up as much as I once did... three kids and all.

Morbidiousness topic

I have an obsession with morbid anatomy, specifically birth defects and teratology. I have a feeling of empathy with physically deformed humans.

I find I have a hyper sense of empathy with anyone that does not "fit in". I am interested in birth defects in the sense that they can be caused by environmental factors damaging genetic code. Also I am mildly ashamed to say I like to look at them because they look "cool". I have an odd sense of beauty sometimes.

No shame topic

I do not think it is shame. I think many of us are fascinated because we are seeing a reflection of ourselves in these persons, who, by accident, disease, or design are visibly different from those whose appearance/health is not noticeable or compromised.

People born with teratological differences used to be called "freaks." I have told my NT children that I am different on the inside (AS) rather than it being visibly physically apparent. I "pass" for normal, or as is called "NT", in a similar way that someone with some African-American heritage could (in the bad old days of segregation) "pass" for white. Of course, I am eventually "outed", for whatever reason, and then there is the typical reaction, and most often it is not pleasant or positive.

You are more fortunate than I, having an AS child. My three children are NT, and they are still learning to understand their mom.

Being a parent to an AS child is different than being AS I am sure. It is also difficult though. I feel pain for him when he fails at something, when he is bullied for being different, when he has lost it and is pacing frantically through my kitchen wringing his hands and making horrible faces. I've watched him lose friends,obsess over things to the point of hysteria, and make "hit" lists.

Raising him is so different than raising my other two children and I feel so much guilt at times for noting the differences. I love him as much as my other two children, he just seems to be a bit more of a challenge. Of course the other two are small, and once they are older they could be absurdly difficult. There is nothing to be done but waiting to see.

Waiting to see topic

Welcome to WP, and I hope this site can be of great help, to you and your family.