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AltonJr
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27 Dec 2009, 5:57 pm

Hey guys and gals, My name is Alton and I live in the Bronx, NY. I became aware of Asperger Syndrome a few years ago and have been convinced since then that I have the disorder, I do not really seek a diagnosis because I don't feel like I need someone else to tell me what I know about myself and then prescribe me a drug that could do more hurt then help, With that being said my life is pretty miserable I wake up and do the same thing's all the time and I hate it for example when I wake up late for work in the morning and have to get on the train when it's more crowded than usual because I always have this feeling that people are watching me and judging me, I obviously have trouble keeping relationships with almost everyone, including my parents, no girlfriend (Virgin and not by choice, lol) no real friends and i am not very close to anyone in my family except my grandparents for some reason I have always gotten along with old people really well...I always feel like a conversation is some sort of test that you have to pass and I always cutt class on test day. If i do find myself in a convo it's a lot of awkward pausing, my mind either goes blank or i think so hard that i mumble, for some reason I feel like I talk normal but sometimes people tell me i'm talking to loud or to low, people also tell me that I often look angry or miserable of course I smile and try to play it off but most of the time they are right.



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27 Dec 2009, 6:26 pm

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27 Dec 2009, 7:46 pm

Here is where we can all fit together, Alton!

Welcome.


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27 Dec 2009, 8:08 pm

thanks for the welcome guys!



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27 Dec 2009, 9:20 pm

Hello Alton, welcome, enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!


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28 Dec 2009, 4:15 am

hi Alton :)

i hope that you feel welcomed here at WP, it is a great community :thumleft:


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28 Dec 2009, 5:54 pm

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28 Dec 2009, 6:43 pm

AltonJr wrote:
Hey guys and gals, My name is Alton and I live in the Bronx, NY. I became aware of Asperger Syndrome a few years ago and have been convinced since then that I have the disorder, I do not really seek a diagnosis because I don't feel like I need someone else to tell me what I know about myself and then prescribe me a drug that could do more hurt then help, With that being said my life is pretty miserable I wake up and do the same thing's all the time and I hate it for example when I wake up late for work in the morning and have to get on the train when it's more crowded than usual because I always have this feeling that people are watching me and judging me, I obviously have trouble keeping relationships with almost everyone, including my parents, no girlfriend (Virgin and not by choice, lol) no real friends and i am not very close to anyone in my family except my grandparents for some reason I have always gotten along with old people really well...I always feel like a conversation is some sort of test that you have to pass and I always cutt class on test day. If i do find myself in a convo it's a lot of awkward pausing, my mind either goes blank or i think so hard that i mumble, for some reason I feel like I talk normal but sometimes people tell me i'm talking to loud or to low, people also tell me that I often look angry or miserable of course I smile and try to play it off but most of the time they are right.


Well I will tell you that I used to be terrible at small talk with most people especially female, but many I just had to work on not being so nervous. Over the years I have taught myself to pick up social cues that did not come naturally to me, and I learned to push myself to talk to others, especially females, n matter how nervous I am. One other thing that may help, is to not look at yourself as having a "disorder'. Everyone is different and thus thinks differently. If you think differently, than most so what? Many great individuals thought differently, than main stream society. Einstein, Galileo, Buddha, Christ.



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30 Dec 2009, 7:38 am

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30 Dec 2009, 11:51 am

Hello Alton. It's hard not to feel judged. This is not something only aspies do. Think of all the people who diet and have face lifts. I don't think they're all aspies.