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Hello, I am female. Early 40's. Diagnosed with Asperger's Disorder. I have four children. My partner is also diagnosed with Asperger's Disorder.

What can I say about myself that wouldn't bore the c**** out of you? Hmmm. I think I had a typical experience in school. It was hell. Constant bullying. Uneven achievement levels. I excelled in literature and art, but I was ret*d in all other areas. I have not been able to maintain employment because of co-morbid learning disabilities. Yet, despite my struggles, I test with above average intelligence and have a uni degree as well as most of the work completed toward an M.A. I think that, for me, this is the hardest part of being an aspie. I have intelligence but I am unable to use it in a productive way in employment.

I don't want to sound too pathetic. I am proud of my autism and would rather be AS than normal any day. I experience a wonderful consciousness and intellectual expereince every day of my life. Also, I tend to think that we with AS are better looking on average than most NTs. So there's that bonus too.

Welcome! I too, am in the over 40 and married club.

Hi, anandamide!

Welcome to WP. I find your experience quite fascinating.

As you and your husband are both Aspies, does it work out well or is the situation quite fractious?

I was also wondering in what type of place or surrounding your meeting your then-to-be husband as well as the circumstances of such a meeting. Such an account might give me enough perpective and insight in order to know where to meet an Aspie lady.

I think i'd like to go with an Aspie lady as NT's are kind of hard to relate to and all that. Also, NT's tend to cheat much more than Aspies. I don't think I could go on if my girlfriend/wife in a serious relationship cheated on me. Cheating isn't merely 'sex' as the NT's believe but outright betrayal of the higest order. In order words, it's the personal-level equivalent of high treason...

Just my 2 cents...

-- David1981

Ghosthunter asked:

"Married how long?" Not officially married. As stated above, we have not been allowed to marry yet.

"since you have kids parented from 2 aspies,
describe similariies and differences since the children
have 2 recognized gene pool and pervasive related
creaters?"

We don't share any biological children, yet. The kids are mine from another relationship. I have one ten year old daughter who shows autistic traits.


"When were you 2 diagnoses?"

My partner was diagnosed in childhood with an unknown brain disorder. That diagnosis was eventually updated to Asperger's. I was diagnosed with Asperger's last year.

"Describe what makes you aspie and not? - characteristics
Describe what makes your partner aspie and not? - characteristics"

That description would fill a book. My partner and I have all the symptoms. We both have intense interests. He tends to persevere in conversation a lot more than I do. he also stims a lot more than I do. But he has way more social skills than I do. I just suffer through social interaction, whereas he actually enjoys talking to people. Most of the time people respond well to him, although they generally go through a period of wondering why he is so odd. Finally, I think they clue in that there is something "different" about him. I watch this happen with him a lot. People just tend to think that I am aloof, I think. We both have tested with above average intelligence but we have learning disabilities. We've both had a real struggle in employment. We both look sort of androgynous.