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Hallo everyone : )
At first, excuse me for my bad english. It's not my primary language. I'm only 16 years old and I don't know if I write correctly

So I need help. I think I have an Asperger's syndrom, but I am different. Af first, ONLY I thnik, that I have it. For everyone I'm totally normal boy. I don't have any problem with communication with other people. I have a lot of friends and I don't have social problems. But I see other signs/symptoms on me. I have "my own world" if I can call it by that name. I like to be alone. I have problems with girls (And girls have not problems with me. That's worse) Somebody is telling me that I speak very "professorly(?)" (good word? ) and some other signs that I can't write in english. So except social problems I see many signs of Asp. syndrom.
I am interested in phisics and programming(and IT generally). I am good at sports(football, volleyball, basketball etc.)

So have I an Asperger's syndrom or am I just stupid? :/

Welcome to WP!

You are definitely not stupid. There are some online tests. On WrongPlanet there are some good articles to read. Do not be afraid to post. Your English is excellent.
Oh, and at age 16, you are supposed to have trouble with girls.

Hello Jozko, welcome,

Enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!

But It's not the problem like "I shame to tell her something " No, it's not like that. I have a girlfriend now, but I don't know, if I want/should be with her. And I refused a few of very good girls because... Indeed I don't know why :/
So thank you. I'm going to read something. I hope I will understand

Yes. Those are the kinds of troubles you are supposed to be having as you work on figuring out what you want in life.

I totally don't understand your post Lelia Sorry...

Hi Jozko! Welcome WP! I have to agree with Lelia - you are not stupid. In fact, you must be very intelligent to be observing your own behavior so well (and at 16 years old!) and considering Asperger's as a possibility.

And teenage girls are not easy to figure out so don't be too concerned if girls seem like a problem area sometimes.

Your English is great - don't worry about messing up. This is a good way to practice. If you ever have a language question, just pm (private message) me - I'll be happy to explain things if you need it. I look forward to reading your posts.

Since I offered to help with language stuff....

She means that certain problems are normal, especially as you mature. These problems help you figure out what you like and don't like as an adult.


And my thought: If you do have Asperger's you could have questions that come from it in addition to questions about regular teenage stuff.

Thank you Happymusic.

I think Dr. Asperger did refer to AS kids as the "little professors".

Enjoy your time here Jozko.

Thank you people. You're really great

I have one and (probably) last question: Can I diagnose AS myself? Is possible that I only think I have it? As I wrote, I see some "syndroms" pro, but even cons AS (Did I write this right? : D)
Exactly I don't know, what's wrong with me, byt something surely is

btw. Now I don't care about problems with girls, so please stop discussing about this. I will fix it somehow

And withal one question: You wrote about some online tests? Where? A can't find it...

To WrongPlanet!! !

Here's the tests (click on the underlined text, it's a link):

Wrong Planet - General Autism Discussion: Set of scientific tests related to Autism Spectrum Disorders

Good luck/enjoy!

Here in the UK at least, people are only diagnosed with disorders like Asperger's if there is significant problems in their daily functioning. Some people shop around online looking for things that are 'wrong' with them when there is nothing really wrong at all.

Okay, here are some extreme examples, but: if you have unusual difficulty in finding a job, if you have real problems communicating that leads to misunderstanding, isolation, and to a certain extent if you lack emotional 'intelligence' and exhibit some symptoms of cognitive dysfunction, if your performance at school declines the older you become, then you more than likely have a disorder of this sort. I saw a show on the BBC where several people with Asperger's were profiled. Because it was for TV their symptoms were very obvious. One guy met up with a girl he met online, who also had an autistic disorder. When they met at the cafe they both sat at the table, looked at the floor, and said absolutely nothing to each other for five awkward minutes. The girl carried around a set of cards with her with faces printed on them, which she used to express her emotional state. It was 'good TV' but not all autistic people are like that.

For many years doctors said nothing was wrong with me and it took a near total nervous breakdown at age 26 before they took me seriously. Now I have my diagnosis but no cure.

To be honest it's not something you want to have. People often say things like 'Oh look at Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, he probably has Asperger's, look at how nerdy he is, what a computer genius he is!' and so on. But the reality is that people overdiagnose and misdiagnose especially in the age of Wikipedia. A disorder by definition means a PROBLEM, outside the scope of problems that 'normal' people face.

The sad fact is that life for a lot of autistic people can be one long, lonely journey that has little meaning or love.

Welcome, Jozko!

Even specialists don't always agree on whether someone has AS or not, and the experience of it seems to vary a lot, so my advice would be not to worry too much about whether you have it or not, but focus on resolving the difficulties you have. You certainly don't sound stupid.