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13 Apr 2010, 5:15 am

I found this forum doing a Google search looking for support and information on Asperger's. I haven't been officially diagnosed but that doesn't matter to me. I've finally found why I've always felt like I wasn't made for this world. Everything about AS fits for me...finally.

I'm 48 years old and have spent my life trying to understand what's wrong with me and why I keep going through so much suffering, why I'm so different, why nobody gets me and why the heck I perceive things so differently than everyone I meet.

I read a book about Highly Sensitive People a few months ago and so much of that resonated with me, but it still didn't fill in many gaps for me. After seeing Aspie stuff written and mentioned a few times with things I relate to (characters) and ways I behave (people joking that I'm weird just like those characters), I started reading everything I could possibly find online about it last week and have been reading voraciously ever since, until my eyes burn from tiredness.

I did two online tests and even though I know they are not diagnostic tests, they only confirmed what I know after reading. This is me.

It's like "At Last!" I have an answer.

Where do I go from here? I'm not sure. But I feel like I have a home now and some way to understand why I've felt debilitated when I shouldn't be (ie. I'm highly intelligent. How can I be so DUMB when it comes to relating to people???) and then despairing.

I guess that's enough of an intro for now. I am horrible at making friends and connections and need to learn how to get social support, as well as deal with many of the issues inherent with AS that cause me difficulties, so I'm glad there's this forum.



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13 Apr 2010, 5:22 am

Welcome to Wrong Planet! :D



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13 Apr 2010, 5:27 am

thanks :)



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13 Apr 2010, 5:36 am

Since I've been here, I have been continually surprised in finding out the things that are not part of the DSM but many of us have in common. I hope you enjoy it here. :)



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13 Apr 2010, 5:44 am

crocus wrote:
I found this forum doing a Google search looking for support and information on Asperger's. I haven't been officially diagnosed but that doesn't matter to me. I've finally found why I've always felt like I wasn't made for this world. Everything about AS fits for me...finally.

I'm 48 years old and have spent my life trying to understand what's wrong with me and why I keep going through so much suffering, why I'm so different, why nobody gets me and why the heck I perceive things so differently than everyone I meet.

I read a book about Highly Sensitive People a few months ago and so much of that resonated with me, but it still didn't fill in many gaps for me. After seeing Aspie stuff written and mentioned a few times with things I relate to (characters) and ways I behave (people joking that I'm weird just like those characters), I started reading everything I could possibly find online about it last week and have been reading voraciously ever since, until my eyes burn from tiredness.

I did two online tests and even though I know they are not diagnostic tests, they only confirmed what I know after reading. This is me.

It's like "At Last!" I have an answer.

Where do I go from here? I'm not sure. But I feel like I have a home now and some way to understand why I've felt debilitated when I shouldn't be (ie. I'm highly intelligent. How can I be so DUMB when it comes to relating to people???) and then despairing.

I guess that's enough of an intro for now. I am horrible at making friends and connections and need to learn how to get social support, as well as deal with many of the issues inherent with AS that cause me difficulties, so I'm glad there's this forum.


Wow... your story sounds so much like mine! I too read the book about Highly Sensitive People before stumbling across Aspergers and learning that explained it all. I was 52 yrs. old at that time.


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13 Apr 2010, 10:22 am

Glad to meet you, crocus - welcome aboard the Wrong Planet.


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13 Apr 2010, 11:47 am

Welome aboard Crocus. I was diagnosed March 2009 at age 48, so I know where you are coming from. As for "Where do I go from here", thats exactly what I've been asking myself for the last 13 months, BUT, it sure does answer soooooooooooo many questions, doesn't it ?



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13 Apr 2010, 1:03 pm

Aimless wrote:
Since I've been here, I have been continually surprised in finding out the things that are not part of the DSM but many of us have in common. I hope you enjoy it here. :)


I was also surprised by many of the 200 questions on one of the tests I did and how in their diversity of functions and perceptions, were at the same time precise and pin pointed the things that I've felt were weird (aka non-normal) with me. I have a feeling I will enjoy it here :) This past weekend a boy from one of my daughter's classes came to my home to work on a school group project. She described him as awkward and different and gave examples of some of the things he did, for example conversationally-wise she said he was strange and put people off. I felt for him, knowing exactly what that's like. Anyway, when I let him into the house, and spoke to him for a bit, I had a "it takes one to know one" Aspie moment. I felt an immediate rapport and comfort with him, contrary to what most people feel around him, I'm sure.

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Wow... your story sounds so much like mine! I too read the book about Highly Sensitive People before stumbling across Aspergers and learning that explained it all. I was 52 yrs. old at that time.


Hail to us young "old-timers" finding out what makes us tick! :)


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Glad to meet you, crocus - welcome aboard the Wrong Planet.


Nice to meet you too JetLag. I like your username.


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Welome aboard Crocus. I was diagnosed March 2009 at age 48, so I know where you are coming from. As for "Where do I go from here", thats exactly what I've been asking myself for the last 13 months, BUT, it sure does answer soooooooooooo many questions, doesn't it ?


Yes, it sure does answer many, many questions. It also helps with my confidence and sense of self esteem, which has taken a massive beating.

Thanks for the welcomes. Nice to meet you all.



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13 Apr 2010, 2:21 pm

Welcome to WrongPlanet, and welcome to my time warp. :)


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13 Apr 2010, 2:28 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
Welcome to WrongPlanet, and welcome to my time warp. :)


oooh cool! Do you have a moped?



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13 Apr 2010, 4:26 pm

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13 Apr 2010, 7:09 pm

thanks for the welcome richie *waves back*



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13 Apr 2010, 7:13 pm

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13 Apr 2010, 11:02 pm

Hi Tim Tex :) Thanks for the welcome.



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13 Apr 2010, 11:26 pm

crocus wrote:
(ie. I'm highly intelligent. How can I be so DUMB when it comes to relating to people???)


Perhaps the truth is, most people pretend they're happy, but they're really not.
I'm a people watcher. They have their cars, nice clothes, jewelry and everything that shouts "NT" to the world, but I've visited neighbors who have "it" together.. and really, they don't have "it" together, their broken marriage (kept in the closet), their addictions (people you'd never suspect as abusers... are using, in the closet, to fill in that black hole they call a soul... alcoholism and many vices... because they don't have "it" together, but they sure put on an impressive splash social impression they do.

If you want to be NT, just become good at acting... none of its real in the real world. In other words, if its any consolation, you're really not missing much.

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14 Apr 2010, 12:32 am

AspieForty wrote:
crocus wrote:
(ie. I'm highly intelligent. How can I be so DUMB when it comes to relating to people???)


Perhaps the truth is, most people pretend they're happy, but they're really not.
I'm a people watcher. They have their cars, nice clothes, jewelry and everything that shouts "NT" to the world, but I've visited neighbors who have "it" together.. and really, they don't have "it" together, their broken marriage (kept in the closet), their addictions (people you'd never suspect as abusers... are using, in the closet, to fill in that black hole they call a soul... alcoholism and many vices... because they don't have "it" together, but they sure put on an impressive splash social impression they do.

If you want to be NT, just become good at acting... none of its real in the real world. In other words, if its any consolation, you're really not missing much.

Welcome.
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I couldn't have put it better myself :idea: