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I figured I'd sign up and see if this would be an interesting community to join. I'm not sure if I have aspergers or not. I've had multiple doctors say they suspect aspergers but none of them have given that as a diagnosis. It was just in a paper they wrote after an exam. I know I have something similar if it isn't aspergers.

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Hello kwilky,

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Yes,a very interesting community indeed.

Pleased to meet you, kwilky. Welcome aboard the Wrong Planet.

Tim looks like chris pirillo.

Did Chris gain weight

Definately seems to be the friendliest online community I've joined since my ventures with the internet.

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So, you don't know if you have aspergers. Do you care? Does whatever you've got get in the way of your life being the way you'd like it to be?

Hello kwilky, welcome, enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!

Welcome to WrongPlanet, and welcome to my time warp.

Yes it does.

Because they're not qualified to make the diagnosis and you'll have to seek out a specialist in that area.

The doctors leave it up to the person to do the referrals for themselves.
Or, you could ask one of those doctors to make a referral for you... they may seem put off a little ...expecting you to do it yourself. An NT might think to pick up the phone and make that phone call (if they have the information).
An Autistic person may stand there, in limbo and not quite sure what to do... its all about inertia, waiting for the doc to say, in literal black and white, "we need to get you a referral to see an Autism specialist."

You'll have to take it on yourself to make that move and advocate for yourself, needs and treatment.

Seriously, I've ran into some incompetant doctors. (Educated idiots). One child psychologist/doctor who counseled both of my daughters had it on her records that she suspected Aspergers / PDD-NOS on the kids... but what good is it, if that is sitting idle, locked away in her medical records?

Heck, I don't have a clue how long she had it on her records. She knew the kids were having a very hard time at school, and socialization skills... but not once did she make me aware of it, until my daughter came home with a paper, that mentioned it and brought it to my attention. That particular counselor did NOT want me involved with the counseling, did NOT bother to share information with me... when I tried to sit in, and take part, she'd give the silent treatment, but did at least confide one evening (after seeing my oldest daughter's diagnosis), that she suspected my younger daughter.

ALL I WAS LEFT THINKING, SITTING THERE ON THE COUCH: The school went unaware and oblivious of any such speculation/diagnosis. My kids were struggling in school... why hadn't she brought this to my attention? Why did it take so long to say anything?
While she was sitting on her suspicions, my kids were having a terrible time at school... and hey, can't blame the school. They're not going to do anything, until they have a hard-copy diagnosis in hand, to approve for that person to receive accomodations to meet the needs for their learning disability.
I began trying to advocate for myself and my kids needs at that point.
All those years... the kids were Autistic, and "normal expectations and environment" forced on them. It was easier for some school staff to blame my "bad parenting skills" for the failures... Autism never became a part of the equation, until recently. A fight against bigotry, ignorance, intolerance and incompetance all the way to the bitter end.

Yup... sadly, some doctors feel its a "need to know" thing... won't share information unless you tell them you need to get DOCUMENTATION, -- the docs / counselors just can't seem to figure out why schools, employers, college, etc., NEED TO KNOW, you're Aspergers.

Doh... for starters, does Developmental Learning Disability ring any bells?

I'm not sure. I remember my mom telling me once that I had a terrible time in kindergarten, that I didn't do very well. I know I always had a very hard time in school. Didn't finish school actually because of my hardships. I was never diagnosed with anything back when I was a kid though. My mom never brought anything up. After I was really falling behind and shortly before I dropped out a counselor at the school said I should get tested for aspergers. I had never even heard of aspergers at that point in time but my mom had heard of it. I still never got a diagnosis though. She just swept it under the rug. Maybe I should go get tested so I can finally figure out what it is I have instead of speculating about it.

Pronto too...

There are bookoos of people who have never been diagnosed, never even suggested to them or never heard of it; struggling, existing day to day with lives that seem "purposeless" -- no friends; abused, scapegoated for everything that goes wrong, gossip, slander, etc on psychological, physical, even predatory sexual abuse (esp. as children (because Aspies are nieve)... all courtesy of "normal people". Feeling, as if they were born "cursed" or ... yeah, born on THE WRONG PLANET ... and not happy and well-adjusted, because they cannot figure themselves out (but are typically more distracted, trying to figure why people are so "strange". Like many Aspies assert, "I don't want to be cured," esp. not if being "normal" means I've got to be illogical and absurd.

...and if you don't know, and people who affect you don't know it... its consigning yourself to a life of being misunderstood by yourself and others. You need the diagnosis in black and white if Aspergers / Autism is the underlying cause of your problems. If it is, and you have documented verification, you will be better equipped to know what to do next and where to go with your life.

I can definitely relate to that. I do not understand why people do the stuff they do and I don't want to be like them. If they're normal then I don't want to be normal. Haha.

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