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There was a man at a Self Advocate Conference who is 35 years old and because he has a learning disability, he lives with his parents.

The problem? His parents are strict Southern Baptists and throw out any of his books and music they find offensive to their religious views just like as if he was still a teenager. How can We, an Advocacy Group, let the parents know he is an adult, and that they should give him more respect without alienating the parents?

At his age, I personally feel he needs to get out of his parents' house. If he doesn't have a job a disability advocacy group could help him find one, or he could start searching for one. Than he could either save some money to get his own place (like a small apartment), get an apartment if he can calculate that his wages will cover it, or maybe a shelter .

It is hard to allow in your house that which offends you. Unless where he lives can be remodeled into a separate apt. I'm not sure what you can do. I'm sorta with the parents here. But I see the man's dilemma here too.

I thought I had it bad, living with my parents, who seemed to have something against England. This is 20 times as bad, as the stuff, that I had to deal with. Still, I needed to break free and be my own person.

You can't. They aren't going to change their religious convictions just because you don't agree with them, and the simple truth is, its their house, they can make whatever rules they want.

The only solution is for him to move out and have a space of his own. If he's buying books and music, I assume he's got a job of some sort, that would imply that he's somewhat functional. Is he capable of keeping up with rent and utility bills? Or finding a roommate who can?