My name is Jacob, and I just got my Asperger diagnosis yesterday. I saw a counselor (LCSW or something like that), who is not a doctor. She said that she hesitates to "label" people (I think because she's not a full doctor), but that I did fit most of the criteria for Aspergers. The only thing is that I had no delay in my linguistics skill (I actually am very good at learning new languages) and I do like to share my interests with others on occasion.
So I went to the counselor to get help with bipolar issues, and she got me talking about what my friends and family have observed in the years that they have known me and then I mentioned that relatives have said that they think I have Asperger's, am like Rain Man or Forrest Gump.
So I am at least glad to have figured some stuff out, and the more I research Asperger's the more sense it makes. Right now I feel bad because I truly think that my sense of empathy is lacking and that's got to be why things are hard for my wife.