Changes that exhaust you

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On this thread, I listed a few of the small changes that leave me utterly exhausted in dealing with:

Some more:

- Using an emacs without the customizations I have added to my own .emacs
- Using a terminal session in Bash rather than ZShell
- Getting a differently sized monitor
- Buying a new cellphone with a different UI. It takes me months to get used to the different buttons
- Using any other keyboard layout other than Dvorak
- Using a new keyboard
- Using a program which does not adhere to keyboard shortcuts, or has different ones
- Having someone change the order of books in my bookshelves
- Having someone move the books scattered on the floor near my bed, to bookshelves
- Getting a scrape on one hand which forces me to use the other hand to do things
- Changes in packaging of various products
- Discovering that the cross-walk button on an intersection has broken
- Eating with utensils which are different in size and shape than the ones I am used to
- A restaurant changing the type of utensils they use
- A restaurant changing its menu
- Moving to a house which obeys different rules for where the light switches are. In my last house, the switches were on the inside right side of the door as one enters the room. In my current house, they are all on the outside of the room. I've lived here for almost a year and still find myself flicking at switches which do not exist.
- Moving less than 2 blocks away from my old house
- A store I regularly go to, closing down or moving locations

Last minute cancelations of plans make me very depressed. I've gotten into gear for whatever was supposed to happen and
I have no Idea what to do.

Also, holidays. Aside from the superficial useless time with the relatives, my routine is shut down.

Oh, and going somewhere to negotiate with, or talk to someone about something, and they happen to be out
that day, or took off for a while when they're supposed to be there. I have to contain little meltdowns when that
happens.

This is posted in the wrong section.

^^^ Ah, sorry. Which section is to supposed to be in?

ETA: Oh, I just noticed. Could a mod move it to the General Autism forum?

General Autism Discussion.

I forgot everything else I had to say when I saw the one about the revised The Gunslinger. You're talking about the Stephen King book right?

League Girl: I thought about it, but then realized that resistance to change also characterizes non-Autistic people. There is already a forum specifically for OCD and Schizophrenia issues, for instance, and the people who post there may be left out if I posted only in the context of autism.

The Getting to Know Each Other forum therefore seemed the least likely to exclude people who experience a resistance to change, regardless of diagnosis.

MisterJ: Yes, Stephen King's book. The revised version infuriated me perhaps more than the anticlimactic appearance of Randall Flagg and the Snitches in the later Dark Tower books.

I am curious, yet frightened.

I used to have many issues with what most would consider minor changes, however, I've overcome many of them.

An important thing to ask yourself is, "Does it really matter for any logical reason?" If the answer is no, you should just move on and stop thinking about it.

[An important thing to ask yourself is, "Does it really matter for any logical reason?" If the answer is no, you should just move on and stop thinking about it.[/quote]

This could be my cure-all, if I weren't to start thinking about whether it logically applies to any situation.

Unwelcome changes:

I used to hate it when my favourite seat on the tube was already taken.
the company making my favourite hand soap changed the formula affecting lather and consistency - wow, do i go on about it, my husband gets glassy eyed as soon as i start, oh yes, minor detail - they changed it 4 years ago!! !

Small changes that cause me problems (or changes that other people consider small, but I consider large):

Any situation where there is either a new person, or a person I was used to has gone.
Situations where people commit to come eg weekly, but only come fortnightly or monthly, and are unpredictable.
New people who do not introduce themselves or are not introduced, and their role is not easily identifiable.
Changes in appointment time, eg a support worker normally comes Tuesday at 10am, but either changes that time or cancels.
Changes in tv schedule. eg when Sky recently took over some extra channels and some shows disappeared and others were rescheduled.
Change of presenter on radio programmes.
When the local shop changes layout or stops selling certain foods.
Menu changes in a cafe or pub.
Staff changes in any shop etc.
If a shop I buy my clothes from goes out of business.
I hate it when they change meds brands from generic to specific, or from normal release to extended. Different pill colours, sizes, shapes etc drive me batty.
Bus schedule changes, and if they change the type of bus used, eg coach to minibus, or the route taken.
My neighbour's routine changes. eg she normally does her garden on Mondays, if she does it another day I get thrown. Fortunately for me she has OCD, so her routine is pretty fixed normally.

I live alone now, but when I lived with other people there were far more problems, eg with things being moved, ppl sitting in my seat, noises, different routines etc etc. Noises at night I find particularly disturbing. If I went to bed before my exhusband, I couldn't sleep. If he did anything like turn on the central heating, or do washing up I would just lie there listening to him. As he had long term effects from a head injury he had insomnia, and I often started work at 7am, so it wasn't an ideal situation.

I'd like to be more 'logical' about this, but its not in my makeup to cope well with these things at the moment.