JohnPaul wrote:
My son sees a consoler once a week to help with his issues & anger. My wife has read several books and getting tips/help from professionals. Progress is slow. Somedays he is great with his sister and the dogs. Other days he is angry and violent with them. We don't take it personal, we don't punish him, but he does get sent to his room to calm down and regain control.
Is this done calmly, or with a tone of punishment? It is important to help him to calm down in a way that he feels secure, even whilst letting him know that his behaviour is not OK. Comforting a child like that is not rewarding bad behaviour. It is necessary for dealing with meltdowns. Has one of the books your wife has read this one?
http://www.amazon.com/Asperger-Syndrome ... 931282706/Also, are the sensory issues being addressed?
JohnPaul wrote:
But then I fustrate myself due to my lacking social skill, my lack of physical being (don't smile, lack of eye contact, afraid to speak up), which has affected my marriage (cause my NT wife looks into body launge soo much), and it sets her in a bad mood with out even talking to me about it. It fustrates me that I like/enjoy/happy with my work more than my personal life. I don't have to try hard at work, it comes natural, and everyone thinks I'm the greatest. But at home I'm so fustrated and don't know what to do...
So I came here to read other peoples comments and share my life. Not sure what help I'm exactly looking for. I have a counsler to try and help me with that. I know I need to set better goals in my life and manage my finances better.
There are several books available for Asperger couples, some written by people married to aspies. Maybe one of those would be useful.
Is your counselor familiar with the ins and outs of Asperger Syndrome? This could help a lot.
I think that over time you will also find a lot of supportive help here at WrongPlanet.
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When I must wait in a queue, I dance. Classified as an aspie with ADHD on 31 March 2009 at the age of 43.
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