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Geez...I'm a recently diagnosed 56-yr-old female Aspie, with Dyslexia. I'm not gay, or Bi, but often have been asked if I am, because I'm not very feminine looking, or acting .I always knew there was something wrong/different about me. I believe my Dad had it too. He had an IQ of 186, but ended up working for the NYC subway system as a repairman till he retired. He had no long-term friendships, and one helluva temper!
My parents divorced when I was 2, and I'm an only child, with no kids, so when he passed away a couple of years ago, I lost the only person in the world with whom could relate. My Mom thinks this whole Asperger's thing is just a cop-out, and an excuse for being an underachiever. I feel that several people on her side of the family might have it, too, along with the food allergies which typically accompany Asperger's.
Only one person from that side, one of my cousin's sons, ever graduated from college, and it took him over 12 years to get his degree.
One of my other cousins has a grandchild who I believe has a more sever form of Aspergers. He was barely potty-trained in time for kindergarten, and he mostly grunts, points, throws screaming fits, and speaks at a 2-yr-old level, but he's a computer whiz. Maybe when somebody figures Adam out, they'll finally accept my diagnosis. Till then, I'm on my own. I live alone, and work in a job off, by myself on 2nd shift. Driving is the only job I can handle with Aspergers and Dyslexia. If not for spell-check, I don'y know what I would do.
Are there any other late-diagnosed adults out there with whom to discuss these issues? This isolation is so frustrating!
Thanks; AlienAted

Let me get this out of the way... hello and welcome to wrongplanet.

This site does have plenty of late diagnosed people. Sometime ago the term was tossed around here 'pre-diagnosis era'... who knows maybe it is still typed here. I do not frequent this site like I used to. Anyway... since aspergers did not make its happy way into the DSM until the mid 1990's, there are a lot of us who were not diagnosed until we were in our 30's, 40's and laters. Aspergers was not really a part of my vocabulary until I was thirty. Trust me, you are not alone in this here. There are a lot of us.

There are also a lot of people who will be able to relate to family difficulties. Unfortunately, there are cases where the people who should be the ones who support and encourage us fail to do so in hurtful ways. I am sorry that this seems to be the case with you.

I would recommend taking some time to browse the sub forums... you will find many decent people who might have very similar stories to share. You might also want to try posting in the haven as you will likely get more responses there that consist of more than 'welcome to wp'. I hope that does not sound rude or anything... I just want to be helpful and encouraging to you though I often fail to convey my intentions properly.

Anyway, I hope you find this site helpful, useful and comforting to you. I hope it makes you feel less alone when you get to seeing that there really are others like you out there.

Welcome to Wrong Planet! I am 55 and was just diagnosed. My father, whom I have lived with for the last five years, just passed away. He was an Aspie Savant. So I think I may know where you are coming from. I don't have your family problems, since my parents are deceased and no one else in the family even talks to me, including my kids. There are a lot of us out here, if that makes you feel a little less alone. Come on in and test the water.

Welcome to WP! I wasn't diagnosed until my late forties. I went through my whole life wondering why I had so many people problems. So, you are definitely not alone, AlienAted. I hope you can feel at home here.

PS: While I don't know if I get mistaken for being gay, I certainly get hit on a lot by lesbians!

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