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Chris71186
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04 May 2011, 6:10 pm

hey my name's Chris :) I figured sense I was new I thought it would be appropriate to first tell you a bit about my background story and how I came to be where I am now. I'm not sure how to lead into this, so I'll just begin

I had a really tough childhood growing up. I was one of the unfortunate ones to deal with aspergers before it was a proper diagnoses. I was diagnosed later as an adult. However as a kid all I knew was that I was somehow "different". This distressed my parents and teachers like you wouldn't beleive. I would get rebuked by my dad constantly about how I need to act "normal" or "better". I would remember having day dreams about the possibility of me being from another planet [quite literally], I doubted my humanity often. I had no freinds growing up and I honest to God don't know how I ever made it. The fact that I didn't kill myself as a teen makes me very very very strong to say the least!

As an adult it got alot better as I started to understand a few more things. Alot of the emotional wounds from my childhood have made me incredably insecure about some things. It has also made me a hard charger who is very bold and chases after whatever he wants with no fear. I've come a long way.

It would be nice to meet a few more people with aspergers because I notice some differences in me that I wouldn't even aspect from a typical aspergers person. For starters I'm very extroverted and love being around people, I'm just not a pro at it. In person I'm actually quite weird..... but I'm not scared of people, just can never seem to break through that "wall" called "socail normality". I am what I am and thats the model I play by with my life.....

I'm corious about 2 things

1. Can anyone relate to my story and struggles?

2. Is there anyone who is the type of aspie I am? One that isn't secluded and introverted? But one that enjoys people but just has a hard time knowing the proper means of how to act?



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04 May 2011, 6:30 pm

Welcome to WP!


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05 May 2011, 9:25 am

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05 May 2011, 9:28 am

Welcome to WrongPlanet

Whilst I can't particularly relate to your story, it's good to see that you "survived" growing up and that you didn't kill yourself (something I can relate to, having come close twice in the past).

I'm not really extroverted, but I do enjoy socialising to an extent and depending on the day too. Though it also depends on the type of people. After leaving the negative atmosphere of school two years ago I was very much a hermit with major anxieties, but I've managed to recover myself by finding more positive atmospheres.


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05 May 2011, 2:53 pm

Welkome to WrongPlanet. :)

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05 May 2011, 9:48 pm

I like people too. I would not call myself an extrovert. I have people that I see alot and then I get over my social anxiety. I'm an aspie, so I'm not a great conversationalist.But I care about my friends and I enjoy spending time with them. When things go south for me is when I am surrounded by people who are new to me, or when there gets to be too many people. I'm married and I always say that in winter of 2004, my wife and I got snowed in and we were able to spend Christmas with my brother-in-law, his wife and their son. It was a great Christmas because I wasn't surrounded by tons and tons of people. So I like people, but 3 or 4 good friends at a time is best for me!



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05 May 2011, 10:58 pm

Djn wrote:
IWhen things go south for me is when I am surrounded by people who are new to me, or when there gets to be too many people.


me to.... I'm never never good around new people. I'm confortable around the freinds I have only because I've known them for a long time :)

P.S. Your married???? Man maybe there's hope for me yet lol!



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05 May 2011, 10:59 pm

Chris71186 wrote:
hey my name's Chris :) I figured sense I was new I thought it would be appropriate to first tell you a bit about my background story and how I came to be where I am now. I'm not sure how to lead into this, so I'll just begin

I had a really tough childhood growing up. I was one of the unfortunate ones to deal with aspergers before it was a proper diagnoses. I was diagnosed later as an adult. However as a kid all I knew was that I was somehow "different". This distressed my parents and teachers like you wouldn't beleive. I would get rebuked by my dad constantly about how I need to act "normal" or "better". I would remember having day dreams about the possibility of me being from another planet [quite literally], I doubted my humanity often. I had no freinds growing up and I honest to God don't know how I ever made it. The fact that I didn't kill myself as a teen makes me very very very strong to say the least!

As an adult it got alot better as I started to understand a few more things. Alot of the emotional wounds from my childhood have made me incredably insecure about some things. It has also made me a hard charger who is very bold and chases after whatever he wants with no fear. I've come a long way.

It would be nice to meet a few more people with aspergers because I notice some differences in me that I wouldn't even aspect from a typical aspergers person. For starters I'm very extroverted and love being around people, I'm just not a pro at it. In person I'm actually quite weird..... but I'm not scared of people, just can never seem to break through that "wall" called "socail normality". I am what I am and thats the model I play by with my life.....

I'm corious about 2 things

1. Can anyone relate to my story and struggles?

2. Is there anyone who is the type of aspie I am? One that isn't secluded and introverted? But one that enjoys people but just has a hard time knowing the proper means of how to act?


My typing finger is low on fuel, but I will say I totally relate.