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Hi there, I am undiagnosed and 55 years old. I attempted to get a diagnosis recently but the AS was completely ignored and the psychiatrist concentrated on depression. Anyway I am lucky in the fact that I am in the UK and all this waste of time was free. It sounds an expensive nightmare in the US to get a diagnosis.

I'm here to seek friends and understanding; I've suspected AS for a while and having now read about females with AS know I have many traits, having had selective mutism all my life especially when younger, even now its a problem as I have to speak in a weekly meeting at work.

When I read Aspergirls by Rudy Simone it was like having that moment you think you are going to have in heaven when they say, well thats why that happened and that and that, it answered everything and was awe inspiring and very profound and I'm sure there will be many more moments of understanding, however I read the book on a plane going to the States to see my lover who has OCD, not sure if he has AS but I'll never know because I had told him I suspected I had AS before leaving. Once in the States a tiff took place via text messages and he is no longer speaking to me and it has finished. Could be because I told him I don't know.
I think because of reading the book I suddenly felt my needs should be more important than before, which was a mistake. I came home knowing it is a very bad idea to let people know because, firstly they don't believe you or worst still think you are ret*d in some way. I think of myself as extra gifted and certainly not lacking in any thing thats worth having. But anyway, it made me determined to try even harder to perform as I should and try to do everything I knew I should do at work even though I can't stand all that buttering people up, and to really stay on the ball in my work and my life. I realise now how hard I try and how much I have managed to achieve, although it seems poor compared to what most NT's have. But I can do better and I bloody well will. Hoorah!!

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Hello and welcome to wrong planet I have been meaning to read Aspergirls by Rudy Simone, it sounds like a good book to read. As for your psychiatrist concentrating on a diagnosis of depression, some women with aspergers are first misdianosed with depression or bipoplar: http://www.help4aspergers.com/pb/wp_a58 ... 83e339.JPG. (this is a table I found useful when trying to figure out about my aspergers). I hope you find that useful

Hello, welcome to WP. I actually wanna read that book too! I don`t like reading but I may find it interesting!

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Hi Deeply

I have also just read the same book and although I already knew that have Aspergers it was like a light being switched on, the charts at the back especially were written just about me! :)

The book has certainly inspired me to tell more people that I am an Aspie and so far I have had a mostly positive response, although some family have just laughed and dismissed it. Awareness is still very low in the UK, especially among females.

Most people say "but you seem so normal" they do not realise how many hours and the wasted childhood we spent learning how to appear "normal"

I really do believe that if it feels right to you then you have Aspergers, as diagnosis is observation and opinion of a professional, and you are the most knowledgeable about yourself!

I have lived 30+ years knowing something is wrong with me, but I am so glad that I live in a time of people like Rudy Simone and Tony Attewood, they are my new heroes!

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