Hello, this is my first message. I am 46 years old. I have been reading about aspergers and I can relate to it as I am socially very quiet and do not seem to connect too well with people. Often when the social chit chat kicks in I tune out and feel that it is just waffle. People around me are always communicating and I wonder what they have to talk about.
I was recently accused of being autistic. I made a joke about it and then they said 'no seriously you are autistic'. I was shocked at how convinced they were that they were right. I am conscious now of everything I do thinking that people can see that I am autistic even though I have never been diagnosed.
It is like society is pointing its finger at me because everyone is so aware of autism these days. It feels like people are looking at me and smiling to themselves.
I have always wondered why I have had so little success in life. So few lucky breaks and this would partly answer that question. I do not wish to get wrapped up in misery about this as there are plenty of people who struggle in life for various reasons, so I plan to hold my head up and deal with things the best I can.
It is not all bad as I get very wrapped up in what I do and as my girlfriend tells me I get in my bubble, but I can be very content whilst deep in concentration. I have a degree in mathematics and I avoid alot of responsability with my unsociableness, but I do Have a feeling of being unfulfilled which I do not think will be addressed anytime soon.