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ACerulean
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30 Jul 2011, 8:58 pm

I don't know if I have Asperger's Syndrome or if I am even on the Autism spectrum. I've never been evaluated by a psychiatrist. The closest I come to a diagnosis is reflection on myself and my habits. However it is because of this reflection that I feel that joining Wrong Planet would be a good decision. I have a horrible time with social interactions. I get the feeling that I put the wrong foot forward and make myself appear stuck-up when I use large words and complex phrases in colloquial speech. I often avoid social interaction because I don't really excel at conversations and I often grow bored when talking with others. It does not help that I vastly prefer solitary activities. I do recognize that I should socialize and at times I find myself desiring social activity, if only for the fact that it's the only way to meet people to play DnD with, but my attempts are usually failures. I prefer internet forums and social networks because I have an easier time expressing myself when writing. It's easier to converse when I don't feel like I risk looking like a buffoon and when I don't have to worry about as many social guidelines. I don't really know if socializing is common here, but I like the idea of a group of people who also have difficulties with social interaction who might be able to share some tips and strategies. It is with this in mind that I say hello to the community and hope that I will be accepted.



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30 Jul 2011, 9:04 pm

Hello, welcome.


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31 Jul 2011, 12:41 am

Hi! I'm new, too.

I think I have similar problems with wording things. When I was a kid, dad hired tutors to instill a large vocabulary in me. It seems to have worked, but I have trouble translating my thoughts and feelings into language, and I always feel as though I'm not communicating effectively if I don't use the exact words for what I want to say. I think this causes people to feel that I am trying to project an air of superiority, or that I am more intelligent than I really am (and therefore intimidating).

I think it's too late for me to benefit from a diagnosis, but if you are considering getting one, it might help you to think about how an evaluation might improve your situation.

Also. What makes you feel as though you "should" socialize at the times when you prefer being alone? Just curious.

Anyway, welcome.



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31 Jul 2011, 2:46 am

Welcome to WP!


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31 Jul 2011, 2:47 am

I'm also new. Hello.


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31 Jul 2011, 3:39 am

Welcome.


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ACerulean
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31 Jul 2011, 8:43 am

schnapps wrote:
Hi! I'm new, too.

I think I have similar problems with wording things. When I was a kid, dad hired tutors to instill a large vocabulary in me. It seems to have worked, but I have trouble translating my thoughts and feelings into language, and I always feel as though I'm not communicating effectively if I don't use the exact words for what I want to say. I think this causes people to feel that I am trying to project an air of superiority, or that I am more intelligent than I really am (and therefore intimidating).

I think it's too late for me to benefit from a diagnosis, but if you are considering getting one, it might help you to think about how an evaluation might improve your situation.

Also. What makes you feel as though you "should" socialize at the times when you prefer being alone? Just curious.

Anyway, welcome.


Sorry, I really couldn't think of any better way to reply than to quote your message. I feel like I should socialize because I see with large groups of friends or followers who provide them with a sounding board for their thoughts and ideas and I feel that it would be nice to have someone whom I could talk with. I can't really say that I think I should socialize because I am lonely, instead I think I should because the world is built on relationships and it would be nice to have someone to lecture, for lack of a better word, besides my parents and my brother.



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31 Jul 2011, 9:04 am

Welcome! I'm new here, too. I know what you mean about thinking you should maintain social interaction because the world is built on relationships - I'm not lonely either, and I can go for great lengths of time without talking to anyone and be perfectly happy, but occasionally it *is* nice to connect with people and have someone to talk to. I also prefer the internet over face to face interaction, since it's so much easier putting my thoughts into words than it is verbally. It's kind of nice to find a forum full of people who deal with the same thing.



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31 Jul 2011, 3:09 pm

ACerulean wrote:
Sorry, I really couldn't think of any better way to reply than to quote your message. I feel like I should socialize because I see with large groups of friends or followers who provide them with a sounding board for their thoughts and ideas and I feel that it would be nice to have someone whom I could talk with. I can't really say that I think I should socialize because I am lonely, instead I think I should because the world is built on relationships and it would be nice to have someone to lecture, for lack of a better word, besides my parents and my brother.


Quoting's fine. I hope you don't mind that I did it too.

I think I understand what you mean.



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31 Jul 2011, 5:06 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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31 Jul 2011, 8:53 pm

Welkome to WrongPlanet. :)

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03 Aug 2011, 6:11 pm

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03 Aug 2011, 6:44 pm

Indeed. Hello and welcome in. You'll have to fill the kettle up yourself. I'm sure there's a couple of biscuits lying around somewhere... ;)