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I fell upon this website when researching Aspergers. I currently live with my S/O who is previously diagnosed with ADHD. During development he was diagnosed with speech and motor development problems which still interfer with his life ( but I still love him, even if he trips over his own two feet .) I came upon Aspergers when researching motor problems and was amazed at how many of the symptoms fit my S/O. Today we asked his grandmother to go over the list of symptoms for confirmation.

Currently we're looking into getting him tested ASAP and have gotten in contact with the proper groups for help with that. It was just strange to see so many of his traits right there in black and white. We've gotten over our initial shock and hopefully from now on things can get better. So thats my story and hopefully this forum can give me insight into how he percieves things and help me realize that hes not a mean super villian( joking of course.)

-L

hi welcome to WP. what does S/O mean?

S/O means Significant other.

Hi and welcome

Sounds like you're a pretty good S/O yourself. Hope you enjoy it here.

KILL THE NEWBIE!! !

Just kidding. Wlecome.

Welcome!

Yet one more person using "Meep" on occasion. It has beeen remarked here before.
And "Eeep" when surprised or worried.

"...insight into how he percieves things... "

No two people are exactly the same. We all measure from our own stakes in the sand. Realising this helps a lot (many don't get that far!) but does make for a more complex world.





"Fashion" is a verb. It means, for example, to fix two pieces of wood together with a nail.

I realize that not everyone views everything the exact same and I'm sorry if my comment seemed to put everyone into a single category, I wrote it a little nervous and with him occasionally looking over my shoulder making sure I wasn't writing evily mean things to him. By the comment I mean the social aloofness and the problems that have occured in the relationship due to it. At first when we were dating I used to villianize him beyond belief thinking that him not being able to pick up on my being upset until I began screaming was because he was so self centered. I also used to think that him suddenly interrupting me with the original idea of a conversation was him being self centered also, and of course I used to believe he was egotistical beyond belief, luckily about a month or so into our relationship I realized that the poor boy didn't mean to do any of these things. We've been trying our best for the past two years to try to work with the problems in the relationship, which is one of my reasons for being so happy in a way to find out that he met the criteria for Aspergers, and I notice that this response totally got off course, darn late nightness.
Thank you everyone for welcoming me!

Hi and welcome to WP

That wasn't the intent of my post, apologies if it seemed to be so indicating.

The realisation of how differently different folk perceive, not limited to AS by any means, is a freeing but a complicating understanding.



All of these, of course, are quite possible with someone who has AS.
Neither the condition nor the diagnosis turns us into saints!

But knowing about AS goes a long way to spotting where the frustrations are at core misunderstandings, not evidence of neglect or abuse.


One from me, where I and my friends have adjusted: when I'm really listening to someone, I prefer to do it with my eyes closed. It's not boredom or indifference. I want to really listen, respect the speech, and I do things best one at a time.
My friends have learnt this, and I have learnt how oddd the mannerism appears to many, who tend to read it by their own standards.