Coping with an intollerant society. How do you fare?

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I just wanted to rant a little on what I have had to face with being "different" and wonder if anyone has had similar experiences and how they cope with an intolerant society who is in denial about a real struggle we face.

I spend the majority of my time in my own little world escaping the mundane reality of life. I often am isolated as I am to odd for others. I always had trouble looking people in the eyes. I feel like I am naked in a room and it kind of hurts in a way. I can't stand it. When I was younger I would get under the couch cushions or a bed because the pressure felt good. Often I want a hug simply to alleviate this need to press up against something. Even when I sleep I need to hold something to feel the pressure. I never knew why I was so strange in that. The odd thing is I normally can't stand being touched. I absolutely cannot stand anything sticky as it literately drives me insane and for some reason I have this obsession with washing my hands or just wetting them. People always asked why I do that. I just have this hate of having dry hands for some reason yet I cannot stand lotion as it feels gross to me. I don't even know how to cope with my condition as I get labeled with being emotional disturbed and ADHD (during school in California). I often feel overwhelmed with trying to fit in and thinking that everything is fine only to find out I am hated by a lot of people because I don't act like them.

My last job was a living hell as the guy I worked with hated me for being different and couldf not get past his thick skull I could not help what I was. I was harassed in that job quite a bit by the other two PT's. Kind of a miracle that I was even in that job as we had to deliver things. The town was small so I was able to navigate to some places but other than that I used a GPS as my directional ability is so finite its rather sad. How do you cope in the work place when people simply don't understand the struggles you have with social interaction and continue to degrade you for being different. My bosses did not care as they were more concerned with the lack of workers they had and I was pretty much told to suck it up after I had been threatened multiple times by a hot head. I don't know. I digressed into a rambling but not many people understand the direction as to why this was so stressful and depressing.

I always knew I was "different" but I am sick of the cliched just think positive and it will all go away and what not. I find that to be a lazy response by the selfish public to refuse to see an existing condition and make accommodations so the person can cope with it. No matter how many times I try to explain to people that I am different and people misjudge me all the time and think I am just making things up in order to excuse what they consider simply negative behavior. Apparently I have a consistent monotone sound and people like to tell me how I am feeling a lot when they have no clue. Your angry, your depressed, etc. Do people think I am lying when I try to explain to them how I REALLY feel. I guess that's why I am often off put and in a bad mood is trying to tell people I know how I feel and don't need to be told what I feel.

I agree very heartily with this. I can NOT stand the intolerance of some people. Granted, as we get older, people have tended to get a little more tolerant (mind you I did NOT say ALL people) but even with that added bit of tolerance, it's still almost unbearable. I think I'm approaching my breaking point however, I have put up with this intolerance long enough in my mind, as have we all, people need to start getting angry in my opinion. In short, yes, it's BS. TOTAL BS...I could rant for hours on the subject but I will spare you =D Though it's good you've survived this long with these people, that takes will power. Oh and good luck with the ***holes of society out there in the future =D

Thanks for that. I would not blame you for ranting as I just did it lol. I know one friend who expressed her understanding because she had a brother like me. People who really know me usually say that someone has to really get to know me before they judge me but unfortunately people are to quick to judge and to lazy to break out of their obsessive conformity. Being unique I guess has its ups and downs. Stay strong brother.