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Hi, I'm a mom of a 9 yr old son who has Asperger's. He is my only child. He was diagnosed quite some years ago and I have been doing the best that I can to do what I think is best for him. He is mainstreamed in regular education and does have an IEP, but somehow I feel he doesn't always belong there. He is a bright, intelligent child, but his behavior in school is so erratic. He tells me everyday how much he hates school, he refuses to do his school work and getting him to do homework is even more of a struggle. I am at my wits end!! He knows how to do the work, yet just doesn't think it's important. I have tried many behavioral plans, yet nothing seems to work. Does anyone know how effective social stories/pictures are? I have used schedules because I know he HAS to know what is coming up next, but I don't think the written language is always effective. The teacher has been great in working with me, but even she has told me he can do the work and could be a better student. He is disorganized, forgets things, loses things and he just doesn't seem to care. HELP!! I know if he applied himself he could be an A/B student. I am not asking for perfection, but some kind of team work to where he can be successful and to where he can be proud of himself and his accomplishments. He is a pleasant child, very sociable in his Aspie way, but just very leisurely.....his grandfather calls him the Renaissance man, a man of leisure. If he could, he would just sit at home, read, play video games, eat and sleep. Wouldn't we all love to do that all day? Heehee....how in the world am I supposed to teach him the education that he is getting now is for his future? He knows EVERYTHING there is to know about Star Wars, so I know he CAN learn whatever it is they are teaching him at school......Any suggestions would be helpful!! Thank you so much in advance!! ! ~M~

what i remember my mom doing with making me do my homework was that she would sit down with me and stay there until i did it. if i didn't do my homework, i was not aloud to watch my shows or play games. it was very stressful for me(and probably for her) the first few days but after a while you start doing it out of habit of doing it(i think she knew she was forcing me into a routine.. she is a lot like me in that way),. she only did this kindergarten and elementary school. in middle school i made my own routines.

I don't think this method will work for everyone because it really seemed like she knew exactly how i would react to what. and it may cause your son to throw fits and temper tantrums.. Is this new this year or is it every year? if its every year than it may be something to do with comingg off of summer break and needing to make a new routine.


i am not sure if any of this would help you. maybe you can ask again in the parents descussion forum with a different subject title that more related to his school problems. Some of the parents may have gone through the same thing with their kids and not be clicking because they think it is just an introduction thread.

well... welcome and i hope you find something that helps

My mum used to sit with me until I'd done my homework as well. The only difference is that I used to enjoy going to school (for the learning bit), but found it rather hard to concentrate on home work assignments.




I avoid the situation above by organizing everything (bookbag, computer, pens etc.) before going back to work or school. makes me feel less stressed out about the routine change.



Try to find a solution that works for the both of you. I hope you sort things out with your son, and welcome you to wrongplanet.

good luck.