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Hi

I'm 39 on Friday, mum of 2, wife of 1 - been a bit 'odd' all my life - never really knew why. Always thought I was the normal one and it was every bugger else that was weird.

Did an AQ test ages ago and got a higher than normal score which made me think, but after a sequence of events last night which culminated in my dh and I having this massive row, I ended up taking the Aspie quiz.

Discovered I was 'most likely' an Aspie, which explains a helluva lot!!

DH won't consider looking into what it means for him/us till I get a 'proper' diagnosis so I shall be off to my GP soonest, but I have spent the morning on this forum having a poke around and seeing what's what.

I'm sure you'll see me around again!

Hi Rubydoobs

Welcome to WP. I'm sure you'll feel very welcome here. I'm nearly 39 too, married with one child and I live in the UK (Scotland) as well. I joined here to get some advice about my daughter and then became enlightened about myself. As you can see from the scores in my signature, it really shouldn't have been a shock (and it wasn't).

I look forward to seeing more posts from you. x

Hi. I'm 34 and found out this year. I also thought it was everyone else (the world) that was weird. I am a Mum too.

DH has just got up (he works nights and sleeps days) and said he had also taken the Aspie quiz last night after I'd gone to bed.

His Aspie score was only 32/200! I forget what his NT score was but he is very definitely not Aspie. It quite surprised me actually as when we talked last night he seemed a bit resistant to the idea of me being Aspie. I was curious as to what his score would have been as in many ways we are quite alike.

I wouldn't have asked him to take it, but I'm quite glad he did.

But he still says I should try to get a proper diagnosis, which I agree with.

It's funny because when I'm in my comfort zone, like at home with him and the girls, and we're all happy - I feel totally normal. It's just when I'm thrust out there into the outside world I feel uncomfortable, or if there is any conflict or problem, I find it difficult to deal.

hi Rubydoobs! i am a 39-year-old weirdo too! i have a 17 year old daughter. i just got a proper diagnosis in May.

ruby happens to be my favourite name in the world, and your profile pic made me smile. welcome to WrongPlanet!

Welkome to WP!

Mick

To WrongPlanet!! !

Nice to meet you on Wrong Planet, Rubydoobs.

My husband got a really low score as well, not even borderline. Like you, I was quite surprised. He definitely has AS traits, can monologue for Scotland and appears to be less socially able than me (if the wedding we were at a few weeks ago is anything to go by, especially as he knew most of the guests, I only knew a few). In addition, he's dyslexic, has mild facial blindness and a bouncy walk - all often occur alongside AS - amongst some other quirks and he's generally not an average kind of guy.

I asked if he'd answered correctly and he said that maybe he doesn't see himself the way others see him. So for questions like, 'Do people often tell you that you keep going on and on about the same thing?', he might say 'no', because he doesn't realise this happens more often to him than other people, or, 'Do you stutter when stressed?', he'd say 'no', because he's unaware that he does this all the time and that's why I tell him to slow down. There's even a question about facial blindness, which he would say he doesn't have, even though he's demonstrated it on numerous occasions, but he thinks he's no worse than average. I might persuade him to do it again, and I'll sit with him.