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RedwoodCat
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04 Dec 2011, 12:23 am

After having lurked for a few weeks, it's time to say "hi!" I found out that I have Asperger's about a year ago after my daughter was diagnosed. At first it was a relief, as it explained the many problems I've had all my life. Now though, I feel worse than ever, as I am acutely aware of the many situations that make me uncomfortable, and all the limitations that I had been in denial about for so long.

Earlier this year I decided to improve my outdated skills in computer programming/technology, as I've been in love with computers for 40 years, and programming for about as long. I'm scheduled to start working on a Masters in Computer Science (multimedia concentration) right after New Year's. My self-confidence is very low though, and I'm having trouble mustering up any enthusiasm for this or anything else.

I would love to hear how others have coped with learning they have Asperger's late in life, especially other women. I myself am 47, and live with my NT boyfriend and my 13-year-old daughter, both of whom I love dearly.



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04 Dec 2011, 1:54 am

hi, i'm 55. i figured out i have asperger's this year while researching it because a young relative was diagnosed. it's made sense out of many things about my life. it reinforces things i already knew, like it drains me to interact with people 24/7. i have told only those closest to me, definitely not those at work.

there is a dormant thread which may answer some of your questions - straight talk for women on the spectrum. just search for straight talk and click on the first result.



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04 Dec 2011, 2:16 am

Thanks a lot for referring me to that thread. That's just the kind of info I'm looking for.



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04 Dec 2011, 4:07 am

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04 Dec 2011, 8:56 am

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04 Dec 2011, 2:37 pm

Welkome to WP

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04 Dec 2011, 4:50 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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05 Dec 2011, 3:58 pm

RedwoodCat wrote:
After having lurked for a few weeks, it's time to say "hi!" I found out that I have Asperger's about a year ago after my daughter was diagnosed. At first it was a relief, as it explained the many problems I've had all my life. Now though, I feel worse than ever, as I am acutely aware of the many situations that make me uncomfortable, and all the limitations that I had been in denial about for so long.

Earlier this year I decided to improve my outdated skills in computer programming/technology, as I've been in love with computers for 40 years, and programming for about as long. I'm scheduled to start working on a Masters in Computer Science (multimedia concentration) right after New Year's. My self-confidence is very low though, and I'm having trouble mustering up any enthusiasm for this or anything else.

I would love to hear how others have coped with learning they have Asperger's late in life, especially other women. I myself am 47, and live with my NT boyfriend and my 13-year-old daughter, both of whom I love dearly.


my name is Brandon King and welcome to our family :)

what part of California you from? im from the Central Valley, Merced County to be exact. is Santa Rosa in North or South? its very rare for me to talk to aspies this local so excuse me for getting a little excited, normally when aspies live near me they either live in Oregon or Arizona.


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05 Dec 2011, 8:10 pm

Well my name is Rozanne and I'm from Escondido, CA...which is down south in the San Diego area. So now we have 3 Californian's here!
I am a new/old member of WP. I registered almost 10 years ago, got busy with life, had an injury in '05...and for some reason over the summer I had a seizure disorder push me pretty hard from "people rarely guessed" well adjusted Asperger's to what is more really like outright Autism with a high IQ, which is much more of a struggle to cope with.
Knowing the diagnosis can be very empowering, especially now that there is a lot more science. I'm "old school". Was dx "very high functioning" back in the early 80's and mainstreamed. I was diagnosed with Asperger's as soon as it was an accepted diagnosis in this country, but even after that...all the research on autism for years was just psych theory and not much real hard science.
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