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When NTs find out you have AS, what is their reaction?
Poll ended at 24 Jan 2012, 3:08 pm
They have no idea what AS is or don't know you have AS 41%  41%  [ 7 ]
They are shocked or surprised 24%  24%  [ 4 ]
"Oh, it all makes sense now..." 18%  18%  [ 3 ]
"I'm sorry" or they pity or look down on you 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
They don't care; it doesn't register with them 18%  18%  [ 3 ]
Total votes : 17

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10 Dec 2011, 3:08 pm

Hello. I am new to this site but have read some information. While I am not sure if my experience is typical as I have mild Aspergers (diagnosed), I would like to find out what others experiences are like.

NTs baffle me, and while I get along with co-workers well and can navigate in social settings it is mentally and emotionally exhausting and whenever possible I prefer to be alone. I am married with kids, however other than family and one friend who died earlier this year I have virtually no close friends.

That used to bother me but it doesn't anymore. As for my wife, I met a gal who is similar to me and we are very much like a partnership than a romance. We have never been "in love" with each other, and have no idea what that means, but we have shared values, beliefs and worldview and work as close team. We enjoy each other's company and hope to do so for many years to come. I guess knowing who I am and what I am makes this world a little easier.

As for all else, as I realized that NT's are fundamentally wired differently than us. They live through their emotions and re-experience those emotions again and again. What baffles me is that those NTs that know I am autistic either envy my memory or analytic / logic skills (aka "savant skills") or pity that I have never felt "romance" or what they consider emotional "humor". How can I miss what I have never or will never had? How can I boast about something I take for granted like breathing? Confusing...

Anyway, please let me know your thoughts, or not if you so wish. Thank you.


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10 Dec 2011, 4:23 pm

Welcome to Wrong Planet!


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10 Dec 2011, 4:31 pm

a few of them had already guessed or suspected it.


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12 Dec 2011, 10:53 pm

A mix of "Oh, it all makes sense now..." and having no idea what it is.
Fortunately mostly the former but with only a "thin" understanding of AS, although I have had one claiming I can't have AS because I'm nothing like RainMan. :roll:

And - welcome to WP! :cheers:
What you've described sounds very familiar to me and you'll find many others have the same types of experiences.
Take a long stroll through "General Autism Discussion" and you'll see you're at home here too.


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14 Dec 2011, 6:56 am

The Big D and Errol welcome you to Wrong Planet! Enjoy your stay!


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14 Dec 2011, 9:31 pm

Welkome to WP

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15 Dec 2011, 4:43 am

I usually don't tell people that I have AS only my family knows.

Welcome to WP! :D


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15 Dec 2011, 8:18 am

People don't believe me until they get to know me. Then they just think I'm an a***hole who is NT.