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I've just joined this forum. I was looking for the most active Aspergers forum and this one seems to be it.

I suspect that I might 'have Aspergers', and have been referred for assessment in late January. I've struggled over the years to get on with, or in, this world and I am coming to consider Aspergers as a large part of the explanation for that.

Whether my diagnosis is postitive or not, I am coming to place, psychogically, in my life where I am happier about accepting what I am like, rather than believing I have to change in some fundamental ways. And I am not just talking about characteristics that would perhaps be thought of as Asperger-specific. I am talking about what I take to be the natural inclinations of humans, at least male ones, in general, that are suppressed by civilisation. I am currently quite Freudian in my views in this respect.

Okay. That's my introduction, so, Hi!

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Welcome

Welcome to the forums!

Hello. I am new here, too. I am hoping to find a place that I can relax and chat with people where conversation isn't so difficult and that I don't feel so alone. I don't have a diagnosis, and am a little afraid of going in... I have spent a bit of time reflecting on this irrational fear, and I think the reason that I am the most frightened is the possibility of not coming out with a diagnosis. I have known for a long time about some of my specific symptoms, and have tried to address them on my own, but have been unsuccessful. If I leave without a diagnosis at this point, I will be back to researching and failing over and over when I try to apply new approaches. I know that things take time, but my marriage is falling apart, and I am scared and alone, with no tool to express this. If I say that I feel a certain way, I am asked why, and there is usually not logic in emotion, and I cannot find the correlation in which to explain it. Anyway, I am new, and I hope I can stay, even if I do not end up having Aspergers. Virtual friends are better than none at all, right?

Nice to meet the virtual you, Dawht.

I think I know what you mean regarding the negative diagnosis. Overall, I would probably rather come away with a postive diagnosis because I think to me it would mean some kind of validation by the society of which that diagnosis would be part, and would also provide me with a sense of arrival at the answer to, or resolution of, an ongoing search for understanding what's going on in my life.

But I am not too worried if the diagnosis is negative because, as I indicated, I am already coming to a greater acceptance of myself and was doing so before AS appeared on my horizon. This has come about through a process lasting the last year or two where I kind of set out to get to the bottom of why I don't seem to be able to function effectively in this world. In line with this, recently I have actually started to function a little more effectively in terms of earning a living in a way that suits me and will hopefuly be sustainable into the medium and longer term.

I too am having marital difficulties and going for an assessment for AS is part of an effort to resolve that. I mean, before making any decisions to end the marriage or do anything drastic, my wife and I are both trying 'everything' we can because neither of us would want the relationship to be over without the knowledge that we had tried 'everything' we could. We also have children, so it is not easy for us to take this lightly.

It's possible that our marriage ending offers a good way forward for both of us, so while it would be a mega deal, it is, in principle, on the table as a positive option going forward.

Hello. Interesting name

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welcome to wp!!

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