Hello!
Welcome to Wrong Planet. I am happy for you, that you have a loving, caring man in your life who is willing to help you work through your issues. Does he also have AS?
I served in Germany in the US Air Force (1985-87), and would go to Amsterdam often, if for no other reason than to be somewhere where Americans are still held in as high regard as they are in the Netherlands. We were all too happy to help you folks out in WW2, and to keep the Russians from doing what they would have done to you, had they won the Cold War - well, at least some of us are, anyway!
I 'discovered' the Netherlands by helping out a woman who had broken down on the autobahn in Bavaria, on my way to Italy for a school. She invited me to visit her in Eindhoven, and after that,
I fell in love with the place. It was about 400 miles (or roughly 650 km) away, but when you can drive 100mph/160kph, it was only a 4-hour drive.
May you find the answers you seek here.
Rob
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Your Aspie score: 151 of 200
Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 57 of 200
You are very likely an Aspie - An Aspie with a PURPOSE!